Husband told me he is bi-sexual

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Hermia wrote: »

My apologies, but that sentence made me spit tea all over my laptop!

This is not uncommon. I know a few women whose spouses claimed they did not believe in monogamy and wanted an open relationship, but were then horrified when their wives pointed out that an open relationship means both of them could have other relationships. I have one friend who is into the swinger scene and she says a lot of new male swingers get quite disgruntled when they discover their wife is far more in demand than they are!

One of my exes was really pushing for it (and had been secretly trying to get himself involved as a single male without success before he'd started bothering me about it).

I found out later that he'd been completely humiliated by the person he'd asked, because he thought it was a nasty thing to be trying to do on the quiet (he was in an open relationship where they were both happy with the arrangement, which is completely different - and he already knew from times when the subject had cropped up, the now ex wasn't out with us and I'd mentioned that it wasn't my thing), he made a point of making his eyes light up and exclaiming

'Oh, wow, JJTTF is into the Lifestyle? That's wonderful, all our friends love her and my wife thinks she's gorgeous! We'd love to have her come along! You can drop her off at ours and we'll look after her for you!'. When the now ex muttered that he thought he'd be there as well, the friend looked very sad, sighed and told him very gently that they were a bit oversubscribed with men at the moment, but he was sure there would be space at some time in future and he was sure I'd let him know when that happened.

Oh, how it hurt not to laugh out loud when I got told that. Apparently, the now ex blushed and scuttled away. I had wondered why he had been in such a foul temper and why the whining comments had stopped so suddenly...

kgb263

Sorry to say, but you don't know your husband. As millions of other women do not know their husbands like they think they do. Many, many men have these desires, some act on them, many do not. it was very difficult for him to tell you I'm sure. but no matter what, only you guys can define your marriage and relationship. Forget the masses, be yourself

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kgb263 wrote: »

Sorry to say, but you don't know your husband. As millions of other women do not know their husbands like they think they do. Many, many men have these desires, some act on them, many do not. it was very difficult for him to tell you I'm sure. but no matter what, only you guys can define your marriage and relationship. Forget the masses, be yourself

You really felt the need to drag up this 2 year old post to say that

silvercar

_shel wrote: »

You really felt the need to drag up this 2 year old post to say that

New poster, possibly trying to reach 10 posts so they can post spam links.

Sighs.

Marvel1

silvercar wrote: »

New poster, possibly trying to reach 10 posts so they can post spam links.

Sighs.

The exact same thing happened on House Renting & Buying, different poster, but 2 year old thread!

Pollycat

_shel wrote: »

You really felt the need to drag up this 2 year old post to say that

silvercar wrote: »

New poster, possibly trying to reach 10 posts so they can post spam links.

Sighs.

<<sighs too>>


The thing with dredging up old threads is that the OP may have weathered the storm she posted about over 18 months ago and bringing the thread back to life could have re-opened old scars for her.
It happened on a thread on the Pets board where someone necro-posted on an old thread started by someone who had lost a beloved pet.
Had I been the OP of that thread, I'd have found it very painful to have my feelings of loss brought back months and even years afterwards.

gomer

I hate Necro-ing threads myself. Trouble is when you post intimate stuff on a public forum it's kind of out there for ever and can be brought back up at any time. Sort of the risk you take.

Pollycat

gomer wrote: »

I hate Necro-ing threads myself. Trouble is when you post intimate stuff on a public forum it's kind of out there for ever and can be brought back up at any time. Sort of the risk you take.

Me too.
It often wastes people's time because they reply to the original post.
I always take notice of the date of the original post before replying.

victor2

gomer wrote: »

I hate Necro-ing threads myself. Trouble is when you post intimate stuff on a public forum it's kind of out there for ever and can be brought back up at any time. Sort of the risk you take.

And yet seemingly intelligent people do it time after time...

vatread

I agree with you!!