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Buy him a course of lessons for birthday/Christmas? Help give him the push he needs.0
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No, I don't. We don't have a lot of chores that need doing because we're generally tidy people, and we have a cleaner. Laundry usually gets done at the weekend. But he does expect me to sort out the dinner every day, then complains that it is too late on the evenings I get home late from the gym. My suggestion of him doing the dinner on nights I am home late fall on deaf ears because he has told me, without a doubt, that he hates cooking and doesn't ever want to do it.
This is where things differ on driving, because he says he wants to learn, but doesn't do anything about it
Well it sounds like to you want him to cook whilst your at the gym?
That aside I don't know how you break down other dynamics in your relationship, but equitable splits are usually the best way.0 -
Has he ever lived on his own and managed a household or has he always had a woman around who did most things?
Didn't you discuss how the chores would be done when he moved in or did you just carry on doing everything as you did when you lived alone?
It sounds as if you both need to sit down and draw up a list of what needs doing every week and divide them up.
Share the cooking - if he wants to buy in something instead of cooking, that's his choice and he pays for the whole meal. When you prepare a meal, you're spending your time - when he buys in he's spending his money.0 -
Has he ever lived on his own and managed a household or has he always had a woman around who did most things?
Didn't you discuss how the chores would be done when he moved in or did you just carry on doing everything as you did when you lived alone?
It sounds as if you both need to sit down and draw up a list of what needs doing every week and divide them up.
Share the cooking - if he wants to buy in something instead of cooking, that's his choice and he pays for the whole meal. When you prepare a meal, you're spending your time - when he buys in he's spending his money.
To be technical when she cooks she's spending her time and some of his money. as they split food shopping0 -
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To be technical when she cooks she's spending her time and some of his money. as they split food shopping
The shopping cost is split so the difference between her cooking and him buying take-away is that she spends time and he spend money.
If he wants to charge her for his decision to buy in food then she should be charging for her time. Once that starts in a relationship, there isn't really a relationship worth saving.
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Doing my own cooking and preparing my own meals, not really an option. I don't want to live a separate life from him.
Eat a substantial lunch instead, then you can have a snack in the evening whilst he is fretting about getting a takeaway - which he can pay for in its entirety, as it is just his meal.He'll make the bed and generally tidy up the living room, not that we are untidy people in the first place, but that hardly takes the same effort or time as what I do.
Who does the bigger things - cleaning windows, decorating, gardening?
I always wonder whether those couples who split the domestic chores evenly, also split the larger household chores evenly? (e.g. both decorating alongside each other) Or do the larger chores get forgotten when divvying up responsibilities ...:heartpuls Mrs Marleyboy :heartpuls
MSE: many of the benefits of a helpful family, without disadvantages like having to compete for the tv remote
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The shopping cost is split so the difference between her cooking and him buying take-away is that she spends time and he spend money.
If he wants to charge her for his decision to buy in food then she should be charging for her time. Once that starts in a relationship, there isn't really a relationship worth saving.
Agreed, was just being technical (or pedantic if you prefer)0
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