How would you feel?

Marvel1

Friend is different.

Friend of a friend is weird, why do it?

debsue

I am answering questions. lol We have been together 9 years. I know he has no physical attraction towards me, that is why it hurts when he says someone is attractive and then I find out he has seen her

hazyjo

So it's not something you want then - a sexless marriage/no physical attraction? Does he know this? What has he done about it or what reason has he given? Do you actually talk about it?

calleyw

debsue wrote: »

I am answering questions. lol We have been together 9 years. I know he has no physical attraction towards me, that is why it hurts when he says someone is attractive and then I find out he has seen her

Why are you with him?

Yours

Calley

debsue

hazyjo wrote: »

So it's not something you want then - a sexless marriage/no physical attraction? Does he know this? What has he done about it or what reason has he given? Do you actually talk about it?

I didnt say it was sexless

BorisThomson

debsue wrote: »

I didnt say it was sexless

You're having sex with someone that doesn't fancy you, that chats up other women online?

svain

With the more info it would seem ominous to me ...... however, there are varying "dinners"??

Was it a coffee and sandwich type meeting during day?

A macdonalds or pizza type meeting?

or

a nice restaurant where making an effort is required?

I would be less concerned if its either of the first two scenarios .... third one would raise red flag to me

Seanymph

Sometimes you have to trust your instincts.

hazyjo

debsue wrote: »

I didnt say it was sexless

Which is why I used the oblique to indicate my interpretation but included your words.

So you have sex knowing if doesn't find you physically attractive? Does he tell you that? Could it be your own insecurities presuming that?

Marvel1

In another post the OP trusts their partner and most people are saying the bloke probably did something with the other bloke as he give out his phone number.

In this one the OP has doubts (as would I) for having dinner with a friend of a friend (not direct friend) and saying its probably nothing.

Am I missing obvious? (Apart from the bluelass, yellow something).