Am I wrong to think this way?

Red-Squirrel_2

Ames wrote: »

Do you mean used rather than sued?

Sorry yes, autocorrect there.

I’ve just posted a link to an organisation that supports adults with learning disabilities, they have information on financial abuse by family members which is apparently quite common.

AdamPD

Red-Squirrel wrote: »

Sorry yes, autocorrect there.

I’ve just posted a link to an organisation that supports adults with learning disabilities, they have information on financial abuse by family members which is apparently quite common.

I did wonder heh.
Thanks for the links.
I know he's done it in the past when his brother (my uncle) lived here, so I know he will have no problem doing it to me.
I'm going to go through all the online accounts tomorrow and workout exactly whats gone out and come in.

McKneff

If he is pocketing lodger rent and not declaring it, he is committing benefit fraud ie pension credit.

Sarastro

The £200 is to help him, as a pensioner, pay his bills...not yours.
He seems quite happy to take the money though without necessarily paying tax if he owed any.

chesky

svain wrote: »

Good grief .... all over £200 .... Its hardly worth raising the issue, let alone going separate ways

You're very lucky, obviously. £200 is a lot of money to some people.

svain

chesky wrote: »

You're very lucky, obviously. £200 is a lot of money to some people.

Technically its £100 ... less than £10 a month ... Not a lot of money in the circumstances described the original post ... especially as its his elderly father.

Ames

svain wrote: »

Technically its £100 ... less than £10 a month ... Not a lot of money in the circumstances described the original post ... especially as its his elderly father.

I think it depends how much extra heating costs the father causes - someone further up pointed out that if he's at home alone all day with the heating on then he should be paying a higher proportion of the bill.

And the OP has no evidence that the bills are being split equally, let alone fairly. Of course, what's 'fair' depends on a multitude of factors, as we see everytime the subject comes up in relation to new partners living together.

SamSam17

I have to say you’re in the wrong.
It’s your father who is old aged pensioner. You should be going out of your way to help instead of trying to get money he’s entitled to off him.

AdamPD

SamSam17 wrote: »

I have to say you’re in the wrong.
It’s your father who is old aged pensioner. You should be going out of your way to help instead of trying to get money he’s entitled to off him.

Already covered in the rest of the thread and I said, twice now, I agree
The issue right now is what to do about the money I suspect he's pocketing himself from the lodgers income rather than splitting the excess half each, or paying down the mortgage (which is what we agreed to)
And, what the liabilities are for myself given that he's refusing to pay tax on the income from said lodgers.

barbarawright

Why are you charging your lodger extra for having a guest? Is he paying full board and you are also feeding the girlfriend?