Do You Trust Your Other Half?

tommix

I read somewhere that figures for cheating men are on the rise, and cheating women are going down...:beer:

Brightonsbest_2

WibblyGirly wrote: »

I selected no without even reading the post. His phone is his. I know what is on it without needing to look, Fantasy Football, texts with his mates about football, beers, snooker, and pictures of our cat and food.
The scenario with the money also wouldn't happen in our relationship as we keep separate bank accounts for now. Any inheritances etc would go into our own accounts. When we get a joint one that will be for bills only.

Thanks for sharing

But where is the trust when you can't even share joint accounts. IMO, sharing your bank/saving accounts is the biggest piece of trust I know of.

Brightonsbest_2

tommix wrote: »

I read somewhere that figures for cheating men are on the rise, and cheating women are going down...:beer:

Easily a fact but always be alert as it only takes one to cheat to hurt

oldhand

I trust her100% however I have a sneaking suspicion her husband doesnt.:D:D:D

tommix

Brightonsbest wrote: »

Thanks for sharing

I hear that a lot at my local 'wife-swapping' venue..:beer:

hunters

Brightonsbest wrote: »

Hello

I have spent too much time on here and thread is going slightly OT

The facts remain and link to back up re women cheats about 90% never getting caught.

Whether you check or not is your choice. Remember this, you true will tell you he/she loves you and could never cheat, but !!!! happens.

We are all different and I don't want to be made a fool of again so I will continue to check and please do not feel sorry for me

Your choice

I don't feel sorry for you but you are amusing

Ponders if the thread will make the email and your current wife will recognise herself. Easy done, can't be many WUM in Brighton thinking about adding to their property portfolio with a £400k flat jointly with son.

thorsoak

Brightonsbest wrote: »

Thanks for sharing

But where is the trust when you can't even share joint accounts. IMO, sharing your bank/saving accounts is the biggest piece of trust I know of.

Now that's where you are wrong; the biggest piece of trust I know of is giving your heart to someone and having a family with that person. Financial trust follows that.

Brightonsbest_2

Agreed but we did not have children until 5 yrs after marriage. We started sharing accounts a year in as easier for mortgae/etc. Thankfully never did the dirty on money but I guess lover boy know about the dosh.

Like I said, your choice guys and hope it never happens to you. If you are the cheat and your bit on the side is cheating as well, when you fget together and fun wears off, you will think, is he/she cheating on me like they cheated on their OH.

NBLondon

The mind boggles.... I could check if I felt the need to - but I haven't yet. I haven't seen the warning signs from the OP's first post. She could check me if she felt the need to - but she either hasn't yet or has done so, so subtly that I haven't realised. Since there's nothing to find anyway...


I can believe that 90% of people surveyed have cheated, tried to cheat or thought about cheating. How serious that thought was - is highly variable. Some Christians believe the thought is equivalent to the deed when it comes to adultery y'know (Matthew 5:28 is the reference). In other cases, it can be an enjoyable fantasy and no more - and some couples share that fantasy, both knowing it's only a fantasy.

Lily-Rose_3

NBLondon wrote: »

The mind boggles.... I could check if I felt the need to - but I haven't yet. I haven't seen the warning signs from the OP's first post. She could check me if she felt the need to - but she either hasn't yet or has done so, so subtly that I haven't realised. Since there's nothing to find anyway...


I can believe that 90% of people surveyed have cheated, tried to cheat or thought about cheating. How serious that thought was - is highly variable. Some Christians believe the thought is equivalent to the deed when it comes to adultery y'know (Matthew 5:28 is the reference). In other cases, it can be an enjoyable fantasy and no more - and some couples share that fantasy, both knowing it's only a fantasy.

Brightonsbest wrote: »

Hello

I have spent too much time on here and thread is going slightly OT

The facts remain and link to back up re women cheats about 90% never getting caught.

Whether you check or not is your choice. Remember this, you true will tell you he/she loves you and could never cheat, but !!!! happens.

We are all different and I don't want to be made a fool of again so I will continue to check and please do not feel sorry for me

Your choice

Sorry guys but there is no way ANYone can know if 90% have thought about cheating. It could be 100% or it could be 50% or it could be 33%. No-one KNOWS. It's all hyperbole.

It's clear the OP has unresolved issues. It's certain that he doesn't like people disagreeing with him though.