When things hit rock bottom the only answer is to fight the way back up...

[Deleted User]

Oh lovely, I'm sure work understands. People tend to be more understanding these days when it comes to children.

Chin up honey xxx

Sun_Addict

If work don't understand then they're not worth working for. Sounds like they do though. Sorry to hear DD is still unwell, hope she's better soon xx

I don't think you realise just how wonderfully well you're doing, you shouldn't feel sorry for yourself, you're a super mum and you've achieved so much, I just wish you could see it.

Take care xx

armchairexpert

You've got some negative people in your life, but that's about them, not you. You're doing great.

Also, of course, all children get sick a lot when they first start childcare or school or whatever their first formal group situation is. Which means every working parent has this experience of going back to work and then having to take time off early on. It's easy to feel hopeless about it - if you have to miss days ALREADY how will you cope - but in fact, this bit is the hard bit. She'll get more robust in terms of not picking up other kids' bugs, and you'll feel more comfortable as you've been there longer, and it'll settle down. This isn't a precursor of things to come, it's just a transition period.

UncannyScot

armchairexpert wrote: »

You've got some negative people in your life, but that's about them, not you. You're doing great.

Also, of course, all children get sick a lot when they first start childcare or school or whatever their first formal group situation is. Which means every working parent has this experience of going back to work and then having to take time off early on. It's easy to feel hopeless about it - if you have to miss days ALREADY how will you cope - but in fact, this bit is the hard bit. She'll get more robust in terms of not picking up other kids' bugs, and you'll feel more comfortable as you've been there longer, and it'll settle down. This isn't a precursor of things to come, it's just a transition period.

Absolutely

Hiddenidenity

Morning, thank you for all the replies. I'm sorry I poured my feeling sorry for myself on here No sleep and the worries of youngest is definitely catching up! I could sit in the corner crying

Waiting on her respiratory nurses coming to visit. Fingers crossed she can stay home and be treated here! It would feel a huge step back if we ended up back on the ward!

All my irrational thinking of what did I do wrong is taking place at stupid hours of the morning when I just think why meh! Stupid minds eh, if we had a switch off button would be perfect!

I have had to call in work, I haven't told my mum yet. Stupid I'm an 'adult' and scared of telling my mum She won't be happy though!

Other two have gone to school but even they feel slightly anxious over what will happen next so I even feel guilty about that A 6 an 8 year old shouldn't have those worries

UncannyScot

No apologies needed here luv
You are doing everything you can for them and the other two are obviously concerned cos it's their wee sis that's no well...
YOU are doing great and THEY know that you are doing everything for THEM.
You hold hard missus, you will get through this as I said, it's a bump in the road...
(((((HUGS)))))
:A

Toni'sfriend

You're doing your best and everyone should be supporting you in any way they can. I have enormous admiration for the way you've. turned your life around under very difficult circumstances. I hope the wee one is ok. Please look after yourself.

monz

Aww hope you are ok and your wee girl xxxxxx

[Deleted User]

Sending get well wishes to your little one and big hugs to you too xxx

EssexHebridean

You absolutely were NOT wrong to take the job - as others have said work know your situation and they employed you knowing about it, so all good, yes?

As for being sorry about pouring your feelings out - that's what we're here for and this thread is here for - it's YOUR diary and if you can't be honest with yourself, well! Remember also you're at a low ebb because you're worried about littlest and her condition at the moment too - that won't be helping. I guess your Mum was one of those who said you were wrong to take the job, from what you've said? In any case you absolutely don't need to feel any sort of guilt about not telling her - why on earth would you as a grown adult make a call just to tell her that you've called into work? Just drop it into the next time you have a routine conversation with her maybe? Don't turn it into a big thing though eh!

Lots of good vibes and hugs being sent.