Partner never uses my name, is this weird

LandyAndy

maman wrote: »

My DH rarely calls me by my name unless he's talking about me to someone else. Such as 'Maman's not in at the moment, can I take a message?'. When he's talking to me it's usually Sweetie or some other term of endearment. When I speak to him I usually use one of the shortened forms of his name that his family use. It's my experience that people who are used to friends and family calling them Joe or Jenny think they're in trouble if you call them Joseph or Jennifer.:D


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How do you know that? Do you bug the house while you are out?

maman

LandyAndy wrote: »

How do you know that? Do you bug the house while you are out?

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:


Old work habits die hard. Have you never been 'in a meeting':D

onomatopoeia99

vodkafrog wrote: »

A slight shift yesterday has us in the position of my OH saying that he thinks that he started this behaviour as a way of punishing, or getting his own back me when we have had a disagreement or upset, bearing in mind this has now gone on for nearly two years now. In my eyes those arguments or tiffs happened, been resolved and forgotten, but clearly my OH has had a different view and not been able to communicate it in any other way. I am quite shocked, given that albeit I refer to 'arguments', we are not an explosive type of couple so these arguments are not something that in our relationship have never happened on a regular basis, nor as I can ever remember been over anything other that trivial things.

You know your partner better than any of us, are they a "quick to anger, quick to forgive and forget" type like you come across in the text I have highlighted, or are they more generally calm and it takes a lot to upset them?

If the latter they may have been more deeply hurt by one of these 'tiffs' than you realise but felt unable to express this to you for whatever reason, and you have ended up with this manifestation of that hurt - I don't agree with what he's been doing but it's a possibility.

Of course, if you're someone that always listens patiently, never judges, gives considered responses, is always calm and rational and never shouts or snaps then none of what I've said would be relevant and I can't explain it.

LandyAndy

maman wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:


Old work habits die hard. Have you never been 'in a meeting':D

Pretty much continually since 1978. :cool:

sue.b_2

I rarely use anybody's name and find the people who constantly use mine very annoying. I would use a name only if it would not be clear to whom I was speaking.

cathyg

My partner rarely uses my name, usually only when he really wants to get my attention about something. I rarely use his name either! There is only the two of us so if I am talking then I must be talking to him and vice versa!

POPPYOSCAR

I do not think my husband has ever called me by my name.

I would find it quite impersonal if he did.

Slinky

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I do not think my husband has ever called me by my name.

I would find it quite impersonal if he did.

So what did he call you when you got married?

Pollycat

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I do not think my husband has ever called me by my name.

I would find it quite impersonal if he did.

I'm confused by this.
How would it be impersonal if he used your name?

Unless he calls you Poppy bubbles bonbon or something...:rotfl:

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

He's now decided it was your fault that he does it?

Niiice.