Do You Trust Your Other Half?

dirty_magic

Where on earth have you got 90% from? I read about it a while ago and it was more like 40% of all women and 50% of men.

Any surveys are always going to be flawed because they just don't ask enough people, and they rely on people to be honest about a sensitive subject. They also usually don't break down the results into length or seriousness of the relationship. How many of those 40 or 50% are in new relationships that were never going to go anywhere anyway?

Yes 40 or 50% is still high, but if you can't trust someone until they've broken your trust what's the point? You may aswell just stay single.

Gloomendoom

dirty_magic wrote: »

Where on earth have you got 90% from? I read about it a while ago and it was more like 40% of all women and 50% of men.

Duh... that's 90% if you add them together.

Fruitcake

My Lovely has the passcodes and passwords to every device and account, including MSE that I have, and I have all of hers', but that's for practical reasons more than anything else.

We also have medical and financial Power of Attorney for each other as well. We have seen with our parents that by the time you need it, it is to late too if you haven't already got it.

We could check each other's 'phones and emails if we wanted to, but unless it's a specific request to "have a look at this, or that message" neither of us have any need or desire to do so.

Our lives revolve around each other and always will.

Brightonsbest_2

Morning

Thank you all for the new response.

As anticipated by me, sadly, most have their heads buried in the sand.

How many people have had another half where they declared, "I'm cheating on you,"? The ones that found out, did not not previously say things like, EG, "you are the love of my life, I will never cheat on you, let you down, you can trust me, you are my life, etc, etc"?

Most men given half a chance would go for it. Many start off as a one off risk, but it builds up - others moan about their home life and leads to relationships and more.

Rarely do you get a so-called loving other half to admit early on that they are seeing another person.

Brightonsbest_2

Dear Fruticake

"
"Our lives revolve around each other and always will."

That is nice. I recall a lady telling me something like what you said and then her husband cheated after 30 years of marriag citing, "I could not do anyhting without you not knowing about it." She found out when she overheard him talking to his lover as the wife came back from the shops earlier than expected. Intially he denied it and said it was a joke call, but looking at his mobile the calls and texts gave everything away. Btw, he had a secret phone, it was the same as the main one but used for love calls.

Therefore, it is not like the good old days, trust is built up after many years together think everyhting is soild but not. A woman married for about ten years cheated with a married man and then her hubby found out kicked her out - lover boy would not leave his wife and kids and she came crawling back home and it took years again for her husband to build up some trust.

Exile_geordie

Course I trust her - I wouldnt be with her if I didnt.

However if shegirl,bugslet or Biker*Chick want to whisk me away she would probably be happy to do so given how drunk and funny I was last night.






When I say funny, I mean I thought I was funny she however tells em different

Fruitcake

Brightonsbest wrote: »

Dear Fruticake

"
"Our lives revolve around each other and always will."

That is nice. I recall a lady telling me something like what you said and then her husband cheated after 30 years of marriag citing, "I could not do anyhting without you not knowing about it." She found out when she overheard him talking to his lover as the wife came back from the shops earlier than expected. Intially he denied it and said it was a joke call, but looking at his mobile the calls and texts gave everything away. Btw, he had a secret phone, it was the same as the main one but used for love calls.

Therefore, it is not like the good old days, trust is built up after many years together think everyhting is soild but not. A woman married for about ten years cheated with a married man and then her hubby found out kicked her out - lover boy would not leave his wife and kids and she came crawling back home and it took years again for her husband to build up some trust.

I'm sure for every example of cheating you can find, there are similar numbers where it has never happened.

I have never cheated and I never will. I have known my Lovely since she became my Cousin and friend at the age of eleven, over forty years ago. We started dating when she was seventeen and been married now for over thirty years.
We have never had an argument or a cross word in our lives together.

I appreciate that you have been hurt and thus are suspicious of not only your own relationship, but other people's as well, but not everyone cheats or thinks of cheating.

fairy_lights

I feel very sorry for you if you truly believe that 90% of people cheat and most people would cheat if the opportunity came along. You must have had some terrible relationships in the past to think that way.

catkins

I am another one who cannot believe that 90% of people cheat or even think of cheating.

I know for certain I would never cheat as I think there is never any excuse for it, it is despicable and shows totally lack of respect for your husband or wife.

I also know for sure that my OH would never cheat. I certainly do not have my head in the sand. I know he has exactly the same morals as I do and feels as strongly about marriage, infidelity etc as I do. He fell out with a good friend a few years ago who was cheating on his wife.

We can look at each other's phones any time we like and quite often use the other's phone.

Fruitcake

catkins wrote: »

I am another one who cannot believe that 90% of people cheat or even think of cheating.

I know for certain I would never cheat as I think there is never any excuse for it, it is despicable and shows totally lack of respect for your husband or wife.

I also know for sure that my OH would never cheat. I certainly do not have my head in the sand. I know he has exactly the same morals as I do and feels as strongly about marriage, infidelity etc as I do. He fell out with a good friend a few years ago who was cheating on his wife.

We can look at each other's phones any time we like and quite often use the other's phone.

That's exactly it. We even "saved ourselves until our wedding night," something quite rare these days I believe.