Not allowed on hen/stag parties.

mikeeboy

Not an uncommon situation this.

Some women/men will be chilled about it - 'Have a nice time'.

Others will be like a raging bull - 'No fkin way'

Everyone's different, that's just the way it is.

pearl123

Comms69 wrote: »

Wow, that's quite extreme.

Not so extreme, as it eventually go back to me what my partner and others got up to on a stag do!
This happened twice! The groom was also dumped.

Comms69

pearl123 wrote: »

Not so extreme, as it eventually go back to me what my partner and others got up to on a stag do!
This happened twice! The groom was also dumped.

Same partner?


Anyway that's by the by, I've been on plenty of stag dos where people have done some incredibly stupid things, and where I didn't go I heard some stuff, including the groom visiting a lady of ill repute. Don't condone it, but certainly wouldn't appreciate being judged on the actions of others.


TBH from what I remember, which is very little, 90% of it was spent drinking, 9% eating and 1% trying to talk afew mates out of doing something stupid.

Oakdene

Comms69 wrote: »

Same partner?


Anyway that's by the by, I've been on plenty of stag dos where people have done some incredibly stupid things, and where I didn't go I heard some stuff, including the groom visiting a lady of ill repute. Don't condone it, but certainly wouldn't appreciate being judged on the actions of others.


TBH from what I remember, which is very little, 90% of it was spent drinking, 9% eating and 1% trying to talk afew mates out of doing something stupid.

Way too much time eating :D:D

Comms69

Oakdene wrote: »

Way too much time eating :D:D

Eating is cheating! and all that bravado

Gavin83

frannyj543 wrote: »

OP here.

I have never been in the situation before. I have been in my home town which is in a different area and yes lots of drink was taking, I spent only my own money however I did fall and cut my head. Nothing serious.

My girlfriend knows I'm the last one leaving the bar with my mates. So knows I'd stay out all night it possible. It's not because I'm looking anyone else it's just because as I seldom go out when I do I go to town.

I would be using my own money, there's no children involved, we are both still young (under 30). But the problem is trust. I dont think she thinks when sober I would do anything but i think she thinks when I'm drunk and in the compmay of my friends who she doesn't really like I may do something.

It isnt something that will happen in next 6-12 months but it was just when we had the discussion she was like no chance. Letting you go to Benidorm or Prague with your mates for 3 days none stop drinking and God knows what else.

It's down to trust and although there's never been an issue with other people or texts or nothing there's still that potential that shes afraid off.

We work in same place, live together and generally socialise together so there isn't ample opportunities if I wanted to do something not that I do. I just want to celebrate an event and go and blow of some steam with my mates in general that I only see once or twice a year.

I so wish you'd kept this gender neutral.

Anyway girlfriend sounds like a nightmare that will only get worse as time goes on. It's very rare I recommend this but I'd suggest ending this relationship today. You'll regret it in the future if you don't.

NeilCr

maman wrote: »

I agree it's hypothetical but it's still not a reaction I'd be happy with from my partner. It signifies an attitude I wouldn't be comfortable with.

Yes. I agree with that.

I’d be having the conversation but I think saying he should dump her now is extreme. You’ve got to have a go at sorting it - especially, as there is nothing to indicate that there are problems with other parts of the relationship

seven-day-weekend

peachyprice wrote: »

But why? Why is it unacceptable for people in a couple to want to spend time apart with their own friends?

If someone is going to be unfaithful they'll do it at any opportunity, the most common place people cheat is in the workplace. Should couples not be allowed to go to work, just in case?

I just meant they might not be able to afford a week in Ibiza, or they may be needed at home.

It's certainly not unacceptable to do things separately.

fairy_lights

Comms69 wrote: »

Eating is cheating! and all that bravado

Time spent eating is a waste of time that could be spent drawing penises on the face of your friend who'd drunk too much too early and passed out on the pool table.
It's a crying shame that I'm not a bloke, it really is.

Pollycat

frannyj543 wrote: »

OP here.

I have never been in the situation before. I have been in my home town which is in a different area and yes lots of drink was taking, I spent only my own money however I did fall and cut my head. Nothing serious.

My girlfriend knows I'm the last one leaving the bar with my mates. So knows I'd stay out all night it possible. It's not because I'm looking anyone else it's just because as I seldom go out when I do I go to town.

I would be using my own money, there's no children involved, we are both still young (under 30). But the problem is trust. I dont think she thinks when sober I would do anything but i think she thinks when I'm drunk and in the compmay of my friends who she doesn't really like I may do something.

It isnt something that will happen in next 6-12 months but it was just when we had the discussion she was like no chance. Letting you go to Benidorm or Prague with your mates for 3 days none stop drinking and God knows what else.

It's down to trust and although there's never been an issue with other people or texts or nothing there's still that potential that shes afraid off.

We work in same place, live together and generally socialise together so there isn't ample opportunities if I wanted to do something not that I do. I just want to celebrate an event and go and blow of some steam with my mates in general that I only see once or twice a year.

So what was your response when she said 'no chance'?

Even if this isn't something that will happen in the next 12 months, it's still an issue that you will probably have to face at some point.