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If it transpires that social services need to be involved for the very good of your Mum, OR you feel that you need them involved for YOUR peace of mind before the GP involvement then absolutely make that call. I called SS about my mother when I lived in Dorset and although they couldn't help they explained why and what my next procedure would be. I have a feeling that SS will, with what you've told us, look at your situation because you can't be there and the only other port of call hasn't had the foresight (or ability either) to look out for your Mum.
Cases (sorry to be formal
The problem I will continue to face is she is strong willed, stubborn and doesn't see anything wrong. Whilst those are generally good resilient traits, I don't think she is presently taking care of herself very well.
I believe someone from social services did visit her a couple of weeks back and suggested a plank for the bath, then came back and fitted it. There's no way she could use it, she's had 4 falls in the past 12 months, the last one was 12 stitches to her head, she is far from stable enough to balance on that (not sure I'd want to either unaided).
I'm going to read every kind link you all sent me, write first to the GP, give him a couple of days, then work from there. I've made sure people there have my contacts and are looking in on her over the next few days, this I suspect is a problem that's been building over months, not recently. I appreciate though that a uti would make it far worse (I used to work in a care home in another life).
My concern is that the GP won't care, Mum adores him and will always wait to see him, but I'm not entirely sure he's... diligent. We will see.
Thank you all again xx
P.S this is not helping my sleeping, and I drank last night when I shouldn't have.
Hoole! Fish and chips from Lowndes chippy and the auction house on Lightfoot St where I bought all the furniture for our first flat (nothing cost more than £12, most stuff I bought was less than £6!). As we got more sophisticated we used to get a takeaway from the Chinese on Charles St
Softstuff, glad you are in touch with your mum's neighbours/friends. At least they can keep you informed. I guess the time differences are causing problems for you as well. Email should be very useful. Remember, you can only do so much wherever you are. Most of us have to deal with these things by phone and email, even if we are in the same country, so don't stress about the distance too much.
Fortunately I will have no debts apart from the mortgage but that is interest only and my changes of paying it off before I retire in ten years have just shot down to zero! I am coming to terms with a lot at the moment and thought you seem like a really nice group of people to hang out with! May I join your chats?
Emergency fund £2000 Penny a day ***, mortgage overpayment this month ***
Would you be able offer private coaching to bring in a bit more money? I know someone who does this. No need to go throuh an agency that will take a chunck of your fee, just advertise locally. If you are an art teacher just offer classes for adult beginners. Oh, thinking about it, most subjects could be offered to adults if you advertise the right way. The benefit of offering classes to adults is that they would be willing students who came to you voluntarily!!
Good luck with your new, exciting and slightly scary pat :j:T:beer:
Softstuff if you're firm enough and the GP realises you are on the ball and mean business then that will def help shove him into action.
I seem to have put on 5lbs, I never ever put on weight! I wonder what body part has gone wonky now
Waiting for the promised heavy snow here, it does feel a wee bit too still and calm... temp sitting on zero and sky very grey..
Rain ing here, there's a surprise!
I shall be collecting my car today as we are nearly home.
I wish I'd known - I'd have come and collected you. We could have gone for a cuppa somewhere.
Softstuff....ring the doctor. It's as good a starting point as any. Things to ask for (via social services as Fuddle rightly says) seem to be some sort of care package that will involve people coming in to check on your mum. This can be done via a key safe box on the wall outside - a coded box containing the door key so she doesn't have to let them in. My dad's GP was very helpful once I explained that I wanted to give them information rather than discuss his current treatment. They then arranged for him to be spoken to by a doctor on one of his trips there for something else. I seem to think I'm just that bit too far away to easily go and check up for you but obviously, if things get really out of hand I could.
Still nursing the fading charge on my tablet.
Must give priority to emails.
Missing you all.
THOUGHT FOR TODAY
I'm not lazy - I'm energy saving.
Who lift us to our feet when our wings
Have trouble remembering how to fly.
Truth be told, I daren't call today. I've spent the whole of the day on the verge of throwing up, incredibly panicky and anxious. I haven't eaten anything all day because my stomach has been in absolute knots. Aiming to manage some dinner. Tomorrow I have to start calling and see where I can get to. Anything I do though will be against her wishes, that much I know.