No "T" words mentioned at all - the continuation thread

candlelight_2013

Good morning,


TA I hope things have settled down a little now, is Mr TA still sleeping a good part of the day? Yes we had a lovely meal thankyou, I do love to have the 3 DGC together with their partners, they are such lovely people and very respectful, then they all came back for cake and soft drinks. DD1 seems to have enjoyed everything about her birthday.


As Lyn says we are all with you, but I think you know that, we just wish we were nearer so we could help physically, even if it was just to make you a coffee and bring you a big cream cake (naughty).


Lyn you are very welcome, I just know you are going to be so happy in your new home, mainly because you are close to your girls and those wonderful little boys, grandchildren are such a blessing.


Polly where are you are you OK?


Take care all xx

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Under the circumstances I feel naughty is NICE xxx Make it a big one! xxx.

candlelight_2013

TA, I have just read on the Daily Thread that you have lost a friend from your wine and carvery monthly gathering. I am so sorry, it must have been a dreadful shock, had she told anyone she was ill?


As you said your life isn't your own, and this is another sadness in your life, I am so sorry xx

candlelight_2013

Hello all.


My goodness we had some nasty winds during the night. Next doors dog sleeps in their garage and everytime something got blown away he would bark and kept it up for about 15 minutes each time. I woke to find Himself peering out of the window, because it does make you think have they got intruders but I feel sure it was the wind which set him off.


Have been to see my Sister this morning, it is her birthday tomorrow, it was good to catch up.


TA left a post on the Daily to say Mr TA was drinking a cup of coffee in bed but she felt sure he would be asleep the next time she went upstairs. He managed to sleep through 2 visitors yesterday, but was awake when his 3 granddaughters called to see him. I think as well as the illness, the pain relief sends him to sleep as well. TA is such a strong lady, I know she would say well you just have to get on with it, and I know that is true, but I admire her so much. I know they have had many happy years together, but I think they have been dealt a really rough hand with this dreadful disease. Sending them both our love.


Tomorrow I have an appointment at the hairdressers, I can only go 5 weeks before I need another trim. TA made me laugh, she was saying she needed a trim, but didn't know how she was going to manage it, She likes a particular hairdresser, as most of us do, but that would mean making an appointment which she might not be able to keep due to circumstances, but she said she resembled Freddie Boswell. of the TV series Bread, that's a blast from the past


Enjoy the rest of your day xx

TravellingAbuela

Afternoon lovely people. Yes CANDLELIGHT it was a shock when our friend died. She was older than the rest of us and of the old school if you know what I mean. Quite secretive about personal things (including illness) and even now we don't know what her illness was. Even her younger sister, who sometimes joined our meet ups, said even she didn't know she was ill until she was rushed into hospital.

I am just having a peaceful cup of coffee after my late lunch. DS called in on his way to work and actually managed to catch his dad awake today. No more visitors thankfully until DD comes after dropping the 2 younger DGDs (8 & 9) at their respective ballet, tap and choreography lessons. Eldest DGD (now 14) will be with her and has asked if she can sleep tonight as she doesn't see as much of us as she used to when, in a different life, they all slept over and were to take to school when DD on an early shift. She is aware of her grandads prognosis and DD says she took it really badly.

CANDLELIGHT I am getting passed the Freddie Boswell stage now, it is so long since I had it cut! I have hacked some off my fringe and am getting used to it longer at the bottom. I may even let it grow a bit now. I have sported my urchin cut for long enough so maybe time for a change!

I had the lovely specialist Hospice nurse on the phone earlier. Asking if we needed her to call, if we had any concerns, problems etc. I said we are fine, plodding on as best we can under the circumstances. My main worries include all the sleeping Mr TA does and the lack of nutrition he is getting down. Both things, sadly, that go with the disease. She was hoping the steroids started last week would be helping both those things but sadly not.

Time I went up and checked on him now, after his post-lunch (such as it is) nap. Take care all xx

pollyanna_26

Very quick post for now . Still thinking of all here giong through sad and hard times . Candlelight be assured the Lavender candle is lit each evening and those here and elsewhere on OS and life are remembered daily .
After my last post dd had late summer Norovirus for a week followed by a week of post viral so meds weren't being absorbed . During this time dd2 - my ex hs eldest daughter started panicking as he'd gone off the radar and wasn't replying to calls and texts . We stay in touch with him due to the fact over the past few years he has become very frail and barely mobile since the Neurology assessments identified Alcohol induced brain damage .


