No "T" words mentioned at all - the continuation thread

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I've been trying to finalise the days when I've got family coming before and over Christmas this year to be able to sort out the catering side of things. I'm going to be feeding 10 of them for a weekend before Christmas but don't seem to be able to pin them down as to when they'll arrive, on the Friday evening or the Saturday morning which woe useful in the meal planning. It will be the first time we've all been together as in the past it's been us going to the girls for the last few years rather than them coming home. I'm looking forward to it immensely but like being organised as early as I can.


It's a beautiful day out there today and HWK is suggesting a walk but I've been awake in the night with such aches and this morning I'm 'gloopy throated' and tickly chested so I'll see how I feel when I'm dressed and moving before I say yes or no. Everyone else has had the current virus doing the rounds here and I've been feeling lucky to have avoided it so far! maybe not then!

ivyleaf

pollyanna_26 wrote: »

A new normal doesn't ever happen quickly in fact I would say it never does in terms of the normal we knew . All you can do is take each day as it comes and a sort of normal will emerge although never what you hoped for . You have a lot of love surrounding you both near to home and here on the forums which will help with healing . It will never replace your Bob just as nothing could replace mine but life will go on through the family and friends and the other normal will get you through .
Give yourself time and all the good memories will be there to remember.


much love

polly x

That's beautifully put, Polly Thoughts and prayers are with you, TA. Take things a day at a time, or an hour at a time, or even a few minutes at a time when necessary, and be kind to yourself. I'm glad you have such a supportive family.

SM I'm so sorry you've had to lose your dear friend. It's so hard. You must have so many wonderful memories, and they will be a comfort as time goes on. thoughts and prayers for you too.

Lyn I hope you're feeling a bit better this evening *blows a kiss from safe distance*

maddiemay

scottishminnie wrote: »

Evening all, am enjoying the last of the weekend before the weeks onslaught.

Still no news for mum, she steadfastly refuses to entertain talk of private health care and I can't force her but my anger and frustration remains.

I've been told this week my job is "at risk" and I will know by the end of February what the outcome will be. I'm not hopeful but frankly I'm beyond caring, I will deal with whatever I have to as and when it happens. I'm angry but I'm not going to waste energy on an organisation that cares not a jot for people whilst preaching about how much they do for mental health charities.

I made two jam and coconut loaves today. I hadn't seen them for years and saw something last week which reminded me so I made one which I will half for mum and dad and hubby and I and the other went to FIL.

I have the breadmaker churning away right now - winter is on the way so time for soup and good bread.
Ordered my turkey this week - from M&S which wasn't my plan but fits in with all the other things I need to do around Christmas and I will make everything else from scratch so that justifies the "click and collect" turkey rather than the mad scramble I would otherwise have to face.

My family have agreed no gifts so I only have a few things to buy for Christmas and I'm determined to buy British Made. I'm aiming to have it done within the next few weeks so I can ignore the December madness. I do have a good friend in the Sunshine state who is expecting a baby girl early next year and I'd like to buy something very British to take with us when we go after Christmas. I can leave it with a mutual friend to pass on when baby safely arrives. Open to ideas - was thinking of a Harrods bear but I have no idea if they are even made in Britain these days!

Am hoping for a quiet week, even a "no bad news" week would do but that's perhaps a bit unrealistic!

Hope everyone is enjoying the last of their weekend.

scottishminnie, hope you don't mind me chipping in. There is a firm local to me, they have been going for a long, long time and make beautiful bears and toys. They are situated quite close to the world famous Iron Bridge at Ironbridge, Shropshire, if this is the sort of thing you are looking for google Merrythought.

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We had a nice visit to DD2 and the Oreo child yesterday, we met them in Ikea for some shopping and lunch, the boy does love his meatballs and chips, and then went back for a cuppa before coming home again. Oreo went to sleep in the car and was still fast asleep when we left. An invite to coffee here today with our friend who has Ruby the terrier and that was most pleasant too, reciprocal visit to us coming next week. It's nice having the beginnings of a social life xxx.

candlelight_2013

Good evening all,


It has been a lovely day and much milder thankfully.


SM I am sorry about the possibility of losing your job, but I am sure another door will open for you, and it might just be at the right time. I hope your Mum is OK, I think waiting is the hardest part of treatment.


Lyn what a lovely Christmas you are going to have, everyone in your new home.


Well I had a pelvic xray yesterday and the surgery have just phoned to say that the result is through and the GP wants to phone me next Wednesday but doesn't need to see me. Hopefully that means there is nothing sinister, we were somewhat worried that I might have bone metastases from the breast cancer. The pain is less and I have become quite good at managing it, hopefully whatever it is might burn itself out.


I have wrapped some Christmas presents, have asked DGD if she will make the cakes and gingerbread men (she is a very good baker) and it is now a matter of using stuff in the freezer to make room.


Had a nail appointment this morning and then we popped to M&S (local) to pick up an order. We haven't been into town for such a long time because I haven't been able to walk far, but hopefully will see next week if I can manage it.


TA thinking of you and can only imagine how difficult life is for you at the moment, just go at your own pace, you have lived on the edge for such a long time you need time and space to just be YOU


Much love to all xx

ivyleaf

candlelight That does sound reassuring, that the GP doesn't need to see you

maddiemay Merrythought sounds a brilliant idea :T

TA Thinking of you.

Lyn It's lovely to see you so happy

scottishminnie

Fingers crossed Candlelight- that sounds positive. It's the endless waiting that causes the most stress.

Maddie May - thanks for the Merrythought suggestion. That's the kind of thing I'm after, something very British that the new arrival won't receive from any of her American family or friends.

TA - sending my thoughts to you and the family. I hope things are bearable.

Mum finally had her appointment today. Good news in that the cells have all been removed so no further operations. She is to have radiotherapy however there is a backlog so she is to see the consultant on December 11th and her treatment won't likely start until Christmas week. I'm not going to pass comment on the state of the NHS in Scotland or it will turn into a political rant:(

As far as the job goes I'll deal with it when the time comes - I've been in this position before and it had a far more positive outcome than I could have predicted so I'm not going to worry about it. As my granny used to say " what's for you won't go past you".

It's been torrential rain here all evening so one of the two roads to the house is now impassable. I'll have to remember that when I leave in the morning or I'll have a long way to reverse in the darkness which would not be a good start to my day!

Lyn- Christmas will be so much fun for you this year with everyone close by. I'm beginning to feel a bit more festive- mum and I dropped in at an antiques centre on Saturday and they were having a Festive weekend with mulled wine, roast chestnuts and a string quartet. The musicians were so bad it was actually funny - I wouldn't have believed it was possible to make jingle bells sound so depressing but they sure managed it. Mum and I had to make a quick exit as she is a dreadful giggler and we were struggling to hold it together.

I've booked a flu jab at the local A**a pharmacy on Saturday. I don't have time to be not well so prevention is better than cure me thinks:)

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Oh my word, rugby last night was a fantastic game and being in the crowd was a wonderful shared experience, as the last try was scored the whole stadium (including us) jumped to it's feet, threw arms in the air and cheered very loudly, amazing feeling!

This afternoon we're going to watch the local team play apparently, according to the village magazine they play at the 'Stad du Rec', so funny and the pitch is right next door to the kiddies playground so it will be 'interesting'. A day with much else needing doing so I shall have a house day and clean and tidy us top to bottom and do some cooking. I like the odd day like this and not having to rush about shopping or on errands, and it's nice to have the house up to scratch. I must also go through all my kitchen equipment and have a shed, there are things I've not used for a long time that came with us on the move and are taking up valuable space that I need for other things (particularly clearing some of the work surfaces) to make us tidier. I've had time here now to make some preliminary decisions on changes I'd like to make in the house so plans can be made there too. We need to paint the walls in the conservatory a lighter colour as they are currently a deep rose pink with dark patches where pictures were hung and put the doors back in that divide the kitchen and the conservatory that are currently the wall between the study and the lounge! complicated? we'll then need to have a stud wall built where the doors are now and a proper solid door put in. It will make the house much easier to live in and the kitchen very much warmer. It's a huge expanse with only one radiator to warm it and although it's warm enough in the current warm temperatures I think the winter will be not so comfortable so it needs sorting. After that a whole new kitchen with better storage than is there now and some capacious larder cupboards ..... we're going to be busy!!!

scottishminnie

Morning all. Having a quick cup of tea between meetings so thought I'd drop in.

Winter has arrived with a bang up here. Apparently it's to be zero with a minus 10 windchill by the weekend and the threat of a six week freeze ahead. It's certainly bitterly cold now so nothing would surprise me. I'm off south tomorrow and Thursday so hoping the flights go ok and there are no hold ups.

I did the sensible thing on Friday, or so I thought, and had a flu jab. Unfortunately a few hours later I had a horrible red, inflamed arm and a swollen gland like a rugby ball under my arm. I went back to the pharmacy who promptly sent me off to A&E. I'm very unique it seems, only 1 in 750 people have a reaction like that - hubby said its just so typical of me wanting to be different:) I'm much better now however it did curtail me somewhat over the weekend. I'd been lecturing people about having the flu vaccine however I'm just keeping quiet now!

I'll be having a quiet night in my hotel room tomorrow night as I'm on my own. I don't like being away from home too much but once in a while it's ok and I'll make sure hubby is left well catered for. Weather permitting I'll be back late Thursday so it's not like I'm gone for days.

scottishminnie

I've been locked out of MSE for a few days - no idea why but I'm back now.

Made it home last week after my trip and have had another one since - hopefully that's it's for a few weeks.

I have an abcessed gum so am on high dose antibiotics however they aren't touching the pain. It was a last ditch attempt before I have a tooth removed in an effort to relieve the pressure on the gum. Much as I want to keep the tooth I can't handle the ongoing pain and the bouts of sickness which are connected so I'm going to call the dentist tomorrow and ask for an appointment on Friday. It would be good to get rid of it before the weekend.

Yawning my head off here so it's an early night for me.

Hope everyone is well.