Do You Trust Your Other Half?

Hard_Up_Hester

My L&M and I have a passcode on our phones but we both use the same code, I regularly check his phone as he asks me to, I don't think he checks mine but it wouldn't worry me if he did.

I trust him implicitly, he was cheated on by his ex so he wouldn't inflict that sort of pain on me.

I once received a text message at midnight from an acquaintance that read 'Hi sexy, I'm lonely, fancy a f***'.
I showed the text to my other half, he laughed and said 'you're on a promise there'.
Turned out that the acquaintance had a new GF with the same name as me.

Zeni

With every next post I am increasingly thinking we are being trolled or seriously Brighton you just need to let it go. Kind if feels like you want some validation that what you are doing is totally normal and that everyone should be doing it.

If you don't trust your OH , what would be the point of being with them in the first place. It must be exhausting to think about whos messaging them ad what they are doing all the time!!

annandale

The updates on the original post keep getting better. The daily mail is now a very well respected media source and the OP has posted in huge capital letters to get his point across.

Lmao

Brightonsbest_2

Lily-Rose wrote: »

Brighton Best, you can't just refuse to believe that people never check their partner's emails and texts just because you do; many just do not. I certainly don't!

If I ever suspected him of cheating, I may do, I don't know. One could never say until it happens to them.

Basically, what I'm saying is that you can't refuse to believe someone just because they have different experiences and views to you.

And I agree with the person that said it's not necessarily true if it's in the daily mail. You can't seriously believe what you read in THAT rag!

Edited to say.

Just gone through many of your posts and I can see that you have had some bad experiences in your relationships. That is a shame, but you can't insist that everyone must agree with you, and anyone who doesn't is wrong.

Hi Lily

You and others are misundestanding me. I do accept what you and others have said but reminding all that even cheats will certainly say theu 'love you, never cheat ect' and that is a fact.

re the Daily mail, you can lol as much as you want but the facts re women cheats are clearl

Brightonsbest_2

Hard_Up_Hester wrote: »

My L&M and I have a passcode on our phones but we both use the same code, I regularly check his phone as he asks me to, I don't think he checks mine but it wouldn't worry me if he did.

I trust him implicitly, he was cheated on by his ex so he wouldn't inflict that sort of pain on me.

I once received a text message at midnight from an acquaintance that read 'Hi sexy, I'm lonely, fancy a f***'.
I showed the text to my other half, he laughed and said 'you're on a promise there'.
Turned out that the acquaintance had a new GF with the same name as me.

Hi

yes very true re people that have been decived, ie they would never cheat and that is a fact as I am one of those.

hunters

Brightonsbest wrote: »

Dear Pollycat

Me and my OH are both happy.
We share a mutual interest ie visit sauna/naturist spa once every 3/4 weeks. After the visit, we have fun and it takes my mind away what happened with my ex.


TBH, I don't want to check, but I do not want to be deceived either.

Mu OH is good looking and I note men watching her and she does as well at times and I tell her about it and she is aware I don't like that kind of thing so steers clear of men especially when they have had a drink.

I wish we lived in a perfect world but we don't

IMO, as many women as men, given half the chance would cheat. Look at that politican where his OH cheated

Oh dear, oh dear

WUM

annandale

Women are cheats. That's what you want everyone to accept

Sorry. If women are cheating unless they are in a same sex relationship who are they cheating with?

Men. Takes two to tango

WibblyGirly

I selected no without even reading the post. His phone is his. I know what is on it without needing to look, Fantasy Football, texts with his mates about football, beers, snooker, and pictures of our cat and food.
The scenario with the money also wouldn't happen in our relationship as we keep separate bank accounts for now. Any inheritances etc would go into our own accounts. When we get a joint one that will be for bills only.

annandale

I agree. Total wind up merchant.

Brightonsbest_2

Hello

I have spent too much time on here and thread is going slightly OT

The facts remain and link to back up re women cheats about 90% never getting caught.

Whether you check or not is your choice. Remember this, you true will tell you he/she loves you and could never cheat, but !!!! happens.

We are all different and I don't want to be made a fool of again so I will continue to check and please do not feel sorry for me

Your choice