How would you feel?

Marvel1

calleyw wrote: »

Could be they don't trust their partner and been snooping.

Or someone mentioned in passing. Thinking that the op knew all about it.

Still want to know why the op is with her partner. She does not trust him.

I regularly go out with a bloke for lunch and coffee, paid for in turns. He is my ex husband. I keep an eye on him due to him being disabled. But from what some of the females have said on here. My partner must be mental for trusting me, as of course I jump in bed with my ex at ever opportunity I can

Yours

Calley x

But he is not a friend of a friend, that's the difference.

UKTigerlily

Fireflyaway wrote: »

I wouldn't be happy. Why would you go out with someone who you find attractive and on top of that keep it secret?
I might be old fashioned / insecure/ weird but I think that in most cases a man and woman wouldn't go out together unless there was some attraction from at least one of them. That doesn't mean the man sees woman as only an object or the woman is a sl@g. Its just biology. Men and women are supposed to be attracted to one another to keep the species alive.
How would he react if you had done the same?

Yes, but I do hope this doesn't mean i'm to find *every* male attractive?
I know many people with opposite sex friends, who meet up alone & don't do it for any reason other than they are friends
My friend was my PT, and he is a very very attractive guy as PT's so often are (darn all that training & eating well), but if he & I were single & he tried it on, he'd be an ex friend as I DO NOT FANCY HIM & see him like a Brother, the guy saved my life, he's a friend

I asked him about this as his gf has male workmates she meets with, much as he & I do (alone, pre arranged meal - the horror!) & he just laughed & said I must hide it well & that it doesn't worry him at all with his gf as he trusts her!

I think a lot of people lack trust (exception being candlelit romantic restaurants) but for Nando's/pub/TGI Fridays etc etc what's the issue?

Comms69

ska_lover wrote: »

fgs This thread is a mixture of the grown ups talking, then Comms69 in a corner jumping up and down begging attention

Mr Comms69 is completely innocent of any wrongdoing and is going to force it down everyones throat until you believe him,even if you dont ask or dont even care. It is a complete coincidence that he choses 69 as the number in his username btw. Hes innocent, innocent i tells ya

If you say so, sheriff!


Yes, no-one was born in 1969, ever. it was a totally barren year!


You can share opinions as long as you agree with Ska, otherwise better just keep quiet.

calleyw

cjdavies wrote: »

But he is not a friend of a friend, that's the difference.

Nope, he is someone that I have been in a long term relationship which means we have a history. And I can still see why I was attracted him.

So in some eyes makes it even worse.

I have asked the op why she is in relationship with this man. She does not trust him. But no answer. There are couple of other threads recently where it beggars belief why woman have stayed with these men. Let alone marry or have kids with them.

Personally would rather be single. And there are some on here who need to be single as they really should not be in a relationship as they don't trust there partners. And others who are single that should stay single.

Just because you find someone attractive or have a soft spot for them be it work colleague or your best mate's sibling does not mean you are going to act on it or do anything. Going out for a meal no matter who pays for it does not mean anything.

I can understand why some people never mention why they do stuff as their partner/spouse over reacts beyond reason. And some couples just don't seem to talk.


But each to there own.

Yours

Calley X

LandyAndy

Judi wrote: »

How did you find out he'd been out for dinner with another woman if he didnt mention it?

I very much doubt we will get a truthful answer to this. Or, indeed, any answer.

need_an_answer

LandyAndy wrote: »

I very much doubt we will get a truthful answer to this. Or, indeed, any answer.

TBH I don't expect the OP to come back and update the thread,but hopefully it has given her food for thought to think on.

I'm not sure that the issues didn't run a lot deeper than the initial question that was posed but in fairness how much information should anybody be expected to share on a public forum.

Insecurity often leads to resentment and jealousy which can then manifest itself many ways,add to this the potential that the husband already knows his wife has an "enquiring nature" and it is possible that he simply chose not to rock the boat any further by telling her that he dined out let alone with a female acquaintance.

Whichever way it goes I wish them well.

SuperPikachu

Comms69 wrote: »

If you say so, sheriff!

Yes, no-one was born in 1969, ever. it was a totally barren year!

You can share opinions as long as you agree with Ska, otherwise better just keep quiet.

You can disagree, but your post will get reported for bullying.

Comms69

SuperPikachu wrote: »

You can disagree, but your post will get reported for bullying.

Well perhaps. I haven't targeted anyone, simply responded.

AylesburyDuck

Comms69 wrote: »

Well perhaps. I haven't targeted anyone, simply responded.

I dont think she meant you, for once.

ska_lover

Comms69 wrote: »

If you say so, sheriff!


Yes, no-one was born in 1969, ever. it was a totally barren year!


You can share opinions as long as you agree with Ska, otherwise better just keep quiet.

Oh dear, serious sense of humour failure there. Taken the route to feign offence, oh what a barrel of larfs

Pass me the sherry Tarquin

If this is bullying there are some very thin skinned people about