Met someone else......

Guest101

chesky wrote: »

I always wonder when 'new' contributors inform us that they've taken a nom-de-plume, exactly which of our esteemed collaborators they are. Probably nobody who has contributed to the replies but just WHO?

A clever troll would've thought of that...

chesky

Hah, you were on my list.

Not_Me_Officer

Looks like some are just taking the opportunity to have a bash and nothing else.

But anyway i read your post and it made me wonder ... when your long term partner was 'new' was she 'exciting'?

So what happens when you leave your long term partner for this new woman and after time she is no longer 'new' and 'exciting'? Do you hope to meet another?

If i was you i would knock this idea on the head. Whether you tell your long term partner or not is your decision but i think you should certainly end it with this 'new' woman.

Ash_Mc

If you only see your long term partner once a week you could probably make up an excuse (hobby, visiting family, work etc) to keep up that side of things. You'd be saving you and her the heartache of splitting up, and having your fun with your new bit o' stuff. Win-win.

Top_Girl

If you truly cared for either of these women, you wouldn't have allowed this situation to happen.

I understand meeting someone else when you're attached, but you should have been truthful and ended your LTR before going on a date with the new woman, let alone sleeping with her. It's not easy and people do get hurt, but it's fair to the parties involved if you're honest as soon as you know there's a situation to be honest about.

I hope they both bin you, because your behaviour warrants that.

Primrose

I notice the individual poster hasn't come back. Perhaps like those who go for counselling and don't like to face the issues they're being forced to confront, he's decided he'll do his own thing anyway.


I wonder if he's posed his dilemma (if it's a real one) to his adult children who have presumably had to live with the consequences one or two divorces, and who he may now be about to ask to adapt to yet another new set of relationships in their young adult lives.


I would say to you OP, think about the other people in your family relationships who yet again are possibly going to be affected by what you might be about to do. Of course another break up is going to affect them, especially if it means having to adapt to yet more people joining the family circle with whom they have nothing in common and no shared history. You don't seem to have given them any consideration at all. Are you really going to ignore the effects this is going to have on them? Think about all the awkward Christmas, birthday celebrations, future weddings perhaps where yet another set of comparative strangers with whom they may have nothing in common, you will presumably be expecting them accommodate.


I suspect if you opt for another split you'll start becoming a major source of despair and embarrassment for them.

wymondham

When I got to my mid-life crisis I restored an old Mini - you should try it, its a lot less hassle and much less expensive....

Guest101

chesky wrote: »

Hah, you were on my list.

me?! well I'm honoured you think I could come up with such a tale of woe and misfortune

chesky

Not really, too verbose.

Guest101

chesky wrote: »

Not really, too verbose.

oh behave!