Can you make someone else lose weight?

Tabbytabitha

Why does everybody seem to assume that it's the OP who buys and cooks all the food? What century are we in?

FreddieFrugal

cjdavies wrote: »

You are at risk everyday e.g. car accident and dead (don't mean to be so blunt but it's true, enjoy life) - "stay at home dear, you have a family to think about".

That's not a good comparison to this situation really is it?

There are risks - such as overeating or poor nutrition - that you can have control over.

If someone wants to enjoy food (I know I do!) then you can do that without having to eat unhealthily.

isplumm

KentishLady wrote: »

Slimming world was the answer for my husband. He has lost a stone so far and is managing to (mostly) stick to it. I think reasons it is working are a) we are going together and the whole house is eating slimming world friendly main meals, b) the weekly weigh in motivates him to try and choose healthier options and c) there is no restriction on free foods so long as you are eating a balanced meal.

I cook syn free main meals and lunches leaving him to choose his syns for treats apart from takeaway Friday when we sometimes have a kfc ricebox.

It's the only diet he has stuck to for any length of time.

KL

Hi,

I have been on SW since June 2017 - have lost 4 stone so far - so it works for me - my only issue is before I started being a bloke, I didn't want to get weighed in front of a bunch of women - but actually group is very friendly!

Get him to go to SW - go as well - make it a competition - stick eith it.

Mark

Pollycat

Tabbytabitha wrote: »

Why does everybody seem to assume that it's the OP who buys and cooks all the food? What century are we in?

I didn't assume that.

maisie_cat

atolaas wrote: »

In short, you can't force him to lose weight. He can ask to be referred to SWMS - Specialist Weight Management Service through his GP. They can help him explore the psychological and emotional reasons for his eating. I'm about the same weight as your husband and nearly 15 years younger, my health is suffering too. After a year under the care of SWMS, I've come to the conclusion that gastric surgery is the way forward for me. It isn't the only option available under the service - there are psychologists, nutritionists and other health care professionals who are able advise the best course of action. It's tailored to the individual's needs. Help is available, but he needs to WANT to change. I know how demoralizing dieting can be - lose 2 stone then gain 3 back! HTH.

The NHS are only interested in people they perceive as costing them. I am clinically obese but have been to a Dr since 2012, so I do not count as a person needing help

MothballsWallet

In this country:

Junk/processed food = cheap
Healthy food = expensive

Why aren't all these nutritionists and health advisors do something about that as well?

iammumtoone

Tabbytabitha wrote: »

Why does everybody seem to assume that it's the OP who buys and cooks all the food? What century are we in?

Where does everyone assume that. I think in my post I asked if the OP cooked.

If they don't then perhaps they should suggest it, they asked for sugestions on how to make their OH lose weight taking over the cooking is a way to assist with this.

iammumtoone

MothballsWallet wrote: »

In this country:

Junk/processed food = cheap
Healthy food = expensive

^^ is a big problem. I think a while back there was talk about banning BOGOFs etc on sugar laden foods. But the answer is not to put the price up on junk food but to reduce the price of heathly food or at least do one in conjunction with the other.

clairec79

you can't

but you can help or make it worse

For example the 'bad' stuff not having it in the house (you could always frame as YOU wanting to eat better and you don't want it there to be tempted - of course this could backfire and he could 'help' you by eating the multipack of crisps he just brought to prevent you from eating them)

Start a new hobby together which involves exercise that you both may enjoy - maybe suggest you both take ballroom dancing lessons, or start geocaching (lots of walking potential) something which has the side effect of exercising without it being the point and something fun for you both

Get a dog (as long as you both would like one and it's a lifelong commitment - or offer to dogsit for a friend's dog while they are on holiday) gives him a reason to go out for walks to exercise the dog rather than exercising him

Talk about new years resolutions or challenges, but don't make it about the weight - this could be eating out less / cooking from scratch more / eating more salad / drinking less alcohol. Trying a new activity every week/month (and if some of them involve exercise then thats just a coincidence) There's a walk 1000 miles in a year challenge for example

pinkshoes

MothballsWallet wrote: »

In this country:

Junk/processed food = cheap
Healthy food = expensive

Why aren't all these nutritionists and health advisors do something about that as well?

That is a myth!

The cheapest food is home cooked - you can make a cottage pie far cheaper than junk!

SOME healthy foods are expensive, but have you seen the price of a dominos pizza???

OP, why not take up a physical activity with your OH? Make sure there is no junk food in the house?

Personally I think he is being selfish. He has a responsibility to his wife and kids yet is eating himself to a heart attack.