Wife taking surname

haras_nosirrah

Someone I know changed his surname to his wifes. The reason was that she had a son from a previous relationship and therefore she wanted to have the same name as her son and this bloke sees his stepson as his son and so also opted to take that surname.

Torry_Quine

I took my husband's name and to be honest I never even considered not taking it. I can only think of one woman I know who uses her maiden name in a professional capacity and that includes young women recently married.

That said it's an individual choice

LittleVoice

I married in 1974 and had not intended to take his surname as far as profession or banking was concerned. However my new employer (I changed jobs at the time I married and moved to a new town) knew that I had married and whom and decided to pay me in his name. I therefore wrote to my bank to say that they would be receiving cheques for my account but in that name and that it was still for me.


The bank's response was to write to me saying they understood I was changing the name on my account and requesting an example of my new signature.


I did as they asked but didn't change my credit card accounts and, in fact, still have two accounts (one active savings account and one non-active current account) in my maiden name.


Back in 1974 you didn't have to provide ID to open a savings account and could use any name you wanted (as long as it was not done for fraudulent reasons).

robpw2

just checked the year and its nearly 2018 not 1950 your wife can choose whatever name she wants if you want unity why not adopt her name

maman

As an aside: For anyone that follows football, there seem to be a number of young British players coming through with double barrelled names.

I'm assuming it's because unmarried parents are becoming commonplace and they want to claim the relationship with both mum and dad.

In general terms anyone can call themselves anything provided there is no intention to defraud. My bank is happy to accept cheques, for example, in my married name although I don't use it. I've explained the situation and they put a note on my file

moneyistooshorttomention

LittleVoice wrote: »

I married in 1974 and had not intended to take his surname as far as profession or banking was concerned. However my new employer (I changed jobs at the time I married and moved to a new town) knew that I had married and whom and decided to pay me in his name. I therefore wrote to my bank to say that they would be receiving cheques for my account but in that name and that it was still for me.


The bank's response was to write to me saying they understood I was changing the name on my account and requesting an example of my new signature.


I did as they asked but didn't change my credit card accounts and, in fact, still have two accounts (one active savings account and one non-active current account) in my maiden name.


Back in 1974 you didn't have to provide ID to open a savings account and could use any name you wanted (as long as it was not done for fraudulent reasons).

Mind boggling at the thought of not telling the employer "what for" for trying to make your decision for you - and I'd have sent them a letter (copy kept) quick sharp saying that I was keeping my own name and was unable to access my own money under someone else's name and this wouldnt be accepted by me.

EDIT; Mind you my mind is still boggling that there are a few people (currently 5) in the poll that have voted for a wife "should" change her name to someone else's name (ie the husband). Should....should - !!!!! Feels like saying "Go on - own up those people....".

consumers_revenge

To be PC then probably you should read should as would expect them to want to

And why on earth do should and would need the L in it? But I digress....

System

consumers_revenge wrote: »

To be PC then probably you should read should as would expect them to want to

And why on earth do should and would need the L in it? But I digress....

We have a spelling system that hasn't been updated in centuries despite the change in pronunciation of words. My guess is that the L was pronounced at some point in the past.

74jax

I have both. Passport in New married name. Driving licence in my original name. So I can use whichever when I want.

phoebe1989seb

I'm slightly older than the OP and when DH and I married 29 years ago we decided to double-barrel our surnames, mainly because his name is not particularly nice, lol, - something he freely admits - rather than any other reason

Due to it sounding better, my surname comes first so it's 'my surname-his surname'. As many people struggle with the name (it is rather long), DH often tells people - for example when booking restaurant tables etc - that he is 'Mr my surname' and has no issues with doing so

DS has the double-barrelled surname and lives with his GF who has an equally lengthy - but not DB - surname. They have no plans to marry, but it has been discussed that if they did he would happily lose his surname entirely in favour of taking hers. It's obviously his choice, but it wouldn't bother us.