Do You Trust Your Other Half?

Brightonsbest_2

Ronaldo_Mconaldo wrote: »

Why is nobody biting about the weirdo who keeps going on about how much he loves his cousin? Are we just ignoring the attention seeker?

Their choice

Fruitcake

Ronaldo_Mconaldo wrote: »

Why is nobody biting about the weirdo who keeps going on about how much he loves his cousin? Are we just ignoring the attention seeker?

Why do you think I am a weirdo? What have I ever said or done to give that impression?

I have stated facts and given my opinion, that is all. The subject for discussion is whether we trust our partners. I have state that I do and the reason why.

KateBob

Ronaldo_Mconaldo wrote: »

Why is nobody biting about the weirdo who keeps going on about how much he loves his cousin? Are we just ignoring the attention seeker?

Because Fruitcake isn't a weirdo, and is married to his lovely cousin (by marriage if memory serves).

Having caught some of his posts over the years he seems to have a wonderful and enviable relationship, and I hope that mine lasts the test of time and is as fullfilling as his is.

thorsoak

Brightonsbest wrote: »

Morning

Thank you all for the new response.

As anticipated by me, sadly, most have their heads buried in the sand.

How many people have had another half where they declared, "I'm cheating on you,"? The ones that found out, did not not previously say things like, EG, "you are the love of my life, I will never cheat on you, let you down, you can trust me, you are my life, etc, etc"?

Most men given half a chance would go for it. Many start off as a one off risk, but it builds up - others moan about their home life and leads to relationships and more.

Rarely do you get a so-called loving other half to admit early on that they are seeing another person.

Oh dear - I feel so sorry for you - it must be terrible to go through life not trusting anyone :-(

Personally - if I feel/felt that someone is/was untrustworthy, then I would have nothing more to do with them.

I would never break the trust of anyone - and I've never been let down - I'm not an innocent - I'm 73 years of age and have lived a pretty full life. Maybe I'm just one of the lucky ones - or my intuition is good.

But how sad, to go through life full of uncertainty - or only the uncertainty that everyone would let you down. Maybe negativity attracts negativity.

NeilCr

http://www.express.co.uk/life-style/life/615820/infidelity-rates-UK-revealed-shocking

Not sure how scientific it is but some figures here which don't in any way equate to 90%.

Yep I trust her and she trusts me. We live separately and have separate lives so have quite a lot of time to cheat. But I don't and she doesn't.

Having had a short term relationship with someone who was suspicious I would agree with other posters. I wouldn't go there, again. If we went out in a group she'd follow me out and check if I happened to go to the loo as the same time as one of the other women

To be honest if I was the sort of person who needed to check I'd be unhappy. It would drive me nuts with all the details - and she'd kill me!

Different strokes for different folks and all that. But.... no!

OP. Perhaps you could help us out with where you got your 90% from

fairy_lights

Brightonsbest wrote: »

The only reason I don't cheat as had nothing offered, not looking for it, when a near call I ignore as fear of marriage breakdown and split of capital will not allow me to stay in our nice house.

Well that's the difference between you and other people - most people don't cheat because they love and respect their partner and have no desire to betray them, not because it just hasn't been offered or they're afraid of the repercussions.

hunters

Applecart wrote: »

She was visiting her sister and an only child?

So was she an only child or did she have a sister?

Is any of your long tale true?

Zeni

Brightonsbest wrote: »

Hi again

Look guys, your choice wht you do. Me, I still check on the odd occasion. The only reason I don't cheat as had nothing offered, not looking for it, when a near call I ignore as fear of marriage breakdown and split of capital will not allow me to stay in our nice house.

I feel people that check as you can see by the votes are too fearful to post. Given the chance to post they would have heard all before, "i love you, never cheat on you..." - But trust me, even the cheats say yh same things otherwise you would not be with him/her.

Warning signs, very possessive re their mobile, laptop and dress differently and out more and different hours.

The choice is yours if you want to be sure or remain ignorant

Well I don't cheat because I love my husband and would never want to look elsewhere or hurt him..but you know each to there own.

The poll is pointless it's either do you check his phone or are you ignorant. What about if you are neither? Me I don't check his phone, I know his lock code as he knows mine as we use each others phones sometimes but I don't check it because honestly I trust him.

It's cool that you have your own opinion but to tell people they are ignorant or heads buried in the sands because they don't share it isn't.

onomatopoeia99

Ronaldo_Mconaldo wrote: »

Why is nobody biting about the weirdo who keeps going on about how much he loves his cousin? Are we just ignoring the attention seeker?

This is a UK based forum and first cousin marriage is legal in the UK. "Person in legal relationship with other person" is not worthy of much comment.

Pollycat

Brightonsbest wrote: »

Hi again

Look guys, your choice wht you do. Me, I still check on the odd occasion. The only reason I don't cheat as had nothing offered, not looking for it, when a near call I ignore as fear of marriage breakdown and split of capital will not allow me to stay in our nice house.

I feel people that check as you can see by the votes are too fearful to post. Given the chance to post they would have heard all before, "i love you, never cheat on you..." - But trust me, even the cheats say yh same things otherwise you would not be with him/her.

Warning signs, very possessive re their mobile, laptop and dress differently and out more and different hours.

The choice is yours if you want to be sure or remain ignorant

What a truly sad picture of your own relationship the bit in bold conjures up.

I pity you, I really do.