5 OS pleasures in your day today - part 3

mhagster

Hello. Just woken ( rather uncomfortably) from a snooze.

Been to work and left work! It was fine bit busy at times. Was glad to get finished.

The niecelys came in and had lunch just before I finished. Sat with them and had a tuna sandwich.

Boss had brought me a Danish pastry in . Supposedly for breakfast had it at 2pm!

Chatted with friends .

Nipped into supermarket and got some lovely RTC flowers.

Doggy was on a big dog walk when I came in. In the pouring rain! Air is a bit clearer after some thunder.

ampersand

Concert just over in this wonderful Rennie Mackintosh church space, which is also an art space.

Tonight's 1-5ty, in a very twelvety way, Spookymen's Chorale.

Back to Perth shortly, raining, and tomorrow night Edinburgh, for more please.

Cutting le vin rouge with H²O.

People not wanting to leave.

Singing en choeur to close (and & so much throughout)was glorious.

Bonne nuit à tout et à tous.
#
C
Raffles - Cricket will not be spoken of.
Merci millefois.

Frith

Pleasures for today (Saturday).


1) Not a bad sleep.


2) Managed to get stuff done before it got too hot- cleaned the hen sleeping quarters out, picked currants, watered the allotment. Tidied the garden, did 2 loads of washing and tidied up.


3) More planning for our holiday - leaving tomorrow. :-)


4) HM soup for lunch (from the freezer) then I made some apple turnovers. Made curry and rice for tea, with a naan.


5) Did almost nothing in the late afternoon. The cat didn't move off the path for hours!


6) Watched Casualty.

Suffolksue

Hope you have a lovely holiday Frith

LaineyT

Saturday pleasures,

Breakfast out with the hollow legged ones plus significant other, I opted for the veggie which was tasty but with the surprising addition of cottage cheese?

They asked about our usual race day, pleasure was we could offer to get them tickets because of Capt S alliance with bookie and credit built up.

Heat rising so grateful to get back to our cool house, I had been round and shut all curtains that faced the sun.

Washed bedding and dried in less than two hours.

It got hotter....and hotter so the pleasure of knowing we had nothing more taxing to do than watch cricket/football or in my case get stuck into my latest book.

Ice-cream and wine might have been involved at some point.

Happy hols Frith.

villagelife

1. Met a friend for coffee and had a good catch up. We managed some cake too.

2. Gorgeous day. Loved sitting outside. When we got back at 11pm we went outside to sit too and still warm.

3. Some gardening done. Some plants I had grown from cuttings were planted in the ground.

4. Did some of DH accounts in the garden. Better than sitting inside and doing them.

5. Met friends for a meal. Good good and they are happy. Going away on Monday to get Matt in a couple of weeks with only close family there.

Suffolksue

Pleasures for yesterday

1 much better night so I felt more able to cope.

2 managed to get DH transferred from bed to wheelchair ,the to riser chair without to much angst !

3 cut two of the grassed areas ( can't call them lawns !),will cut last one later when heat less.

4 shopped for most of the week ,have so many people and much equipment. Coming that the pleasure is one thing less to do
5 Sat outside just for 10 min late evening and it was so peaceful.DH was asleep in front of TV and it was just me ,regrouping my thoughts ,essential I think at the moment .

Thank you for your support ,so many friends and family are so upset I can't really impose my feelings on them too .

mhagster

Sue I know you have different circumstances to mine but a similarity in seeing your loved one deteriorating and not a damn thing you can do about it. I really feel for you and wish it wasn't so but accepting it is ( to me anyway) is better than being in denial.

To the friends and family that say let me know when / what I can do to help. Let them. This is a hard thing to actually acknowledge that you need help . I struggled with this. But do you know if someone wants to cook you meals for your freezer or cut your grass let them. It makes them feel they are helpful instead of helpless.


Up to a point I'd say no thank you we are fine. Then one day I said well actually yes, I'd love some meals. And when we'd had a busy hospital day it was good to have something precooked. I'd a chap that came and did the gardens. ( we had a huge garden in Melbourne this one is much more manageable)

If friends say can I help you? Say would you mind sitting with OH for an hour whilst I go for a swim/walk/coffee somewhere. He'll be happy that you're still getting out and about and you'll have an hours respite. Which is maybe just enough to recharge all your batteries. Mentally, physically and emotionally.

If friends say can I help you...oh you know those lovely biscuits you bake could you make me a batch? I'd a lovely friend who made lovely biscuits.

It doesn't have to be a huge thing for them to feel like a huge thing for you.

I'm sure you , like I'd done, have helped others and it's hard to be on the receiving end of kindness when you're usually a giver of kindness but I always say it's nice to be nice. People want to help so let them.

Cherish the moments of clarity and twinkles in eyes and raising of eyebrows with each other. And just love. Its what you have together that counts. And know that we are all behind you on here. If we can give you a kind word, an encouragement , a beating heartbeat from Jenny ( she's very generous) a laugh with our mishaps it will sustain you. And remember tomorrow is always another day. Sometimes you just have to go to bed on one day and start afresh the next.

I've just done a little 4 hour shift. Day blooming 24 in a row. Did a scone Masterclass this morning and they turned out fine! So I'm home and had some doggy snuggles and just had a very refreshing shower and changed out my black garb...

Had a chat with niece. She'd sent some lovely photos this morning of GN and baby. He's 6 weeks old today and was smiling. His whole face lights up.

Weathers a bit iffy so may do allotment later. It might be busy just now. Prefer it when it's just me!

[Deleted User]

It's cooler today and we have a nice breeze!

Coffee out with DD1 and James at the garden centre, lovely.

I got another pack of the delicious local strawberries they sell there in the food hall.

Bees in the garden on the flowers, they are tree bumble bees and we have the nest between our garden shed and the fence, masses of them and I love them, I can see them fly in and out all day.

The birds have got used to the new bird table and are taking food from both the flat top and using the feeder baskets, it's taken a while but now it's established and they know where to come to. I can see them from the conservatory which will be really nice in the colder months of winter.

Suffolksue

Mhagster Thankyou ,I don't know what to say X
Our circumstances are very similar ,different diagnosis but pretty much the same effects and will definitely have the same outcome .I was lurking during your struggle and was in awe of your strength ,your children were so much younger ,I am still in awe of the way you cope

Sadly family is all at least 11/2 hrs away ,DH is the youngest of 6 ,the eldest was 82 yesterday .
Local friends are all still stunned but rallying quickly
I will accept help when offered ,like you I've usually been the giver ,when my daughter was dying ,my son in law went to pieces ,so I was the support and of course her children were only 7and5 when she died ,hard to believe DGD had her prom this week and goes to college for A levels in September .
Thank you so,so much for all you have written .
Sue