Spending Christmas day on your own

annandale

Her son will be working. It's in the opening post

suki1964

I spent years on my own when DH,s children were young, he flew home to spend it with them

I was actually only talking about those Christmases last night and saying I actually miss them

What's not to love, house full of lovely food to nibble and pick at when required, the TV remote all to yourself, being able to listen to whatever music you like as loud as you like

Seriously, avoid the slushy stuff, you know the films where everyone is in the perfect family having the perfect day, and it's a great day to do as you please

missbiggles1

annandale wrote: »

Her son will be working. It's in the opening post

Apologies all round, I completely misread the post (both times!).:o

missbiggles1

I was widowed last year a couple of months before Christmas, I booked a few days away to avoid the pity invites!

Kaye1

What about Age Concern? They will have elderly people who may also want company?

Proxima_Centauri

Why not just spend the day doing things you wouldn't normally get to do. Watch your favourite film/dvd, listen to some music, get stuck into a hobby, etc. The day's your own, make the most of it.

Skint_yet_Again

Thank you for all your replies.


I initially contacted our local council as they run a citywide initiative for Christmas volunteering but all the local positions were either already full (City Cathedral Christmas dinner) or wanted all day volunteers or night volunteers. The person I spoke to suggested that any Charities may require CRB checks if you are visiting people in their homes and said I have left it too late for this year.


However I will contact my local church and Age Concern as suggested. Maybe if there are other Christmas meals I can do the washing up in the afternoon !


As to "pity" invites .. yes maybe my friends see me as independent and used to being on my own and didn't think to invite me.


If all else fails it will be a bottle of plonk and a box of chocs in front of the tv. Maybe a long walk by the sea front if the weather is ok. I think the main thing will be to have something to do as soon as he has gone so I don't have time to sit and mope.


Thanks and enjoy your Christmas day wherever you spend it x

Ilona

Skint_yet_Again wrote: »

I have told friends I am going to be home alone but I haven't had any "pity" invites to lunch / dinner. Is this unusual ? Should I take it personally ?

Would you invite family / friends to your Christmas day if you knew they would be on their own ?

Anyone else spending Christmas day on their own ?

This year is an exception because I have given in and agreed to go to my nephews for Christmas Day. Normally I would be on my own, I like my own company. I would not tell my friends that I am alone at Christmas, I wouldn't want them to invite me through pity.

I wouldn't invite people to mine on Christmas Day, because I know they will be wrapped up with their own family. Maybe singles would accept an invitation, I don't know, I never ask.

I will be back to my normal routine in 2017, Christmas Day alone. Fine by me, it's just another day.

Ilona

Pollycat

Skint_yet_Again wrote: »

Thanks and enjoy your Christmas day wherever you spend it x

And you too - however you decide to spend it. :santa2:

A walk by the sea sounds fab.

missbiggles1

Ilona wrote: »

This year is an exception because I have given in and agreed to go to my nephews for Christmas Day. Normally I would be on my own, I like my own company. I would not tell my friends that I am alone at Christmas, I wouldn't want them to invite me through pity.

I wouldn't invite people to mine on Christmas Day, because I know they will be wrapped up with their own family. Maybe singles would accept an invitation, I don't know, I never ask.

I will be back to my normal routine in 2017, Christmas Day alone. Fine by me, it's just another day.

Ilona

A friend of mine is having a "flotsam and jetsam" lunch on the 27th - that'll be enjoyable because we're all in the same boat.