Not allowed on hen/stag parties.

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They could have said those things rather than being on the receiving end though

(Sorry, I am being suspicious of everything and its dog today haha...)

HBS x

Pollycat

heartbreak_star wrote: »

They could have said those things rather than being on the receiving end though

(Sorry, I am being suspicious of everything and its dog today haha...)

HBS x

Quite a lot of detail here that suggests it's not the OP who's 'doing the stopping':

frannyj543 wrote: »

OP here.

I have never been in the situation before. I have been in my home town which is in a different area and yes lots of drink was taking, I spent only my own money however I did fall and cut my head. Nothing serious.

My girlfriend knows I'm the last one leaving the bar with my mates. So knows I'd stay out all night it possible. It's not because I'm looking anyone else it's just because as I seldom go out when I do I go to town.
I would be using my own money, there's no children involved, we are both still young (under 30). But the problem is trust. I dont think she thinks when sober I would do anything but i think she thinks when I'm drunk and in the compmay of my friends who she doesn't really like I may do something.

It isnt something that will happen in next 6-12 months but it was just when we had the discussion she was like no chance. Letting you go to Benidorm or Prague with your mates for 3 days none stop drinking and God knows what else.

It's down to trust and although there's never been an issue with other people or texts or nothing there's still that potential that shes afraid off.

We work in same place, live together and generally socialise together so there isn't ample opportunities if I wanted to do something not that I do. I just want to celebrate an event and go and blow of some steam with my mates in general that I only see once or twice a year.

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Brilliant, thanks Pollycat

HBS x

steph2901

I would go, as long is it was something I could afford to do.

I wouldn't let anyone control me (been there in the past with someone who thought it was ok for him to do as he pleased, but I got the silent treatment or 1000 questions on the rare occasion I went out with friends).

If there's no trust, then what's the point in being together?

Loft_Boy

I've been on loads of stag dos and my wife has been on loads of hen do's. It's a chance for you to go away with your mates have a few beers and a laugh

We now have 2 young children and in the last year I've turned down 3 stag do's basically on price Iceland, Hamburg and Spain. Essentially I am the one earning in our house as my wife stays at home but we couldn't really afford much of a holiday so these trips were a no go straight away but I did the 'local ones'.

Never had a problem with my missus having her hen do ( butler in the buff) or her going on others.

Equally she's never stopped me as she knows ill get drunk and talk nonsense.

If a partner told me I couldn't go because they didn't trust me as opposed to " we maybe cant afford this" it would ring alarm bells for me