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Hard_Up_Hester

Wise word from Monna and Mrs LW, life is for living whatever the pitfalls.
I probably learned not to trust at my mother's knee, way to many instances to bore you with but her sleeping with one of my BF's was a pivotal moment. Sounds like something off Jeremy Kyle doesn't it.
Anyhoo, hubby is on hols for a couple of days, we're on babysitting duties today and tomorrow and then we are of along the canal for a couple of days.

nannywindow

Karcher sorry I have only just read your last post re the dentist costs. We have an emergency NHS dentist near us, who only works weekends and is a fraction of the cost of a private one. You just ring for an appointment even if you have your own dentist. Maybe you have one near you ? HTH.

silvasava

Wise words Monna and Mrs L - and often we need to mature enough to appreciate what we have!

camelot1001

Deep thinking on here today! Love all your thoughts and words.

karcher

MrsLurcherwalker wrote: »

But also, even if you've been burned and destroyed by relationships that were your world, rejected by the love of your life (or so you thought) and found that precious balance again when dust clouds have settled and feathers been unruffled life can sometimes give you the most precious gift of all, a true friend to share it with, a good man to stand beside you through thick and thin, someone to laugh with, work with, someone to laugh at you and himself, someone who you learn to care deeply for in a way that shallow 'true love' excludes, someone to cherish and appreciate because he appreciates who and what you are and is happy to let you be yourself even if he doesn't entirely understand why! Blessings sometimes happen! xxx.

I do agree with you MrsLW, but not everyone is that fortunate despite years of trying and striving to overcome the latest obstacle thrown at them.
Some can try and try but no matter what they do, life just isn't kind to them and they deal with it all alone.
That's the flip side xx

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I did say 'sometimes' love, these things come when you've accepted what has been and stopped trying to change what is but not always. I've always found in life that for as long as I've tried to plan, manipulate life to take me where I want to go I either stand still or go backwards, change only seems to come when I realise I've reached complete acceptance that what 'is' now is how it's going to be. Only when I've reached that point and become content with it does unexpected change happen and usually for the better. I'm not a very patient person and I do like to bargain with the 'fates' all to no avail, I have to wait and when I've stopped pushing for my own way, sometimes I end up where I wanted to be in the first place xxx.

ivyleaf

Oh karcher ((((((HUGS))))))

monnagran

Another bright day although foggy earlier on. It can't have been too bad because I heard no fog horns from the ships. Pity, I love that sound.

I managed to do a bit in the garden yesterday but was exhausted after an hour. I used to love putting the garden to bed for the winter and hate the fact that I find it all a bit much these days. DS2 will be getting a call soon as I have another viewing at the end of next week and want the garden tidied up by then.

Apart from that I just have a pile of ironing and a trip to the hairdresser for a tidy up today.

Thanks for your your words Lyn. I know that they are a reflection of your own experience.

Karcher x

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

We are all cast in the same mould, but some are mouldier than others. (my Dad)

nursemaggie

karcher know that we love you come what may. Hugs :grouphug:

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Karcher my sweetie, my heartbreak happened nearly 50 years ago, yours is still too recent to be looked at let alone dealt with. I remember the searing raw hurt and complete sense of loss and bewilderment only too well and I wish I could wrap you round in love and comfort and take it all away forever. It took me long lonely painful years to even begin to come to terms with what happened, let alone get over it even a tiny bit but it did come eventually and I could see a tiny bit of light and go forward cautiously. I wasn't looking for a relationship when I met He Who Knows which is why we became firm friends first and probably why we're content now because even when he drives me MADDD (yes, some days he does) I remember that he's my best pal and step sideways until I've gotten over whatever it is that annoys. It WILL get easier to cope love, it's a clich! but time and a bit of distance helps and one day you'll feel differently to how you do today. We love you to bits, you're part of the family, never think you're unloved and alone. I know it's only virtual friends but care we do! xxx.