The Garden Fence - proper Old Style support and chat!

fuddle

I am feeling better, thank you. I've been eating a lot of white rice to try to heal with the aid of aloe vera and prune juice. I've been trying to educate myself on how I can increase my fibre without consuming wheat. Wheat is in so much! I'm frantically trying to learn about ancient grains.

I'm also learning about eating for my blood type and who'd thunk it, my type is susceptible to all my issues and wheat. Monna you may have been tongue in cheek saying we all have a diet plan when we're born but I really do think there's some truth in it.

I have the MRI this afternoon so one step closer to knowing and getting healthier. Fear has abated, determination is in the forefront.

Lyn I've a whole strip of wildflower seeds along by my fruit bushes. As the years go on I want the edges wildflower instead of weeds. Nature just wants to cover itself so I'd rather I gave it a helping hand by it being beneficial to the bees my crops and my senses. Gona take a while though.

It's a tricky situation MM. I know myself that Mr Pea Seedling has helped me by taking the suckers off my tomato plants. Unfortunately because he didn't ask or talk to me about it he's taken off the growth of my determinate bush cherry tomatoes. It needed those bushy bits to fruit. While I understand he was trying to help I am so very cross. He's given me a cordon variety to grow so I'll get some tomatoes for the ones I lost but we only eat cherry Toms so he's taken away my choice and my ability to learn about bush tomato growing. He feels awful and I can't make him feel any worse by taking out my grumpiness on him but deep down I'm really cross he interfered and didn't give me the respect I deserve in terms of having some idea what I'm doing.

That said he is watering only while I'm away next week and if anything happens while he just waters then I won't be cross. I'm leaving my green house behind and anything that happens due to over/underwatering then that my fault. I wasn't there.

I am sorry that your good deed has turned into a bind but I think the difference is your neighbour asked for helped and agreed a plan of action. I do feel that she needs to take some responsibility by not being there. Had you not watered the grass would be extremely dry given this very dry period. Of she didn't want you to feed when it was hot then she should have said so I think.

silvasava

MMF - so sorry you and DH are experiencing such upset,as you say it will all right itself in a few weeks especially if we get some rain but your neighbour is not being very forgiving for your kind deed TBH I never water the lawn even in the rare heatwaves 'cos it always recovers, no help to you though
Floss - Yay! One happy DH - it makes for a much happier household if DH enjoys his job!
Mar - my DH drives me to distraction on many occasions but I always say I'm never training another one! Like Monna - I'll have a cat....or two
NM - its always the small irritations that really get under your skin isnt it - and what with the noise,the rubbish and limited access to the washing line you've had to put up with so much. I really do hope you get some improvements very soon.
MrsL - how nice to be able to meet your purchaser - hopefully it will enable a smooth transition for both of you. I'm sure she'll fall in love with your garden, who wouldnt?
Fuddle - shame about the tomatoes but Mr PS was probably trying to make amends and it backfired - a bit like MMF's hubby. Glad your health seems to be improving and that you are feeling somewhat more positive and determined.
Just doing piddling jobs today - DH bought me a voucher for christmas and Ive finally booked for a full body massage and facial - that's my Saturday sorted! Need to start packing for my trip to Greece next week - I always end up taking too much - for Justin. Maybe Greenbee can give me some tips?

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FUDDLE tomatoes being the enthusiastic little replacers of side shoots that they are the plants might just recover and grow some more, I'd cover your back by getting some plants in just in case they don't but you might find they grow replacements and you get a later crop from them? I might be wrong but it would be worth keeping just a couple of plants and seeing what happens just in case yes?

Softstuff

Good grief MMF, is it really so bad it needs returfing? Generally lawn is relatively tough stuff, even with a bit of fertiliser burn and a good steady period of watering and mowing would see it right.

And at the end of the day, it is just grass, I think frankly she's overreacting, it might have nothing to do with you at all (it might have been happening anyway). I understand your mortification, you certainly wouldn't have intended this to happen, I just think she needs to realise that too.

Just wondering too if the dead patches could actually be lawn grub? In which case, feeding can make it worse, just because they like fresh healthy lawn and the healthier the lawn the more they go at it. In which case, you wouldn't have known and they were already there. If it is lawn grub in any case, no sense returfing over until that's treated because they'll go after fresh turf too.

fuddle

Excellent point Softstuff. it has triggered my memory. We had an awful leather jacket problem in the first house we 'owned'. Every spring the grass would die back and with some investigation of our own we found little whitish grey grubs... leatherjackets. If I remember rightly they're the larvae of the cranefly. Best way round it we found was scarifying, watering and heavily reseeding.

Nematodes in the autumn if I recall.

pandamonium

Good luck with the MRI Fuddle. Hope it gives you some useful info to build on.

Such a shame when good deeds go wrong, MMF and Fuddle. Lawns usually recover from anything, and as it has been unusually hot and dry for this time of year I doubt Mr MMF is entirely responsible. I'd keep the tomoto plants and see what happens. There's nothing to lose bar some time and effort.

Ivyleaf, I currently have copper tape protecting some potted lupins. They are potted until they are big enough to not be devoured by slugs/snails overnight . Once planted in the garden I have got some other natural slug deterrent from Wilko's. Never tried it before, so we shall see.

I have some sewing looking at me accusingly, so had better get on with it. I've been putting it off for ages and it's not as though it will even take long, I hope!

Panda x

Hard_Up_Hester

Brief post from me, the mifi is dire, hugs to all. Mar I'm with you, mine's so grumpy and critical I want to throw him in the cut!

silvasava

Panda - do post on how you get on with Wilco's slug deterrent. I'm using the blue things but I put them under a little house made from some stones and a piece of broken pot so the birds can't get at them.

monnagran

Panic here for a bit when I couldnt find any familiar threads. Switched off and on again but just the same. Posted a moan but later on I tried again and back it all came.

Sorry if I put the wind up anybody.

Just off out again. The sun has gone in and rain predicted for later on. Hope I get back before it starts.

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I think there may have been problems at the MSE end this afternoon as I tried to log in after I'd walked Cookie at around 3 o clock and just got a message saying UNKNOWN ERROR and that the site couldn't be connected. I switched everything off in case it was a virus and when He Who Knows came home at 5ish we tried again and it was all normal but on 'Chrome' it's taking a very long time to load both the forum boards and individual threads.