Wife taking surname

System

Personally i would have hated having a different surname to my children but thats just me.

svain

Nothing wrong with tradition, why are peopled so scared of it. Personally, if my late wife didnt take my name i would of stayed unmarried.

seven-day-weekend

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

I'm the generation older than OP (in my 60s now) and I've always known I would never change my surname and do wonder why some same age group friends changed theirs to their husbands one.

I liked my husband's name better than mine. However, we were going to double-barrel them, but they sounded ridiculous. So I had the name I liked best.

When I lived in Spain, everyone was amazed I had my husband's name. They don't do it there. Everyone has a double-barrelled name and that stays the same throughout your life. For example, using English names, Ms Smith-Brown marries Mr Jones-Green. They both keep those names, and their children are named Brown-Green. Hence, siblings have the same surname as each other, taking one surname from each of their parents.

annie_d

Hi,
I have been happily married for 17 years ( 2nd husband ) and i have kept my maiden name. I did this because otherwise I would have been Annie Crone and I just couldn't bear the thought of that.

Tabbytabitha

I've been divorced and widowed- still use the name I was born with and always have.

atolaas

My brother and his wife are in their 30's and got married last year. She chose to keep her last name rather than change it to my brother's. Her surname reflects her Spanish culture and ours is a very common British one. If they have children, then they will have my brother's last name.

fred246

I just ordered my wife to take my surname and she obeyed.

happyandcontented

I took his name as it was much nicer than mine, and a talking point as it is a famous historical surname. I did, however, insist that the marriage vows had the obey vow removed, and his mother has never understood nor forgiven me for it!

Mojisola

enjoyyourshoes wrote: »

The double barrelled surname bit, what happens when the children of the DB marry and take partners surname to be triple or quadruple? The the next generation, then next , exponential !

This specious argument often comes up in discussions on name changing after marriage.

There are plenty of countries round the world where it is tradition for couples to use both surnames after they marry - their kids drop one of the surnames when they marry - it's quite simple.

bouicca21

I never took the ex's surname but the children did. I'm pretty sure it really is a property/possession thing as the ex used to get really annoyed if, as occasionally happened, people addressed him as Mr Bouicca.