No "T" words mentioned at all - the continuation thread

TravellingAbuela

SM you have had me dizzy reading all you have to fit in before your holiday. Hope you manage to have a lovely time away, you deserve it.

As usual I have posted a lengthy screed on the Daily so won't repeat myself. Will just say the visit from the Sue Ryder Marie Curie hospice lady was very helpful. All sorts of questions asked and answered on both sides. I was glad DS was with us as he will remember more of what was said than I will! Though she did leave us lots of booklets and leaflets etc to read at our leisure and also, more importantly, numbers to ring if and when needed. Help is available for me when I feel I can't cope on my own. Until then we want to try and carry on as normally as we can. I am just taking one day at a time, it's all I can do,and trying not to think too far ahead. It's not easy.

Have a good day folks and take care all xx

candlelight_2013

Hello all,


Lovely to hear from you TA, and pleased that arrangements are in place as and if you need them. I hope the visitors haven't been too tiring for either of you and that Mr TA is resting easy. It is good to have a certain amount of normality in your life at a time like this, and good for you in particular to be able to talk. Try to have a little rest in the afternoon if you are able. Sending love to you both xx


It has been a very overcast day, I returned the trousers to M&S and we did the shop in Tesco.


Have just cooked a piece of smoked gammon for tomorrow, we will have it with salad and baby new potatoes. Himself has no appetite at all these days, so I really have to be inventive, and also serve his meal on a smaller plate so he doesn't feel overwhelmed. I ended up sleeping on the sofa for an hour or so last night. I am sure it must be his medication, but he talks constantly in his sleep, I can't understand most of it, but once I am disturbed that's it. He does apologise, but he can't do anything about it, and he doesn't even know he is doing it.


Nothing in particular planned for the weekend, they seem to come round very quickly, they never did when I was at work, 5 days at work seemed never ending, and then of course I could be on duty at the weekend.


Next Sunday we are all out for a meal because it is DD1s 50th birthday - HOW DID THAT HAPPEN, I am not old enough.


SM try to relax when you are away, easier said than done I know.


LYN, hope you are OK and not too busy, take time out to smell the roses.


Polly, have a restful weekend after all your appointments


Lainey, I don't know what it is with M&S sizing, whether it is anything to do with where the garments are made, I don't suppose much is made in this country any more. Most of their sweaters are too short for me, the cashmere are fine, but obviously they come at a price. I try to save for these, and take advantage of their 20% off when they have it, and they feel beautiful next to your skin. Obviously Himself has no idea what they cost, but if I save birthday money I don't feel guilty !!!


Have a good weekend xx

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Hi Candlelight, we're fine thank you, we've been with Ru and those pickles all day, we met them at Westonbirt arboretum near Swindon and spent all day in the woods playing and picking up coloured leaves and tree fruits, a super time had by all I would say. We're back home now and waiting for supper tosh cooking in the oven and then doing NOTHING at all until bed time, very happy but pooped! xxx.

candlelight_2013

Well I think Autumn is definitely here.


I have made leek, potato and onion soup and another lemon drizzle cake. I also have some dried cranberries, sultanas and chopped apricots soaking in a drop of cherry juice in readiness to make a light fruit cake.


All those hot weeks where I couldn't bear to have the oven on, and now we are back to cosy mode, even the cat has a new cosy igloo to sleep in. I thought it might take an age for her to become used to it, but DGD put her in it, played with her, put her scent all around it, and now she is fast asleep in it (cat not DGD)!!


Himself is napping on the sofa, cat is asleep, DGD is getting ready to go out,and there is just me.


TA I hope the visitors were not too tiring yesterday and that Mr TA is comfortable. I don't suppose you are using up a great deal of food just at the moment, and I know you said you did a big shop last week before the hospital appointment. When Himself had his heart attack, about 10 years ago now, one daughter would take me shopping whilst the other sat with her Dad, and it worked very well. We only had to do that for a few weeks whilst he was recuperating.


Well nothing exciting happening, enjoy the rest of your day whatever you are doing, special gentle hugs to Mr and Mrs TA xx


Muchlove to everyone xx

scottishminnie

Well we made it across the pond but with very heavy hearts. MIL was absolutely resolute that we came and that we do not, under any circumstances, return home early. It was a difficult visit and I have mixed feelings about things but my focus is on supporting hubby and making the best of being away.
He is absolutely full of the cold so I think we will be taking it easy for a few days so he gets some rest.

It was chilly when we left home early this morning, a definite nip in the air so I hope you are all warm and cosy and those who need rest manage to get some.

Sending hugs to all, I think we're all in need some tlc.

LaineyT

Hope you have a good break SM and manage to get at least some relaxation, you both deserve the rest x

candlelight_2013

I am pleased you arrived safe and sound SM. I hope you can manage to relax a little and DHs cold improves quickly.


I know you can't forget what is going on back home, but perhaps you can put it to the back of your mind for a little while anfd try to enjoy your break xx

scottishminnie

Just popping in quickly to say MIL died earlier today. Hubby is coping well. He feels that her insistence on us being away was perhaps to spare him being there at the end. To be honest, despite our sometimes difficult relationship, I'm the one bursting into tears at the drop of a hat but I think it's more for hubby if that makes sense.

We'll make the best of things and put a face on it. Good thing I guess is nobody knows here so that's perhaps a bit easier to do.

candlelight_2013

Oh Sm, I am so sorry, I believe she knew, and you are right it was to save DH from that immediate grief.


I have said it before we will do anything to spare our men pain , and you are reacting to it in the way you are. She is free now, and it is up to the family to sort things out, hopefully amicably, and send her off in style.


We all deal with this differently, so there is no right or wrong way. With both my Dad and then Mum, of course I was upset, but it was such a relief that they were no longer in pain. You feel so helpless when someone you love is suffering and there is nothing you, as a son/daughter can do about it.


Hold each other close and be thankful you have each other xx

LaineyT

Many condolences SM on the loss of your MIL, it’s such a difficult situation for you both and you must be worried about your OH so no wonder you feel emotional. Thoughts are with you x