Childless old people

Tabbytabitha

Pollycat wrote: »

<<SIGHS>>
I see you haven't got my point.

Don't concern yourself about what I might or might not feel about anything.
You don't know me.

As for my friend's Aunt, I'm just pleased she's enjoying life (whether you believe it or not) and so is my friend.

I get your point - if you're not happily married widowhood may be a happy release.

Tabbytabitha

Red-Squirrel wrote: »

I'm sorry for your loss.

I'm afraid I still find your suggestion that an 80 year old widow/widower may as well just die to be offensive, sorry.

Except I never made that suggestion . You said that a couple in their 80s were happily going off on a cruise together and I said that they might well feel differently if they were on their own.

The only person who mentioned suicide was you.

NeilCr

I guess one of the things about a long relationship when someone dies is how that relationship has functioned.

If you are a couple who have, usually, gone out together and have the same interests then the effect may be different than a couple with both joint and separate interests who have spent time both together and apart.

When I say the effect - I don't mean the effect on the surviving partner of the death but that it may be easier to "start up again" if you are more used to going out on your own. Perhaps, less of a gap?.

In a way a bit like a carer suddenly having a huge void when the person they are caring for passes away.

Hard to generalise, though, as everyone's relationship is unique.

Pollycat

tabbytabitha wrote: »

i get your point - if you're not happily married widowhood may be a happy release.

YAY! :t
Yes, some people might well feel like that.
And other people will feel exactly the opposite.

Red-Squirrel_2

Tabbytabitha wrote: »

Except I never made that suggestion . You said that a couple in their 80s were happily going off on a cruise together and I said that they might well feel differently if they were on their own.

The only person who mentioned suicide was you.

It was in response to you saying that you wouldn't want to live past 80 though, even if you were fit and well.

I think you just like an argument to be honest though, I've just remembered your username from other threads where you did too, so I'll leave it there.

(Oh and its not a cruise, they'd be bored to tears on a cruise I reckon!)

Tabbytabitha

NeilCr wrote: »

I guess one of the things about a long relationship when someone dies is how that relationship has functioned.

If you are a couple who have, usually, gone out together and have the same interests then the effect may be different than a couple with both joint and separate interests who have spent time both together and apart.

When I say the effect - I don't mean the effect on the surviving partner of the death but that it may be easier to "start up again" if you are more used to going out on your own. Perhaps, less of a gap?.

In a way a bit like a carer suddenly having a huge void when the person they are caring for passes away.

Hard to generalise, though, as everyone's relationship is unique.

Absolutely right. We were a very self contained, childless couple and I was his carer as well. I have no problem going out on my own, having done so for years, but I don't want a new life.
As you say, we're all different.

Tabbytabitha

Red-Squirrel wrote: »

It was in response to you saying that you wouldn't want to live past 80 though, even if you were fit and well.


(Oh and its not a cruise, they'd be bored to tears on a cruise I reckon!)

There's a big difference between not wanting to live beyond 80 and saying you'll top yourself when you reach it.