Paying the bill when dating

Poor_Single_lady

Dird wrote: »

My conclusion from this thread is Jamiehelsinki should go on a date with AubreyMac

yes yes! I agree.

jamiehelsinki

I generally think most people have a level when it comes to looks and very attractive is out if my league. Anyway if the very attractive women on pof wanted to message me there's nothing stopping them.

I don't find short hair attractive, the whole world is shallow when it comes to looks, women as much as men. You only have to read the female profiles to see that. Some women might avoid men with long hair or bald, what's the difference?

Trial and error of being on there has told me to avoid profiles with bikini shots and lots of selfies of course again there's nothing stopping them messaging me!

justme111

Jamiehelsinki wrote: »

I don't find short hair attractive, the whole world is shallow when it comes to looks, women as much as men. You only have to read the female profiles to see that. Some women might avoid men with long hair or bald, what's the difference?

Well the fact that many women on a dating site have silly preferences does not make them less silly
Although long hair on a man can be argued is often about lifestyle so preference in this area may have some grounds

SailorSam

Dird wrote: »

My conclusion from this thread is Jamiehelsinki should go on a date with AubreyMac

Some fellas have all the luck.

ripplyuk

I would always expect the man to pay on a first date, and on the second and third dates at least. I would offer to split the cost, but if they accepted my offer, I wouldn't see them again. I'm not saying it's right, or wrong, just the way I was brought up I guess. I would find it deeply unattractive if a man let me pay.

I'm a bit younger than the OP but clearly I'm old fashioned. I met my partner many years ago but my views on it would be the same if I was dating today.

Even after years together, I know my partner would be embarrassed if I got my wallet out to pay in a restaurant or somewhere public. And I love that about him .

PeacefulWaters

Avoid women I rate as very attractive.

I'm surprised at how often I've punched above my weight with online dating.

While I've definitely had fewer responses from the stunners those that have engaged have certainly contributed to building up my self esteem!

selement

These old fashioned women - I wonder how they'd feel if they got married to these men who pay for the dates and their husband expected them to do all the housework, give up their career and raise babies! Nothing wrong with choosing to do that but the expectation may be considered a little offensive?

ripplyuk

selement wrote: »

These old fashioned women - I wonder how they'd feel if they got married to these men who pay for the dates and their husband expected them to do all the housework, give up their career and raise babies! Nothing wrong with choosing to do that but the expectation may be considered a little offensive?

A little chivalry doesn't mean the man expects the scenario you describe :rotfl:

penguingirl

I'm really surprised by the responses on here- I've been a relationship since I was 21 so never really done the dating world, but I really can't imagine being so offended/passive aggressive about paying half. It's the 21st century! I have my own career, and certainly never expect to be a kept woman and I think rejecting a man on the basis he let you pay (when you offered) for food you ate is a bit golddigger-y. I think allowing me to go half shows respect as an independent person. If a man offered, I'd not be stroppy about accepting it, but would probably suggest I pay next time.

zagfles

penguingirl wrote: »

I'm really surprised by the responses on here- I've been a relationship since I was 21 so never really done the dating world, but I really can't imagine being so offended/passive aggressive about paying half. It's the 21st century! I have my own career, and certainly never expect to be a kept woman and I think rejecting a man on the basis he let you pay (when you offered) for food you ate is a bit golddigger-y. I think allowing me to go half shows respect as an independent person. If a man offered, I'd not be stroppy about accepting it, but would probably suggest I pay next time.

I think this board has entered a time warp! Mind you there seems to be loads on MSE who seem to think they're living in 1620 rather 2016