Met someone else......

molerat

twice divorced

I wonder why.
Selfish and deeply in love with no one but yourself I suspect.

Pollycat

Samuelsjourney wrote: »

Hi, a long term MSE follower and poster on a number of boards on this site. Posting under a new username for reasons that will become obvious. Just looking for some guidance or advice. Don't want to be "flamed" but understand some people will criticise/vent etc. using this forum as "most" posters give a balanced view/thoughts as I have tried to do when replying to requests for advice.

Given the content of this thread and the confession that the 'newbie' is a long term MSE follower and poster, does anyone else find the bit in bold hilarious?

POPPYOSCAR

Pollycat wrote: »

Given the content of this thread and the confession that the 'newbie' is a long term MSE follower and poster, does anyone else find the bit in bold hilarious?

IMO that is the whole point of this thread.

The Op is getting exactly what they wanted.

suejb2

To paraphrase Alice Cooper


"Schools out for Trolls"

Pollycat

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

IMO that is the whole point of this thread.

The Op is getting exactly what they wanted.

But they don't know which posts are made in earnest or tongue-in-cheek.

Lighten up!
It's fun! _party_

Seriously, you have to be a really sad individual to join a forum and post a totally ridiculous made-up dilemma/scenario just to troll so the OP must be for real.
Yes?

chesky

I always wonder when 'new' contributors inform us that they've taken a nom-de-plume, exactly which of our esteemed collaborators they are. Probably nobody who has contributed to the replies but just WHO?

Starrystarrynight1

When it all comes out, you might not get a choice of who to be with. I think you're likely to end up without either of them.

Have you jumped from relationship to relationship in the past? If so, maybe some time without a relationship will help you to figure out what you really want.

Loz01

Is this OP really pondering if he's had an affair lol, BUDDY, you've been sleeping with another woman whilst you're in a long term relationship with someone else. Thats cheating. Not only that, the new woman doesn't know about the other one. Hope they both leave him.

Fireflyaway

Not really sure what advice anyone can give you. You obviously have little self control. Sure leave your partner if you want, but what's going to happen in 10 years? You will be sexually bored with the new woman and the same thing will happen. You describe your partner in very warm terms so sounds to me its a sexual thing. In my humble opinion that's really sad and you have your priorities messed up.
My advice would be leave your partner, she deserves better than you. Then - get yourself a bachelor pad and have all the fun you can until you get to an age where you can't do it anymore. Then look back and remember all the fun you had as you grow old all by yourself.....

Primrose

Sorry to be blunt but you're in your late forties and twice divorced.

How long is it going to take to grow up and behave like an honourable man who takes his commitments seriously? You can't spend your whole life ditching partners when the initial magic wears off. Sooner or later, if you move in with this woman, your relationship will probably reach the same "comfortable but unexciting" stage that you are currently in with your existing partner.

So what are you going to do then? Try and find yet another exciting woman who will put up with you when you're balder, fatter and suffering from prostate problems ? Or will you ditch Partner No 4 because suddenly her hair is starting to grey or she's becoming menopausal and you want some more "excitement" in your life and your ego needs to be flattered ?

Stop trying to spend your whole life trying to have your cake and eat it.
Frankly you're cheating on both women and both of them deserve better.

I suggest you take a break from both of them while you seriously assess what makes you think you're entitled to go through life having it all when there are thousands of real men who are working their butts off to give their wives and families a decent life, sometimes under very difficult circumstances.