So surprised to be written out of my fathers will

Poor_Single_lady

Does your father think that you are looked after elsewhere, I mean are you wealthy or do you appear more wealthy than your sisters.
Do you have a stepdad who would provide for you or have you already received an inheritance.

£10,000 is a lot of money.

I wouldn't contest the will. If the girls grew up in the house and lived there with their mum they may view it as theirs. Is it worth falling out over. Maybe it is to you but unfortunately we don't have a right to inherit.

If your sisters are older than you were the parents separated before you were born.
I think there is a lot of context missing from your post.

If my dad had a child that was my half brother or sister I would want to know that person and have a good relationship but I would necessarily follow the logic that inheritance would be split equally against the wishes of the will.

svain

Keep_pedalling wrote: »

Little to lose financially perhaps, but a lot to lose with the relationship with his sisters and unless the OPs father resided in Scotland he has very little chance of wining.

If the relationship is good with the sisters the conversation needn't cause problems. The sisters might be as surprised as he is.

Poor_Single_lady wrote: »

Does your father think that you are looked after elsewhere, I mean are you wealthy or do you appear more wealthy than your sisters.
Do you have a stepdad who would provide for you or have you already received an inheritance.

£10,000 is a lot of money.

I wouldn't contest the will. If the girls grew up in the house and lived there with their mum they may view it as theirs. Is it worth falling out over. Maybe it is to you but unfortunately we don't have a right to inherit.

If your sisters are older than you were the parents separated before you were born.
I think there is a lot of context missing from your post.

If my dad had a child that was my half brother or sister I would want to know that person and have a good relationship but I would necessarily follow the logic that inheritance would be split equally against the wishes of the will.

It isnt a lot of money these days tbh and even less when put in context of the estate amount. I agree though, i also thinking there might be more to the story

troubleinparadise

svain wrote: »

i would challenge this .... on the basis you have little to lose .... not so much the money (but obviously a factor), but because you have been regarded as less important (not sure right word) than your siblings. What he has offered is no more than a token gesture and unless there was some kind of explanation it seems strange it such a difference between amounts. Depending on your relationship with sisters i would start with them and have an adult/civil conversation to see if they can shed any light.

Actually, challenging a Will is pretty expensive - opening figures quoted on this forum have been £30,000 - £40,000; so unless you have a very strong case you do have a lot to lose.

Being “regarded as less important” won’t carry much weight as the basis for an appeal.

hollydays

When my children’s father was dying he made a will and only left them a relatively small sum of money.
We will never know why ,he loved them dearly, and it caused one of my children a lot of pain but ultimately its done and as one of my kids was very troubled at the time it may have been that he thought leaving her money might be spent unwisely .
Don’t let it eat into you. It’s just money but expect to be shocked as your siblings will not share this.

Pollycat

svain wrote: »

i would challenge this .... on the basis you have little to lose .... not so much the money (but obviously a factor), but because you have been regarded as less important (not sure right word) than your siblings. What he has offered is no more than a token gesture and unless there was some kind of explanation it seems strange it such a difference between amounts. Depending on your relationship with sisters i would start with them and have an adult/civil conversation to see if they can shed any light.

troubleinparadise wrote: »

Actually, challenging a Will is pretty expensive - opening figures quoted on this forum have been £30,000 - £40,000; so unless you have a very strong case you do have a lot to lose.

Being “regarded as less important” won’t carry much weight as the basis for an appeal.

Indeed.

I think the OP would probably have got different advice if he had posted on the Deaths, funerals & probate board.

paddy's_mum

In situations such as this, I sometimes wonder if the explanation is quite simply that the will maker did not like the 'dispossessed' potential heir.

getmore4less

Since this does appear to have been thought about it would not surprise me if the solicitor that drew up the will has a letter to explain the reasoning behind the distribution in case any dispute arose.

That may be something you want to consider asking about.
Caveat : you may not like what you find out.

it is quite easy to read things into what you have posted but I have decided that would be unfair to speculate with the limited context available.

What I will add.
If you are close to your sister(s) then consider that(those) relationships carefully.

lewishardwick

I wonder if it's possible your father thought the house wasn't worth a significant amount?

Are all you and your siblings from the same biological mother?

He probably had a reason for it. No matter how hard it is to accept. £10k is a good sum of money.

Tabbytabitha

hollydays wrote: »

When my children’s father was dying he made a will and only left them a relatively small sum of money.
We will never know why ,he loved them dearly, and it caused one of my children a lot of pain but ultimately its done and as one of my kids was very troubled at the time it may have been that he thought leaving her money might be spent unwisely .
Don’t let it eat into you. It’s just money but expect to be shocked as your siblings will not share this.

As the OP does seem to have had a lot of financial problems in the past, I did wonder whether the question of using the money wisely might be the cause of the decision.

Pollycat

getmore4less wrote: »

What I will add.
If you are close to your sister(s) then consider that(those) relationships carefully.

I think the major beneficiaries (the OP's 3 sisters) are already considering the relationship:

mrcjevans wrote: »

I would be so very shocked if the girls don't turn around and share it equally but do I have any options if they don't? As they are already doing things I did not expect. The funeral was recent and only then did I find out they already put the house up for sale without asking me, his only son and the only one to have taken his name

Thanks

Chris

I think there's more to this than is being posted.