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MMF007

Blimey, some ex's are horrendous :mad:

Yesterday was a mixed bag.
Good - We blew the budget on lunch at a lovely venue, views were stunning, food lovely, company a delight. We shall be eating in for the 4 nights, at least! Thank goodness the Pound has strengthened :rotfl:
Bad - a lovely client of mine, who I have known for at least 25 years and worked for during the last year, sadly passed away peacefully on Sunday.
Today we went in search of sympathy cards for her best friend and for her brother (both also lovely people). I stumbled across a very unusual card that really hit home in relation to my dad. Cue a tearful episode in the middle of a supermarket! I bought the card and have posted it to mum. As I write about it I think I will get one for myself, it was so 'dad', the way it was phrased.

Lots of heavy showery rain today so we have shopped for presents for my niece's birthday and a few others, had cheese salad for lunch and chatted companionably all afternoon. DH and i are going to sit down with a 'to do' list for 2018 in a few mins, and sort out some plans. Will include getting fitter (I started that campaign last year but was derailed a bit!), more tai chi, and less tv-watching!

I have to say, I could get used to this life of leisure :rotfl: :beer:

Hard_Up_Hester

Monna, that reminds me of when i was childminding two little boys who told me that their daddy was in Japan for a year on business. A few days later there was a tv program about an open prison and there was the dad, serving time for VAT fraud!

burtha

Morning all,
Wide awake afer a few hours sleep, washer on but chilling a bit, dogs sitting next to me
Yesterday was fun ... parents evening , 3mw came too :eek:,was actually quite funny to watch , because he started of all happy and woo look at me I'm so good I'm here type of thing , within seeing 2 teachers he was very quiet .... maybe he realised that he really didn't have a clue what they were taking about ,what she was doing at sch , what she was struggling with ... normal stuff that he knew nothing about .... and yes I could ask and understand what was going on and make plans to support her ..... he obviously couldn't offer anything because he's not around .... and as the teachers know what's going on ,as I keep them informed a couple did make me laugh as they watched him squirm rega:rotfl:rding the sudden drop in her grades and hoping that everything was in place to support her now .... like those teachers
So I hope he felt like he looked ....guilty ....came out very quiet ...who knows ...
kids picked it up though ...quote " dad can you brink the camera back because I need it for art" (camera was bought for her) , his reply ."..do you .".. hence dd looking at him like he was stupid .....hey ho ...karma

So hes at the house today , moving carpets very for building work ... probably won't see him , as I'll be running around with the kids ,so that's good

Right off to change the washing ....and maybe a run
sorry for the rant
xx

silvasava

Burtha - that's not a rant! It's a vent and feel free whenever you need. I was thinking maybe the penny has dropped for 3mw but then again thought nah - he'll probably brush it aside like everything else.
Hope you've managed a doze at least.

karcher

MMF I'm just pleased you are having a relaxing time even if it is tinged with sadness.

Burtha words really do fail me regarding your ex..what a complete and utter waste of space he is.
I do hope you didn't go out running in the early hours, not because you shouldn't run but I'd be concerned for your safety.
Rant away...you deserve to on a daily basis imo x

Monna Sheer nosiness has me intrigued by what your despicable ex has done though I don't expect you to share I am pleased he got his just deserts!

As to me, well I'm slowly picking up now. I had contemplated returning to work today but decided against it as I just don't feel well enough. I feel so guilty about not going though

Islandmaid

BURTHA - Rant away Hun, we have broad shoulders, and hips but that’s another story

I bet you had a great evening watching him squirm....

I am the ex owner of a less than brilliant husband too....

Talking of school, once I was ill, and I had to beg ex to take kids to primary school before he went to his VERY important job as I was throwing up for England (soz TMI) he managed to get the kids dressed with a lot of stress and shouting, drove off wheels screaming - about an hour later, I hear the car scream back into the drive, with him yelling and shouting and swearing - I rushed out to find 3 hysterical children and a ranting husband - the idiot couldn’t find their school.... truly... he did not know where his own children went to school..... not long after he became my ex idiot...

monnagran

burtha, don't you EVER apologise for ranting here. What do you think we are here for?

I love, love, love your account of parents' evening. Things like this will bring 3mw back to the reality of what he has done quicker than anything. He will be able to shrug off anything you or friends tell him, but when he was obviously expecting a pat on the back for simply turning up and being faced with professionals telling him the same thing, it must have been a nasty shock.
I wouldn't expect an immediate transformation of character, but just maybe a little worm of doubt might wriggle into his conscience.
Good for you to be missing while the work on the house is going on.

Nothing really planned for me today. I love days when I wake up and find I have a whole day when I can do anything or nothing. At the beginning of the month I made a list of what I wanted to do before February dawned. There are still a couple of things untackled so I might knock one of those off. Possibly clean the Venetian blinds in my bedroom that I have been putting off for about a year. D.I.S.G.U.S.T.I.N.G.

ETA. Karcher, what are you like!!! Don't you DARE to even think about going to work. Not for days yet. You are in no fit state to be going out, never mind going to work.
Back to bed with you. NOW!

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

Being happy is a very personal thing and it really has nothing to do with anyone else.

elona

karcher

Don't think about going back to work as you are obviously not up to it and you will make yourself really poorly if you try to do too much too soon.

burtha

Can't believe 3mw and his obliviousness :eek::eek: Maybe it will be a wake up call and he will consider his family more.

Hugs to all

Floss

My ex never went to any parents evening after we split up - he said it was "too far to travel after work".. despite having made the same journey when we were still together :cool::mad:

FurryBeastOz

After hearing all your stories about idiot ex-s I feel blessed. Ish.

I’m packing to go through to Edinburgh for the funeral. DH informed me this morning he won’t be coming as he has too much to do on his thesis. It is due next Friday, but he has done FA on it since I got sober so can’t blame the last minute rush on me.

I feel angry that he’s left it so late, but also I’m full of fear about the funeral and being around all my family drinking at such an emotional time. I could really have done with the support.

Hey ho. I’m going early this afternoon to help my sister who is not only feeling guilty and doing too much, but has also done her back in again so is in heavy duty codeine etc and should be lying down not carting around photo boards.

I’m not sure whether I’ll have access over the weekend, but I’ll be back on Sunday to cheer myself up.

Karcher Stay put. You’ll have a relapse if you do too much too soon and will be no use


Burtha (((hugs)))