Am I wrong to think this way?

AdamPD

A long story short, I live with my father, we co own the house we live in, so we share the mortgage and bills 50/50.

We have lodgers in our home, unfortunately to help with the mortgage and bills

My dad gets pension credit, so every year when it's cold, he gets £200 towards the cost of heating our home, which should mean, in my eyes, £200 off the cost of our mutually split gas/electric

My dad doesn't seem to think so, he says it's his benefit to spend on what he wants, thus, he does so and doesn't discount the monthly split bill when it's due.

I only found this out recently when I saw one of the letters on the kitchen counter and it's been going on for about 5-6 years now, so I can only assume I've been paying more towards the bills and mortgage for each year he is entitled to help towards the bills.

Am I wrong to think the way I do? I don't know, I'm starting to wonder now how many other times he's taken money that doesn't belongs to us both.

Sometimes our lodger has his girlfriend over for instance and we charge extra for each night she stays, yet I never see any change in the bills I pay each month.

AdamPD

That was my argument as well, I said it was towards household bills, not your own benefit.

He then claimed he kept it because he was losing £3.50 of pension credit a week because he was claiming support for mortgage interest.

There's always an excuse when it comes to my dad, usually a lie mixed in with it to boot.

We have a £500ish overpayment on our previous providers electric/gas bill right now and I'm wondering where that will disappear to when he gets it refunded.

pinkshoes

Let him keep his money, but do not let him turn the heating up any more than YOU normally would!

The money is to benefit him, not you.

midnightraven3

"which should mean, in my eyes, £200 off the cost of our mutually split gas/electric"

why?
He still pays his half of the bills
He uses the £200 towards his HALF
and that means the money he usually sets aside is more pocket money/savings for him

He is entitled to the heating money, for him

lika_86

Surely it should go to the additional cost of heating the home that you wouldn't have if he wasn't there?

So if you would only heat the house in the morning, evening and weekends because that's when you're not at work but he's in in the day then the payment should be to the extra cost for fuel in the day.

Red-Squirrel_2

AdamPD wrote: »

There's always an excuse when it comes to my dad, usually a lie mixed in with it to boot.

Time to move on I reckon, he won’t let you go without a fight though.

AdamPD

Thanks all, I appreciate the feedback.

I think it is time to move on, if he doesn't want to sell then I'll probably move out and rent somewhere.

Moogles44

I am on his side I’m afraid. It’s pension credit so for older people , so in my mind for ‘his’ gas payments which if being picky is money he has to pay for gas as he is on limited income probably in governments eyes.

Sorry to disagree. But I agree with him.
I know you probably haven’t , but money is an awful thing to fall out with family over so try not to if you can as he may not be here forever and it’s just money at the end of the day x

Edit - I do think the extra money from lodgers girlfriend should come off mortgage payments equally though if you are both paying that

JayJay100

Is the 50/50 split a fair one? Who brings the most income in per year?

sleepymans

Simples....share the benefit..£100 each less for each of you

Red-Squirrel_2

AdamPD wrote: »

Thanks all, I appreciate the feedback.

I think it is time to move on, if he doesn't want to sell then I'll probably move out and rent somewhere.

You should get some legal advice, you will still be liable for the mortgage if you move out, you might have to force a sale.