Do You Trust Your Other Half?

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Zeni wrote: »

Well I don't cheat because I love my husband and would never want to look elsewhere or hurt him..but you know each to there own.

The poll is pointless it's either do you check his phone or are you ignorant. What about if you are neither? Me I don't check his phone, I know his lock code as he knows mine as we use each others phones sometimes but I don't check it because honestly I trust him.

It's cool that you have your own opinion but to tell people they are ignorant or heads buried in the sands because they don't share it isn't.

Same here.. we know our lock codes/email passwords ect. There's no hint of mistrust. When you're a team, you're a team.

My wife's friend has a bloke that cheated once. She forgave him, and it just came back on her when he cheated again and cancelled their wedding.

motorguy

As Ronald Reagan once said - Trust, but verify.

Brightonsbest_2

thorsoak wrote: »

Oh dear - I feel so sorry for you - it must be terrible to go through life not trusting anyone :-(

Personally - if I feel/felt that someone is/was untrustworthy, then I would have nothing more to do with them.

I would never break the trust of anyone - and I've never been let down - I'm not an innocent - I'm 73 years of age and have lived a pretty full life. Maybe I'm just one of the lucky ones - or my intuition is good.

But how sad, to go through life full of uncertainty - or only the uncertainty that everyone would let you down. Maybe negativity attracts negativity.

Hi

Please do not feel "sorry" for me.

"Trust," do you really beleive that realtionships are based on anyhting else? They are not and people make promises, false promises and lie and lie in order not to get caught, a good exmaple is in my OP.

Anyway, I wish you ATB

Regards

Brightonsbest_2

ringo_24601 wrote: »

Same here.. we know our lock codes/email passwords ect. There's no hint of mistrust. When you're a team, you're a team.

My wife's friend has a bloke that cheated once. She forgave him, and it just came back on her when he cheated again and cancelled their wedding.

Yes, we too share our codes/etc in saving accounts, but I do have a sneaky look especially if she gets more than a couple of texts a day, as we are not mobile phone made.

ATB

Pollycat

Brightonsbest wrote: »

"Trust," do you really beleive that realtionships are based on anyhting else? They are not and some people make promises, false promises and lie and lie in order not to get caught, a good exmaple is in my OP.

There you go.
Fixed that for you.

Brightonsbest_2

Pollycat wrote: »

What a truly sad picture of your own relationship the bit in bold conjures up.

I pity you, I really do.

please do not "pitty.." me, but your choice!

A lady at my place, she talked the talk, EG "I'd chop of his private parts, kick him out,etc,etc" and then it happened, she was a wreck - the bloke left her and the lady had to take 6 months off work

StaffieTerrier

I was cheated on. He didn't blame me. He was a serial cheater, and in fact he's already cheated on his new partner. Does that mean I don't trust my current partner? Of course not. If either of us wanted to go through each other's phone or emails we're more than welcome but we don't because we trust each other and have no intentions of hurting each other.

I know how painful it is when you find out a long term partner has cheated on you but you have to let go and move forward. Worrying that every partner is cheating on you isn't any good for your mental health. It causes stress and anxiety which will often cause problems in a current relationship.

justme111

Brightonsbest wrote: »

please do not "pitty.." me, but your choice!

A lady at my place, she talked the talk, EG "I'd chop of his private parts, kick him out,etc,etc" and then it happened, she was a wreck - the bloke left her and the lady had to take 6 months off work

So how would checking helped it?

annandale

OP. You clearly only want to hear opinions that agree with your own on this one.

I wouldn't check a partners phone, if you have to your relationship is already in trouble.

fairy_lights

Brightonsbest wrote: »

Yes, we too share our codes/etc in saving accounts, but I do have a sneaky look especially if she gets more than a couple of texts a day, as we are not mobile phone made.

ATB

That sounds like pretty unhealthy and controlling behaviour.