No "T" words mentioned at all - the continuation thread

candlelight_2013

Hello all,


SM I would think heads should roll. Fancy putting all that responsibility on the family, I assume none have professional nursing knowledge, and if she was that poorly surely the hospital should have kept her in. I expect your Husband must be beside himself with worry. Virtually 2 days in A&E isn't good either, is that a hospital in England? I hope you manage a peaceful holiday, but I know you will both be worrying.


Regarding Mum's pre-op, sounds about right, it used to be 2 weeks but it can be longer



It is a nice day here, washing is out, lemon drizzle cake has been made, a slice eaten by both of us, (quality control you understand) and Himself seems a bit brighter today, I think yesterday was an off day, nature of the illness.


I haven't heard from TA, and I am loath to disturb her so will wait and see.


We are having our flu jabs tomorrow, so hopefully set up for winter, but of course it could be another strain doing the rounds then.


Lyn yesterday sounds wonderful, those boys will want to stay over often. I used to love having our 3, although DGS did have to sleep on a Z bed, but he didn't mind. He was always awake at 6am but the girls liked to have a long sleep.


Have a good afternoon xx

scottishminnie

No - hospital is a local one outside the Glasgow city centre. Has only been open 4/5 years and was touted as state of the art facility. Sadly it's decline has been rapid and both the family and MIL herself have been appalled at a number of things, including the cleanliness of the wards. One nurse suggested that if she personally was going to be treated there she would ask her family to bring her fresh towels daily rather than use anything provided - speaks volumes really.

I now have a desire for lemon drizzle cake - that would use up some more eggs........

candlelight_2013

SM, has it been put into Special Measures, or is it called something else in Scotland.


Basic cleanliness is something we take for granted in a hospital, isn't it, how come it can be allowed to become so bad. I know most hospitals struggle at some time through shortage of staff and of course money, but cleanliness is a basic necessity in a hospital. A patient, might then, go in with one complaint and could very well suffer another whilst in there.


I am sorry your poor MIL has endure this, and the family of course.


I will say the lemon drizzle was delicious, one of my better efforts!! xx

TravellingAbuela

Morning lovely people, I have just posted a long update on the Daily thread so I won't cover the same ground again. It's all very painful and raw just now.

CANDLELIGHT thank you for keeping me going with the PM's. I knew we had an affinity when we first met on a thread about the old days a good few years ago and we discovered our dads both smoked a pipe with St Bruno tobacco in! Do you remember?!

The talk of hospitals and cleanliness therein has been an eye opener for me these last few stays that Mr TA has had. I couldn't believe the state of the floors. Mucky marks all over and dust under all the beds. I hardly ever saw a cleaner throughout the long visiting hours. DS said I am surprised you are not bringing in your steam mop with you! Once of a day the cleaners were in every morning and again in the evening or the wrath of the Matron would be upon them.

Lyn I gather your move went smoothly and you love your beautiful house.

SM (HUGS)) for you. Life just isn't fair is it.

Take care all xx

candlelight_2013

TA I had forgotten about the pipe, but yes I do remember, I can still see my lovely Dad sitting on the garden bench, puffing on his pipe and at peace with the world.


I have heard the Marie Curie nurses are wonderful as well, so hopefully they will be of help to you both.


I will just give a short resume for those who don't read the daily. At the hospital appointment Mr & Mrs TA had, they sadly confirmed that Mr TA has only a few short months left. The cancer has spread rapidly now and Mr TA is sleeping a great deal. You can imagine how devastated the whole family is.


Someone from Marie Curie is coming to see them today and TAs dear Son will be there as well. Son and Daughter both go every day, work permitting to see them both. Their grandchildren obviously don't have a sleep over any more,but they are going for their favourite tea tonight. I think having young people around can lift the atmosphere for a short while.


I know we all send our love to them both, there is nothing physically we can do, but they are in our thoughts often and our prayers xx

LaineyT

Just to add what Candlelight so eloquently said TA please make the most of the help from the hospice, they were absolutely invaluable when we were looking after Mum and helped us as much as her. Much love to you all x

candlelight_2013

Hello everyone,


Weather wise it was a good start to the day, but it is raining now.


We went to have our flu jabs this morning and picked our prescriptions up on the way.


Went to pick up a pair of trousers from M&S I ordered,but they are miles too big so will pop them back tomorrow, M&S don't seem very consistent with their sizing these days.


TA I hope Marie Curie have been able to help you with regard to support for yourself and Mr TA. I understand steroids can be very helpful in the right circumstances, I wonder if you were able to discuss that with a medical professional. I hope the girls enjoy their favourite tea tonight and perhaps give you a cuddle as well, you deserve it.


SM, good luck with the Dentist tomorrow, I don't envy you, and try to enjoy your break, but there is such a lot going on in your family as well.


Ivyleaf, I hope the eye is OK today. Ithink the worse bit is the constant drops, but isn't it lovely to be able to see. My other eye is almost ready for the op so must get myself to an optician so I can be referred .


Polly hope you and DD are OK, I think one of your lavender candles is called for Mr and Mrs TA. Do you know if candles, prayers, hugs and healing vibes could bring about a miracle our Mr TA would be well again, because I think we have all participated in this..


Lainey are you and Lu OK?


Lyn, how is the house now, have you managed to find a place for everything and how is that hand? I hope you are looking after it xx

LaineyT

I have found M&S’s sizing most confusing Candlelight and have given up on most of its clothes now, apart from undies that is.
Lulu is good thank you, we had a dressage lesson today and, apart from one mini stop and stare at the hedge for no reason, she was very well behaved. Schooling wise she was a pretty blank canvas when I got her a year ago and given her age I have taken it very slowly. She is a smart little cookie and picks things up quickly.
Enjoy your break SM and easy for me to say I know but do try to relax.

Hope Polly is ok?

Lyn must be so busy nesting away, how lovely to have her loved ones so much closer.

Love to all x

Elona_2

TA

I am so sorry to hear the news. Please make sure you take any help offered and try to take care of yourself if you can. Hoping things go as pain free and gently as possible for you both. Thinking of you all and wishing I could do something to help.

Hugs to all

scottishminnie

TA family - I'm thinking of you, life really is c**p isn't it. I feel so angry at the moment, I can't imagine how you feel.

I finished work today, have tomorrow to get ready. My boss called me earlier - his MIL also has a terminal illness so he understands. It feels like everyone I know is in the same boat in some way - also feels like some seem to be handling it better than others but then you never really know how people are underneath. One thing is for sure, it makes you far more tolerant as you just never know what is round the corner.

I can see tomorrow will be manic - tomatoes to harvest, soup to make, MIL to visit, not forgetting mum, the housework, packing and a 6 mile run to make up for the glass of wine I had tonight - no lying in bed for me!

Hubby is asleep in the den, he has a sore throat and a stinky cold so I'm doping him up in the hope of fending it off. I think we are both just a bit run down ( and in his words , a pair of old farts). I have to say he keeps me well and truly grounded - it's why I married him:)