Met someone else......

POPPYOSCAR

Primrose wrote: »

If our poster is genuine, I'm giving him 24 hours to make himself visible or I'm going to unsubscribe from the thread. I think most of the contributors who post on here do so with the intention of trying to be genuinely helpful or honest. I don't think we really want to deal with time wasters. That's not what this forum is about. I wonder if he's the sort of person who never bothers to send "thank you" messages to his friends and family either !

Of course it is not.

It was designed to get posters going and worked very well.

Primrose

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Of course it is not.

It was designed to get posters going and worked very well.

If this is the case its a pity as I was under the impression this forum was primarily designed to help people who required genuine information or support. If you just want to wind people up, why not go down the pub, and have a session with your mates but perhaps our poster has such a dull life this is how he gets his kicks.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Stunning, chatty, confident, hardworking women in their mid-late thirties don't tend to like being given sloppy seconds.

Unless they're actually in the market for men old enough to have a decent house, car and income to fund their move into a nice new house and perhaps fulfil their wish for one last baby before getting bored with the [strike]meal ticket[/strike] bloke that's approaching pensionable age and chucking them out in favour of somebody nearer their own age within a few years...

Samuelsjourney

Thanks for ALL the replies, some have been constructive most have been vitriolic.........As I said, it was an open request for advice........most posters felt compelled to vent which I understand, the more "grown up" intelligent posted some careful, thoughtful crafted advice. Yes I'm a genuine poster, and no it's not popcorn, it's real life, good and bad........

DUTR

Samuelsjourney wrote: »

Thanks for ALL the replies, some have been constructive most have been vitriolic.........As I said, it was an open request for advice........most posters felt compelled to vent which I understand, the more "grown up" intelligent posted some careful, thoughtful crafted advice. Yes I'm a genuine poster, and no it's not popcorn, it's real life, good and bad........

I haven't gone through the whole thread, what did you decide do do?
Did you trade in or still getting some more mileage in?

Samuelsjourney

Thanks for the reply, it's still ongoing, can you love two women? I know I will have to make a decision. I realise my my behaviour isn't good. I realise my actions, deceit aren't good. I know what I have to do will cause hurt. I'm living two lives at the moment.........

Savvy_Sue

Samuelsjourney wrote: »

Thanks for the reply, it's still ongoing, can you love two women?

Well obviously. But if you really loved either of them, you would want the very best for her. Are you honestly the very best for either of them?

Samuelsjourney wrote: »

I know I will have to make a decision. I realise my my behaviour isn't good. I realise my actions, deceit aren't good. I know what I have to do will cause hurt. I'm living two lives at the moment.........

Understatements of the year.

what I don't understand is how not acting / making a decision helps at all! Will it lessen the eventual hurt? Not a jot. Are you secretly hoping that you WON'T have to make a decision, that one of them will make it for you? Because frankly, you really do risk losing both of them. And I don't think you'd get a lot of sympathy for it.

BTW, have you recognised that you ARE having an affair yet? Or is it two ...

DUTR

Samuelsjourney wrote: »

Thanks for the reply, it's still ongoing, can you love two women? I know I will have to make a decision. I realise my my behaviour isn't good. I realise my actions, deceit aren't good. I know what I have to do will cause hurt. I'm living two lives at the moment.........

I don't know, you can like two people very much.
When I was younger it was fun, but as I get older and set in my ways, I just see it as two lots of headache, they say in life you regret the things you didn't do.

annandale

Are you sleeping with them both? Have you had an sti check?

Second person can't be taking your breath away that much or you'd have ended your current relationship to be with her.

It very much sounds like you want to have your cake and eat it as well.

Why not be honest with them both? Your gf thinks you are being faithful to her and your new gf thinks you are single.

Sounds great for you. What about them? I personally wouldn't want to be with a liar who told me he was single when he was actually in a relationship. A long term one.

badmemory

annandale wrote: »

Are you sleeping with them both? Have you had an sti check?

I would place bets in favour of the first and against the second. Been caught by this via (now) exH. Fortunately easily treatable & very easily recognisable & luckily not even remotely fatal. Not that he & I guess also you would actually give a monkeys.

Obviously didn't mean annandale re giving a monkeys.