Do You Trust Your Other Half?

annandale

Go and get some help.

21 people on a forum that thousands of people are signed up to

Pollycat

Brightonsbest wrote: »

Please note that 21 people do check their OH phones/etc to see if they are cheating

And 49 don't. :rotfl:

And that doesn't include all those posters who think the poll is just plain silly and can't be bothered to register their vote.

Tiddlywinks

Why are we feeding the troll?

Pollycat

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

Why are we feeding the troll?

Is it a troll?

The OP's other posts seem believable enough.

seashore22

Even people who post 90% truth on here (a percentage which I plucked out of thin air, by the way) can start a troll thread.

I can't be bothered with the ridiculous poll, but just for the record, I've been married over 3 decades now and trust him completely, as he does me. A relationship without trust is not worth having.

gt568

Statistics can be used to prove anything. 40% of people know that.

Lily-Rose_3

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Speak for yourself, I have never even thought of cheating.

Hi Torry. Fairylights actually said how she and many people she knows, think about how they would NEVER do it.

I actually misread it first too!

Pollycat wrote: »

Where did the 90% 'Thinking about cheating' come from?

I may have missed it but I didn't see it in the article.
It was mentioned in this thread:


But is it really a statistic?

Yeah my bad sorry. I read it OK, but actually worded it badly when I put my post.

comeandgo

I would never check my husbands phone and he does not check mine and we both have history of cheating. If it happens, it happens, it won't be the end of the world.

Brightonsbest_2

comeandgo wrote: »

I would never check my husbands phone and he does not check mine and we both have history of cheating. If it happens, it happens, it won't be the end of the world.

Hi

Thanks for sharing.

I hope it never happens to you or your OH again. What you said if it happens "its not the end of the world." Sadly, I've heard that type of stuff too often and when it happens, depedns where you are in the relationship, as you did not expect it, it does feel like the end of the world. EG 2 ladies at my workplace used to say they'd never put up with it but when it happened they had a breakdown - eventually we all get over it, but its not easy

ATB
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ripplyuk

If my partner cheated on me, it would feel like the end of the world. I despise cheaters. It is the most cruel betrayal. It would mean our whole relationship was a lie. Every kiss, every kind word, would not have happened if the truth was known.

Having said that, we cannot control other people, even if we want to. If someone is a cheat, then they'll do it someday regardless of how much phone checking/spying etc their partner does. Like most people, I would hate to think my partner had cheated and I never found out. But there's nothing I can do about that so it's pointless to waste any energy on it.

I also have the view that if someone is a cheat, then let them get on with it. Give them every opportunity. Hopefully then, they'll be caught sooner rather than later when their partner has invested years into the relationship.

The alternative is be obsessive and controlling which will often lead to a case of 'What we fear we create' with all the paranoia driving someone away. So you end up alone anyway.