Am I being silly to be upset over this?

goldlemontree

Yesterday while getting into shower i slipped and almost fell, hurting my elbows on the tiles behind as I steadied myself. I was a little shaken as I couldn't help thinking I could have easily fallen fully and hurt my neck/back/head and seriously injured myself. Thankfully i didn't, but asked my boyfriend if we could get a shower mat as I would feel safer about getting in and out of shower. He said he didn't want one as they were unhygienic even after I explained that I almost fell and it had left me a little shaken. He still said no. He knew I was upset and didn't change his mind.

I didn't speak to him all night because I couldn't believe that he wouldn't let me get one even if he didn't like the idea, but because it would make me feel safer!

rach_k

You're both being silly. It's silly not to speak to somebody all night over a shower mat. He's giving a silly reason not to have something that would make you feel safe.

Don't ask him, just get a shower mat with some drainage holes in it. Also get yourself a suction cup hook or similar to hang it on the wall between uses, so it dries out fully and won't be unhygienic. Remember to clean it when you clean the shower. TBH, I don't really know why you would ask if you can get one anyway. If you feel it's needed for safety, just get one! If it's his house and you're just a guest sometimes, either don't shower there or bring your own mat each time :rotfl:

starting_again_in_the_sun

Can't he just move the mat if he doesn't want to use it?

It shouldn't be an issue!

gettingtheresometime

I'm going to get splinters as I'm on the fence with this one.


Yes I can see your boyfriend's pov but I can also appreciate your pov as well.


the only suggestion I can come up with is you get a shower mat & use it when you use the shower if you feel you need it and then remove it afterwards.

Comms69

starting_again_in_the_sun wrote: »

Can't he just move the mat if he doesn't want to use it?

It shouldn't be an issue!

Or she remove it after use? But yes seems very petty all round

fairy_lights

If you want a shower mat, get a shower mat. Arguing over it is ridiculous.

System

I'm a bath type of gal but when i go away and have to use a shower i stand on a towel. Ok the towel is sopping wet by the time ive showered but at least i dont slip.

goldlemontree

Wow...just to clarify, it's not the mat itself I'm upset about, but that he wouldn't budge on it even after he could see I was upset and wanted to feel safer because of his own personal dislike for them.

heatherw_01

You can get stickers to put in the bath/shower to stop you slipping.

I can see both sides tbh, I think the mats are unhygienic too but you want to feel safer which makes sense. Maybe try the stickers? He might be ok with that?

enjoyyourshoes

Have you got a bath?

starting_again_in_the_sun

goldlemontree wrote: »

Wow...just to clarify, it's not the mat itself I'm upset about, but that he wouldn't budge on it even after he could see I was upset and wanted to feel safer because of his own personal dislike for them.

Does he often refuse to compromise?

Seriously, if this is a one off, just buy the mat and move on.

If there are other reasons you are unhappy, talk to him.