So surprised to be written out of my fathers will

Keep_pedalling

If you are in Scotland then you can’t be written out of his heritable estate (any property or land) if elsewhere in the UK your only hope would be for your sisters to agree to a deed of variation.

barbiedoll

But you haven’t been written out of your father’s will, you have been left a sizeable sum of money.

Reading between the lines, it seems as though he lived with, and brought up, your sisters, whereas you were someone that he didn’t really have much of a relationship with until later in life. I assume that his house was shared with your sisters’ mother, and he may well have felt that you aren’t “entitled” to a full share as it was never your family home. Unfair, I guess, but ultimately it was his choice to write his will as such.

You could possibly contest the will, but you would spend a good portion (if not all) of your inheritance, you would almost definitely alienate your sisters and you could end up with even less than you have now.

Be gracious, not grasping, and hopefully your family will do right by you. You have thousands of pounds that you didn’t have before, so mourn your father, and be grateful that you had a chance to get to know him.

mrcjevans

Red-Squirrel wrote: »

Did your sisters grow up with him and have a different relationship?

Not particularly no, as I said my eldest sister which I am super close to was crying and was like 'I didn't know'.

Diamandis

I wouldn't be expecting anything from the sisters. It would be nice if they gave you something but don't let it affect your relationship with them.

I would respect your dad's wishes, I know it will hurt a bit but at least he thought to leave you something.

Anoneemoose

Not sure of the legalities, but it does seem that it was thought through on your Dad's part. If he hadn't left you anything, you could possibly think it was overlooked, but the fact he left you something seems as though it was intentional.

It must be hurtful to feel like you've been treated differently from your siblings. I am estranged from my biological father because he is very selfish and our relationship was one sided too. I am lucky to have a wonderful 'dad', but I do sometimes wonder 'why' my biological father was the way he was. As a parent, I can't understand it either.

I wouldn't challenge things, I don't think. If your sisters offer something then that's different, but to place pressure on the situation may cause a permanent problem in future.

Sorry for your loss.

mrcjevans

Anoneemoose wrote: »

Not sure of the legalities, but it does seem that it was thought through on your Dad's part. If he hadn't left you anything, you could possibly think it was overlooked, but the fact he left you something seems as though it was intentional.

It must be hurtful to feel like you've been treated differently from your siblings. I am estranged from my biological father because he is very selfish and our relationship was one sided too. I am lucky to have a wonderful 'dad', but I do sometimes wonder 'why' my biological father was the way he was. As a parent, I can't understand it either.

I wouldn't challenge things, I don't think. If your sisters offer something then that's different, but to place pressure on the situation may cause a permanent problem in future.

Sorry for your loss.

I think I agree with this summary, it hurts because as far as I knew he thought of us all the same. He saw us all the same amount though he saw my sisters slightly earlier due to them being older, he would show off to people saying that's my boy and complain to me about the girls but who knows what he really thought.

I guess I can't understand how as a man you can sit down when you think about the end and think about the people you should be looking out for and treat anyone differently. It is so easy to read what I wrote and assume differently though.

chesky

All in all, your father doesn't sound a very nice man. I couldn't treat my kids so differently in that manner.

pinkshoes

£10,000???? Wooo hooo! Accept it gracefully and enjoy it!

Perhaps he felt you didn't need his financial support? Perhaps he had confidence you would succeed without it?

There is far more to life than money.

svain

i would challenge this .... on the basis you have little to lose .... not so much the money (but obviously a factor), but because you have been regarded as less important (not sure right word) than your siblings. What he has offered is no more than a token gesture and unless there was some kind of explanation it seems strange it such a difference between amounts. Depending on your relationship with sisters i would start with them and have an adult/civil conversation to see if they can shed any light.

Keep_pedalling

svain wrote: »

i would challenge this .... on the basis you have little to lose .... not so much the money (but obviously a factor), but because you have been regarded as less important (not sure right word) than your siblings. What he has offered is no more than a token gesture and unless there was some kind of explanation it seems strange it such a difference between amounts. Depending on your relationship with sisters i would start with them and have an adult/civil conversation to see if they can shed any light.

Little to lose financially perhaps, but a lot to lose with the relationship with his sisters and unless the OPs father resided in Scotland he has very little chance of wining.