Partner never uses my name, is this weird

McKneff

Ask him again and again and again

theoretica

I agree with the point that if you ask your partner to do something like use your name more often surely simple consideration would mean this was attempted.

However, I don't think I would be bothered by my name not being used.

welshbookworm

When I was I was with my last partner he never called me by my name,I never gave it much thought.
Then the midwife called to check on our first baby and asked for me by name and I was startled to hear him say 'she doesn't live here, I don't know who she is'
I had to shout though that it was me and had the embarrassment of hearing him admit he'd forgotten my name!
What the midwife thought I never found out but a very awkward situation to put it mildly.

System

Welshbookworm was your partner of little intelligence or What? Or were they drunk? How can it be possible someone rings asking for your other half and you don't understand it's for them.

Pollycat

frannyj543 wrote: »

Welshbookworm was your partner of little intelligence or What? Or were they drunk? How can it be possible someone rings asking for your other half and you don't understand it's for them.

I too think that's very bizarre.
How can you not know the name of somebody you live with and who has just given birth to your baby? :huh:

coffeehound

It's a bit like eye contact -- too little feels dismissive, too much feels creepy. OP's situation does sound unusual, as though there's some sort of mind-game going on.

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welshbookworm

He knew my nickname and never thought to listen when someone called me by my real name.
He wasn't stupid but he was a little 'otherworldly' sometimes.
How he managed to find me in the hospital after I'd the baby I'll never know.

Pollycat

welshbookworm wrote: »

He knew my nickname and never thought to listen when someone called me by my real name.
He wasn't stupid but he was a little 'otherworldly' sometimes.
How he managed to find me in the hospital after I'd the baby I'll never know.

How can you think 'not to listen' when someone calls your partner by their real name?

Robisere

I call my wife by her name in these situations:
*when I want something I know I am 50% likely not to get.
*when I know I have done something she will not like.
*when I didn't know I had done something she doesn't like, but was informed of the fact as an afterword.
*on the rare occasion I may just have something right, that will please her.
These occasions are when I adopt a wheedling tone in my voice.
Otherwise, it's "Tommy" "Thingy" or "my duck". None of those are her actual forename, I hasten to add.

Speaking as a mere male, vodkafrog, I don't think it means that your OH thinks any less of you by this. Looking at my above solutions, it could be worse, could it not? He is probably confused by your words about this.

sleepymans

We met via the internet.....both with nicknames......he only ever says ('nickname" I love you...its strangely disturbing me.......