Renovations and Repayments II: New Year, New Start, New Diary.

wishingthemortgaheaway

AlexLK wrote: »

Ultimately, he is happy which is what matters... just need to keep telling myself that.

This this this this and this again!!!!

beanielou

Your DS is happy.
This is the thing.
Everything else is just secondary.

littlegreenparrot

"It's helping to know it's not just me. I suppose I don't need the job, in a way I wish I did as my mind wouldn't question my motives. Keep thinking what if my son thinks I'm choosing to be selfish."

I find this comment really interesting.

You do need the job, there is more to work than money. The job satisfaction, the motivation, self esteem, the new people and new things, mental health benefits, etc etc.

You are showing your son how to have a work life balance - this holiday you go to cousins, in 4 months you get big holiday away together. I don't think it is a bad thing for children to learn they are not the centre of the universe.

Besides, I bet he has a great time. I don't mean this disrespectfully - but we didn't want to hang out with our parents all through holidays, and we certainly didn't want improving educational activities!

AlexLK

wishingthemortgaheaway wrote: »

This this this this and this again!!!!

Thank you, wishing.

beanielou wrote: »

Your DS is happy.
This is the thing.
Everything else is just secondary.

Thank you, beanie.

littlegreenparrot wrote: »

"It's helping to know it's not just me. I suppose I don't need the job, in a way I wish I did as my mind wouldn't question my motives. Keep thinking what if my son thinks I'm choosing to be selfish."

I find this comment really interesting.

You do need the job, there is more to work than money. The job satisfaction, the motivation, self esteem, the new people and new things, mental health benefits, etc etc.

You are showing your son how to have a work life balance - this holiday you go to cousins, in 4 months you get big holiday away together. I don't think it is a bad thing for children to learn they are not the centre of the universe.

Besides, I bet he has a great time. I don't mean this disrespectfully - but we didn't want to hang out with our parents all through holidays, and we certainly didn't want improving educational activities!

Thank you, littlegreenparrot.

You are right about work. I suppose I consider those motives selfish. Ultimately, it is because I'm thinking about my well being.

I had not considered showing my son a work-life balance but that makes a lot of sense, thank you. I suppose my real concern is him growing up to think Mrs. K. and I only care about work and put it before him. My parents certainly did and thought sending me to an expensive school made up for that. He loves spending time at my cousin's and looks forward to the holidays from school. At least he's not counting down the days to return, so hopefully I'm doing something right.

AlexLK

First week of June, gone. :eek:

I'm really struggling to keep up with time. The days, weeks, months and years seem to go far too quickly at the moment and have since my mental outlook has improved. I want to slow things down but that doesn't seem to happen.

Also struggling to keep up with financial record keeping and sticking to a budget. Getting somewhere with the kitchen as we've enlisted a cabinet maker. Happens to be my ex-business partner and he's really looking forward to the project.

Mrs. K. has secured a promotion which is both good news for the day-to-day finances and also for her career. For the last few weeks she's been testing out the new role as she wasn't initially sure whether it was a route she wanted to follow. Now she's looking forward to starting properly. I still can't quite believe I've found what I want to do with my life, even more so that it was through Mrs. K. asking if I could help someone out. Have now signed up to another course :rotfl: and looking towards gaining professional membership over the next few years. Friend just married works in a different discipline but is a member of the same professional body and remembers me telling him it all sounded very easy compared to my LPC many years ago and now keeps reminding me. :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

PositiveBalance

How lovely, Alex - good news all round!


Glad to see things going well.


Remember. Master LK's education is about the out-of-school things as well as the at-school things: learning how to fit in work and play is a very important thing to learn.

AlexLK

Thank you, positive balance.

I think you're right about fitting in work and play. I've never quite been able to get the right balance in the past but moving towards it now, I think.

A good but tiring end to the week today. Went to a very interesting work project today, took my son to orchestra and whilst he was there my wife and I went for a drink. Few plans for the weekend but nothing major; need to relax I think. Planning to put a few things up for sale, though.

Suffolk_lass

If you get a chance Alex, check out the Rutland Ospreys as they are likely to fledge soon - some flapping of wings while they get ready

beanielou

Good news all round.

PositiveBalance

AlexLK wrote: »

Thank you, positive balance.

I think you're right about fitting in work and play. I've never quite been able to get the right balance in the past but moving towards it now, I think.

I'm still rubbish - let me know what your secret is when you have nailed it!

AlexLK wrote: »

A good but tiring end to the week today. Went to a very interesting work project today, took my son to orchestra and whilst he was there my wife and I went for a drink. Few plans for the weekend but nothing major; need to relax I think. Planning to put a few things up for sale, though.

Sounds great; Mrs LK spending time with Master LK, you having a relaxing drink and selling some things to pay for your lovely cabinets. Can't beat that for a start to the weekend, really.