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People thinking that you think that you are better than them

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  • -taff wrote: »
    You're not a bit aspie are you?

    And looks like they are having family dinners without you, so maybe ask when the next one is and go?
    Seriously!
    Offence taken.:mad:
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  • hazyjo
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    You can choose your friends... and often you're all in a similar boat.


    But your family? Life often means you'll all end up very different, but usually people find a way to 'blend'.


    My first lot of in-laws thought I was a snob as I came from Chigwell and had a job in London. I'm not and took offence, but they always thought I would look down on them (I didn't). I just used to have to remind myself it was them who had the chip on their shoulder, not the fact I'd done or said anything to them. I remember my SIL once shouting at her 4/5 year old "SHUT THE F.........ING DOOOOOOOR' at the top of her voice, and saying "Sorry, Jo!". I swear a lot and did find it rather amusing that it was okay to say that to her DD but not for my ears LOL. Haha, oh well. Some people just don't feel comfortable with others.


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  • TeamPlum
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    Does it matter? None of this happened anyway.
  • Its interesting my mum and dad's families are from very different backgrounds, and they split when I was little. I grew up around mainly my mums more affluent family. However as I've got older I've become much closer to a cousin on my dad's side, he's more like a brother. At a recent family meal someone asked about my mums mum and how she was. I explained it was quite sad we were looking at selling the family home. Cue my cousin reminiscing about the house when he visited as a child, and the marquee my parents had for their wedding. His son suddenly piped up and said I wasn't like the rest of them. My cousin turn to his son and said "nope she's exactly like us coz she's family she's just posh family & we love her just the same". In contrast to cousin's on my mum's side its constant one-upmanship, comparisons on houses size, cost of engagements rings and how successfully they are I know which side I prefer.
  • euronorris
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    Your entire opening post came across as arrogant and boastful to me, so I'm not surprised that you are viewed that way by your cousins.
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  • Person_one
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    So what are the odds of the OP coming back to the thread do we think?

    Or will he just ignore it till it drops off the front page, and then pop back up with a new 'dilemma' (and a new reason to tell us about his above average salary) in a couple of weeks?
  • TeamPlum
    TeamPlum Posts: 213 Forumite
    Person_one has this trolls number.

    He's over on the house forum asking whether he should get a washer dryer, or a separate washer dryer. Then admitted he hasn't got space for separate, so will get a joint washer dryer.

    The life of the rich eh?
  • suki1964
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    Person_one wrote: »
    So what are the odds of the OP coming back to the thread do we think?

    Or will he just ignore it till it drops off the front page, and then pop back up with a new 'dilemma' (and a new reason to tell us about his above average salary) in a couple of weeks?


    Whilst allowing his own mother to have her house repossessed and telling others his food bill for the month is only £40


    Gave up believing a word he says years ago
  • -taff
    -taff Posts: 15,325 Forumite
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    Seriously!
    Offence taken.:mad:


    Take as much offence as you like.

    I am, I recognised some traits, I was asking.
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  • AylesburyDuck
    AylesburyDuck Posts: 939 Forumite
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    edited 1 February 2017 at 4:07PM
    -taff wrote: »
    Take as much offence as you like.

    I am, I recognised some traits, I was asking.
    My son is also, and i shall (take as much offence as i wish) thank you very much, it's not something that people come out with directly like that, it's seen as insulting (rightly or wrongly), even my son wouldnt presume to be so rude.
    Having Aspergers doesnt give you a free pass to rudeness.
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