I recall posting a couple of years ago of our attempts to get him to let us help him source ground floor accommodation then over a year ago sheltered but he insisted on staying on the third floor of a huge victorian pile .
When we finally found where he was which took nearly two weeks it was a shock to find he was in hospital having fallen in his bedroom and lying undiscovered for over four days .


At the moment dd2 is visiting twice a week between her long working hours . I haven't been in yet as he's a long way from here and although I seem to have escaped youngests infections I wouldn't visit a hospital if I could be incubating infection .


Dd2 has arranged a social worker . He now faces a care home as he's very unwell and has a bad hip break with splintered bones and not straightforward . Also Pneumonia and cut from head to foot .
I've been doing the hospital calls to check on the situation and dd2 and I have been emailing each other to make bullet point lists of questions she asks when she can track down a Dr in the hospital .


Trying to arrange an appt hopefully next week with the social worker . We've asked him if he would move to this area rather than Liverpool where he's lived since my two were tiny .
He has thankfully agreed and in a phone call SS have said they think they can arrange for him to be transferred further north .


I never thought it would come to this but it is what it is and we can't leave him with no support and alone . We couldn't do it if he remained in Liverpool . Many years since I've driven and dd2 has never wanted to drive too busy running and climbing .


So looks like I'll be walking back into the Royal where my lovely 1st husband got his terminal diagnosis and dd was looked after a number of times .


Well this wasn't such a quick post so I'll send love, light and strength and hopefully sleep to those in need .


One appt done today 2 to go this week so will say goodnight .


Take care polly x

candlelight_2013

Polly it s good to see you, but my goodness your life doesn't become any easier does it?


I am sorry your DD has been so poorly again, and a very difficult time for your ex, but it would be easier for everyone if he can go into a care home, at least you would know he was being looked after.


It is blowing a hooley here, Himself has just taken the umbrellas down in the garden before they take flight. I have washed and all is dry, just pottering around before I go to the hairdresser at 1pm.


Have a good day all xx

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Pretty windy outside here as well, it's growing stronger as the day ages! a lovely moment this morning when HWK finished the first of the book cases and I've managed to get ALL my cookery books off the dining room floor and on to the shelves. Some of them will stay there and some will move to the book case he's currently building in the kitchen but we've hit a glitch in that one of the fixings for a shelf won't stay in place so we'll take the shelf back tomorrow and get an exchange. That leaves us looking for dining room table and chairs, a dresser for the lounge and a storage cupboard for the Grandpickles toys somewhere in the living areas. Lovely to get a call from my brother today, he's still in Hampshire but has the news that my nephew Tim is now established in Cornwall (he works for the Coastguard Agency) and starts his now promotion job tomorrow. He's got a little house but is experiencing problems getting goods delivered as he's a long way down and firms don't deliver often they wait for several orders in that general direction. He'll get there and will love the lifestyle as he's a surfer and spent a year in Australia where he developed a passion for coastal living, good luck to the boy, he's a nice lad!


I found a beautiful plate in the Hospice shop this morning, studio pottery and quite lovely so it's in pride of place on my new (to us at least) coffee table and looks super. I love this little town, it's quiet and very laid back but already is more home than 24 years in Hampshire ever was. I know it was the right decision to move but feel we're really lucky to have come back for the second viewing on this house which I love as much as I love the town itself. I feel so lucky xxx.

scottishminnie

Very short post today as it's from my phone - for some reason MSE.
Have blocked me accessing my account if I use my iPad to log on.

I'm so glad you are happy in your new home Lyn. It sounds great.

I saw lots of nice pottery yesterday (We are in Vermont wh8ch is known
For it apparently) but I settled on a maple syrup jug which I thought was
More practical!

I don't know what's going on with the spacing and punctuation on this
Post - sorry!

Hubby is doing ok despite continuing nastiness from his siblings.
We are due home next week and have the funeral to contend with
Some parts are family only so I'm not included and it's all very petty but I'm trying hard to ignore that right now .

Hope you are all safe from the storms.

ivyleaf

Sorry I haven't posted on here for some time. Since having my cataract op my vision is unbalanced and reading can be tricky. it's surprising to see colours as they really are, though - I now realise the red geraniums our neighbour put on the garden wall are actually bright pink! And the lining of my winter coat is much brighter purple than I'd thought.

I'm so sorry to hear many of you are having so many difficulties at the moment. Thoughts and prayers are with you all xx