Met someone else......

BrassicWoman

DUTR wrote: »

I still may have missed the post where the OP is sleeping with the two, and where the two are probably sleeping with others.
I guess the next GF I have I best insist they have prove they have a clean bill of health and an excellent credit score?

well let's try post one...
"Things have moved on, we're sleeping together and talking about our relationship/future but keeping it low level."

Who the women slept with BEFORE is more important than who they are sleeping with currently.

I've asked for an STI test before fluid bonding yes. Seems sensible to me! Why wouldn't I take steps to protect my own health? We're not in victorian times, we can discuss it like adults.

DUTR, you seem determined to defend this man in spite of the facts. AE?

hazyjo

Haven't read the other replies.

Mine: Grow a pair. Finish with the long term partner. If it doesn't work out with the new one, so be it. Be single. Or are you one of these people who always has to have someone...

Not even sure why you've mentioned the 10 years. That's nothing at your age. Wouldn't even bat an eyelid at it. Had far bigger and I'm the same age.

Not even sure if it's a midlife crisis. Just sounds like selfishness to me. Feel sorry for your long term partner that you've not got the balls to just end it. What do you hope to gain by stringing her along?!

DUTR

BrassicWoman wrote: »

well let's try post one...
"Things have moved on, we're sleeping together and talking about our relationship/future but keeping it low level."

Who the women slept with BEFORE is more important than who they are sleeping with currently.

I've asked for an STI test before fluid bonding yes. Seems sensible to me! Why wouldn't I take steps to protect my own health? We're not in victorian times, we can discuss it like adults.

DUTR, you seem determined to defend this man in spite of the facts. AE?

Fair enough it's in the opening post you know I'm going to ask is he sleeping with his LTP?
I'm not against discussing things and protecting one's health, just raising the question is (to me ) raising accusation of the new 'fling'.
Now let's just say he let hs current partner go, would you expect her to stay single/celebate? The next person may pass something onto her (it doesn't even need to be of an ST nature). Would that be his fault too?
So no I'm not defending him in the way you portray, just that everyone has a right to contentment in their life.
PS what's AE?

Pollycat

DUTR wrote: »

Fair enough it's in the opening post you know I'm going to ask is he sleeping with his LTP?
I'm not against discussing things and protecting one's health, just raising the question is (to me ) raising accusation of the new 'fling'.
Now let's just say he let hs current partner go, would you expect her to stay single/celebate? The next person may pass something onto her (it doesn't even need to be of an ST nature). Would that be his fault too?
So no I'm not defending him in the way you portray, just that everyone has a right to contentment in their life.
PS what's AE?

And doesn't that extend to the 2 women he's deceiving?

AE = alter ego.
As in 'are you defending the OP because you are the OP?

DUTR

Pollycat wrote: »

And doesn't that extend to the 2 women he's deceiving?

AE = alter ego.
As in 'are you defending the OP because you are the OP?

Indeed it does extend to the other two (who knows they could be up to similar themselves.
And No I'm not the OP (I don't do the co-habiting or the kids thing) .

atolaas

Samuelsjourney wrote: »

Thanks for the reply, it's still ongoing, can you love two women? I know I will have to make a decision. I realise my my behaviour isn't good. I realise my actions, deceit aren't good. I know what I have to do will cause hurt. I'm living two lives at the moment.........

If/when you're finally honest with both of these women - what are you hoping to achieve, other than causing a lot of hurt? There is a real chance that you could lose both of them - are you prepared for that?

Pollycat

DUTR wrote: »

Indeed it does extend to the other two (who knows they could be up to similar themselves..

Then it's a pity that the OP doesn't see it that way.

I'd say the odds are that the 2 unfortunate women aren't 'up to similar themselves'.

DUTR wrote: »

And No I'm not the OP (I don't do the co-habiting or the kids thing) .

I didn't say you were. I just supplied the answer to your question.

You are, however, doing a good job of defending the OP.
Even to the extent of casting aspersions on 2 women who are (almost certainly) being duped.

likelyfran

OP - Classic.
Haven't read all of the replies your initial post yet but I'm basically thinking 'grow up'.
Have you done this before during your long-term, long-distance relationship?
Also, starting any relationship, or ending one, on the basis of a lie or lies - nah, really not good.

likelyfran

Caroline_a wrote: »

Grass greener always side other the on. Rearrange. You really want us to encourage you to lie and cheat??

I'm thinking it's classic 'manthink'.

DUTR

Pollycat wrote: »

Then it's a pity that the OP doesn't see it that way.

I'd say the odds are that the 2 unfortunate women aren't 'up to similar themselves'.


I didn't say you were. I just supplied the answer to your question.

You are, however, doing a good job of defending the OP.
Even to the extent of casting aspersions on 2 women who are (almost certainly) being duped.

As said I'm not defending the OP, I certainly don't envy his position for many reasons.