Can you make someone else lose weight?

determined_new_ms

I have to agree with gettingtheresometime losing weight is simply a process of burning more calories than you consume. Often, though, for a lot of people that does mean a big change in eating habits. If you are eating a lot of processed foods then there are a lot of fat, sugar & salt in them.

Op this is hard because I don't think you can make someone lose weight. I know for myself often over eating is really masking feelings I'm uncomfortable with about myself and my life.

Incidentally a very active sex life is a great form of exercise for you both....

paddyandstumpy

Another vote for Slimming World.

I was going (I'm a man) with my OH and we've both lost over 2 stone each.

We've stopped going to the weekly weigh in now as it was costing a combined £10 per week just for the weigh in, the group was too much of a mothers meeting for either of us to stay and listen.

Bought some scales of Amazon and continued the principles, I'm down a further 4lb in the 2 weeks since we've stopped group.

I've never stuck to diets in the past, what I like about this one is having a 'bad day' (i.e a night out or a Friday takeaway) isn't too punishing as long as you offset it elsewhere in the week.

It's more of a lifestyle change than a diet, I'm a particular fan of eating as much lean meat and veg as you can stomach!

Gloomendoom

pinkshoes wrote: »

That is a myth!

The cheapest food is home cooked - you can make a cottage pie far cheaper than junk!

I’ve got to agree with this. Make the effort to make time to make it yourself and very healthy can equal very cheap.

Kayalana99

Well just two cents after 3 pages worth at 23 stone the best option he really needs to do is just cut back. I'm currently 12 stone so imgaine wearing a body suit with an extra 11 stone attached?

He will be burning a huge amount of kcal just going about his everyday life so if he does decide to lose weight, don't try and make him take big steps. I'd focus on finding fufilling meals and cutting out junk rather then trying to get him doing anything extra phyiscally. All he needs to do is eat less kcal on a daily basis, maybe let him have that big meal but add more veg and try not to snack inbetween meals etc.

Pollycat

It might help if you say what sort of things you cook for your OH (unless he does the cooking).
Perhaps you can tweak a few things to make the meal more healthy e.g. skin off the chicken, one less potato and more vegetables. One slice of bread less.
Do you have lots of cake, biscuits and crisps in the house?
Do you buy the 'light' version of foods?

I too think Slimming World may be the answer.
Have you considered it?
I know from another thread that you say you are overweight yourself.
Even if you can't face the group sessions, can you do it yourself?
I found it pretty easy to follow (although I did use my sister's green and red books for sin counting) when I lost weight almost 15 years ago.
I found it easy to adapt my usual recipes to a more healthy version.

You say:

dandy-candy wrote: »

We have 3 adult kids who have mentioned over the years how they want him to take care of himself.

Your OH clearly isn't taking care of himself though.
Is it worth one of them mentioning their concern that he might die early like their Grandma?
Some posters may see that as emotional blackmail and I guess it is, but if it shocks him into doing something about his weight, I'd say it was worth it.

GwylimT

MothballsWallet wrote: »

In this country:

Junk/processed food = cheap
Healthy food = expensive

Why aren't all these nutritionists and health advisors do something about that as well?

That really isn't true, when in the UK the only processed food we bought was tomato puree. We fed a family of four (with two coeliacs) for around £40 per month. This included breakfast, lunch/packup and our evening meal and we always got our five a day.

Eating processed foods is much more expensive.

FBaby

Eating too much food = expensive, eating 1800-2000 calories a day= cheap.

The main reason why families spend a lot on food, whether healthy or processed is that they eat too much quantities. If you think that breakfast could be a bowl of porridge, lunch a sandwich (ideally with brown bread), a couscous salad (very cheap if made yourself, apple and banana, and dinner is a casserole and a yogurt, no soft drinks, no alcohol, then that is going to be cheap. Eat twice that amount and you pay twice!

motorguy

cjdavies wrote: »

If he is happy leave him to it, he is enjoying his life.

Is he? Where did the OP quote that?

Repeated attacks of gout and high colestorol dont sound like much fun and at 23st neither will performing the simplest of activities or finding clothes that fit.

I would say hes also likely to have back problems and knee and hip problems and unless he really doesnt care about life i am sure its a worry for him that he could simply drop dead some day soon, given theres family history for it.

Very few morbidly obese people are happy with their weight.

motorguy

iammumtoone wrote: »

^^ is a big problem. I think a while back there was talk about banning BOGOFs etc on sugar laden foods. But the answer is not to put the price up on junk food but to reduce the price of heathly food or at least do one in conjunction with the other.

+1

We always comment that in any of the local supermarkets / filling stations we use the "offers" (usually for £1) stacked around the area that you queue are always for buns, cakes, chocolate biscuits and other sugar laden products.

Pollycat

FBaby wrote: »

Eating too much food = expensive, eating 1800-2000 calories a day= cheap.

The main reason why families spend a lot on food, whether healthy or processed is that they eat too much quantities. If you think that breakfast could be a bowl of porridge, lunch a sandwich (ideally with brown bread), a couscous salad (very cheap if made yourself, apple and banana, and dinner is a casserole and a yogurt, no soft drinks, no alcohol, then that is going to be cheap. Eat twice that amount and you pay twice!

Yes.
And also a lot of people don't meal plan or do shopping lists.
They just go round the supermarket dumping 'the usual' food in regardless of whether what they bought the previous week has been eaten or not.
I think that's actually the main reason why families spend a lot on food.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/av/uk-41973919/what-s-causing-britain-s-food-waste
10 million tonnes of food a year is thrown out. :eek: