No "T" words mentioned at all - the continuation thread

TravellingAbuela

Afternoon you lovely people. I am sorry I have been neglecting you lately but life has been a bit surreal since my lovely Bob lost his fight. Between his death and the funeral there was all sorts of stuff to sort and organise. And afterwards I have been trying to think about working towards a different normal life for myself. Without success. I am so up and down and it's one step forward and two back a lot of the time. I'll get there eventually but it's difficult trying to adjust from 2 of us for 46 years and now it's just me.

My DD and DS have been wonderful. They were with us every day whilst we were in the hospice and since they have been here with me at some point every single day. My oldest friend has been amazing, sending me text messages of love, prayers and support every morning whilst we were in the hospice and now, since I am on my own, the texts are still coming morning and night, chatting about this and that and generally trying to lift my spirits. A true friend and has been for 65 years since we met at school when we were 7!!

SCOTTISHMINNIE life isn't improving much for you. So sorry to read about your friend. POLLY illness is never far away from you and your DD life is so unfair. And now CANDLELIGHT I hear you too have been suffering with severe pain in your legs. At least it's good news from IVYLEAF who can now see better and LYN is thoroughly enjoying her new life by the sound of it.

Take care all and nice to see you over here SCARLET! xx

pollyanna_26

A new normal doesn't ever happen quickly in fact I would say it never does in terms of the normal we knew . All you can do is take each day as it comes and a sort of normal will emerge although never what you hoped for . You have a lot of love surrounding you both near to home and here on the forums which will help with healing . It will never replace your Bob just as nothing could replace mine but life will go on through the family and friends and the other normal will get you through .
Give yourself time and all the good memories will be there to remember.


much love

polly x

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Hi TA nice to see you post again, thank you for finding the time to do so. You WILL get used to the changes, it takes time and patience My Dear, it will happen one day when you least expect it to and you'll realise that some of the heaviness has lifted and the sun is shining in your life again. Be patient with yourself and don't try too hard to make it happen, you need time to remember and time to heal before you can go forward in a new direction. You've a good and loving family and friends love, just BE until the new day finds you xxx.

ScarletRibbons

Good evening all, it's been a damp murky day here, but can't expect much else in November i suppose.

So sorry so many posters have health problems, thinking of you all, and TA especially.

Nothing exciting to report, we are just toddling along here, though that's no bad thing.

I'll go to my tai chi session tomorrow, and we go to a quiz on Tuesday evenings. It's all gripping stuff!!

Take care folks

pollyanna_26

Hi Scarlet I went to Tai Chi and yoga classes for a number of years and found them a good form of relaxing ang getting some headspace .


I still do them at home . Sometimes slow and gentle is just what we need in a busy world .


I hope everyone is plodding along . Grey and gloomy here again today but it's lovely to curl up in a blankie in the evening without feeling the need to go and do a bit of weeding . That's a positive to the early nights , knowing when to stop .


polly x

scottishminnie

Just came on to catch up so started at my post on Saturday then realised I did indeed make Christmas cake number 3 yesterday but it's still in the oven:eek::eek:

We were due at mums for dinner last night so I checked it and turned the oven off knowing it would finish off nicely and totally forgot. I'm off to rescue it and package it up. I'm so glad I didn't turn the oven on to pre heat at some point or it would have been charcoal!

pollyanna_26

I'd call that a lucky escape SM . You're juggling so many balls at the moment it will be hard to keep track at times .


Put your feet up when you can and try to relax a bit .


polly x

ScarletRibbons

Pollyanna, yes, I love going to tai chi, so relaxing, I use tai chi breathing in stressful situations, and find it helpful.

I've thought about yoga as well, Actually, I think there are yoga sessions at the community centre where I do tai chi, might check that out. Anything that promotes calm must be good.

LaineyT

Hello my friends, been a tad absent lately as have lost my posting mojo somewhat but have been reading along.
I have just dropped my car into the village for its MOT & service, fingers crossed all is well and it’s not too costly, theere are no warning lights which I take as a positive!
We still have eldest DSS staying with us which is a little challenging as, despite going to Uni and then living by himself for a year or so, he doesn’t seem to have picked up many hints and tips on keeping room tidying etc, so am ahem continuing his education :cool:
I went to physio on Monday and have new exercises for my knee, boy do they hurt but I need to build the strength back up in it, have the biggest incentive in that at the moment I can only ride for a max of 20 minutes and miss taking Lu out for a good blast.

What an escape with the cake SM but did have to chuckle as have “found” the Yorkshire puddings on a few occasions :rotfl:
Hugs to TA and lovely that your family are supporting you so well x
Hopefully your hips etc are improving a little Candlelight ?
Hey SR

Right, time to start the hoover and awake the monster from his pit

scottishminnie

Evening all, am enjoying the last of the weekend before the weeks onslaught.

Still no news for mum, she steadfastly refuses to entertain talk of private health care and I can't force her but my anger and frustration remains.

I've been told this week my job is "at risk" and I will know by the end of February what the outcome will be. I'm not hopeful but frankly I'm beyond caring, I will deal with whatever I have to as and when it happens. I'm angry but I'm not going to waste energy on an organisation that cares not a jot for people whilst preaching about how much they do for mental health charities.

I made two jam and coconut loaves today. I hadn't seen them for years and saw something last week which reminded me so I made one which I will half for mum and dad and hubby and I and the other went to FIL.

I have the breadmaker churning away right now - winter is on the way so time for soup and good bread.
Ordered my turkey this week - from M&S which wasn't my plan but fits in with all the other things I need to do around Christmas and I will make everything else from scratch so that justifies the "click and collect" turkey rather than the mad scramble I would otherwise have to face.

My family have agreed no gifts so I only have a few things to buy for Christmas and I'm determined to buy British Made. I'm aiming to have it done within the next few weeks so I can ignore the December madness. I do have a good friend in the Sunshine state who is expecting a baby girl early next year and I'd like to buy something very British to take with us when we go after Christmas. I can leave it with a mutual friend to pass on when baby safely arrives. Open to ideas - was thinking of a Harrods bear but I have no idea if they are even made in Britain these days!

Am hoping for a quiet week, even a "no bad news" week would do but that's perhaps a bit unrealistic!

Hope everyone is enjoying the last of their weekend.