Spending Christmas day on your own

Skint_yet_Again

I am a single parent and my DS is working Christmas day. He is 21. We will have Christmas breakfast together and open our presents and then he will be off to work with an hours commute each way he will be getting home around Midnight. My family all live over 300 miles away.


So my options were 1. to leave him on his own and go to my family for Christmas or 2. to stay at home and spend a few hours with him Christmas morning....


I just felt mean leaving him on his own Christmas day so I opted to stay home. I'm going to make Christmas dinner a few days before the 25th and portion it up so DS can take one to work and I can warm one up at home.


I realise I'm lucky and some people will have no choice but to be alone on Christmas day but I must admit I'm not looking forward to it once DS has left for work. I looked at volunteering for the rest of the day but most organisations wanted you to help in the mornings.


I have told friends I am going to be home alone but I haven't had any "pity" invites to lunch / dinner. Is this unusual ? Should I take it personally ?


Would you invite family / friends to your Christmas day if you knew they would be on their own ?


Anyone else spending Christmas day on their own ?

Soworried

Contact your local church, see if they know any one local to you that would like afternoon tea & a Christmas walk.

missbiggles1

If you're a parent, surely you won't be on your own?

Skint_yet_Again

Thanks Soworried as a non church goer I didn't think of the church. We have a few different ones locally but how do I get in touch ? Do I just walk in ?

Skint_yet_Again

Skint_yet_Again wrote: »

I am a single parent and my DS is working Christmas day.

I realise I'm lucky and some people will have no choice but to be alone on Christmas day but I must admit I'm not looking forward to it once DS has left for work.

missbiggles1 wrote: »

If you're a parent, surely you won't be on your own?

As I said ...I wont be on my own all day

Pollycat

Skint_yet_Again wrote: »

I am a single parent and my DS is working Christmas day. He is 21. We will have Christmas breakfast together and open our presents and then he will be off to work with an hours commute each way he will be getting home around Midnight. My family all live over 300 miles away.


So my options were 1. to leave him on his own and go to my family for Christmas or 2. to stay at home and spend a few hours with him Christmas morning....


I just felt mean leaving him on his own Christmas day so I opted to stay home. I'm going to make Christmas dinner a few days before the 25th and portion it up so DS can take one to work and I can warm one up at home.


I realise I'm lucky and some people will have no choice but to be alone on Christmas day but I must admit I'm not looking forward to it once DS has left for work. I looked at volunteering for the rest of the day but most organisations wanted you to help in the mornings.


I have told friends I am going to be home alone but I haven't had any "pity" invites to lunch / dinner. Is this unusual ? Should I take it personally ?


Would you invite family / friends to your Christmas day if you knew they would be on their own ?


Anyone else spending Christmas day on their own ?

We know someone who will be on their own but they would hate being invited to ours for Christmas dinner.

After we've spent a few hours with my sister and her kids, we come home to open our presents and start to cook dinner.
We don't eat until it's dark and he would want to have eaten his dinner and be home by 2pm.

chella

I would rather stay on my own than accept a pity invite from people who might not really want me there.


Maybe your friends don't think you are bothered about being on your own/maybe you come across as a strong independent individual??


I have spent a couple of Christmases alone. I stayed in my pjs, drank bubbly for breakfast, had my favourite scrambled eggs and bacon. I watched everything I wanted to on tv. I cooked a dinner just for me, a roast chicken and trimmings, enough for bubble and squeak. I browsed the online sales and generally had a very nice day. The day will be what you make it, though I am aware that I am very happy in my own company, and you may not be so comfortable??

Soworried

Skint_yet_Again wrote: »

Thanks Soworried as a non church goer I didn't think of the church. We have a few different ones locally but how do I get in touch ? Do I just walk in ?

Just google "Village name" Church. A phone number should come up.

You don't have to be religious, they quite often have walks & Buffets planned for the local community members who would be alone. It's a great way to meet people local to you & you could end up making some really good friends

selement

Could you invite any friends or family around yours instead? Although getting a bit late now most people will have decided their plans

Caroline_a

I'm spending Christmas on my own out of choice. My family and several friends all invited me, but I didn't fancy travelling and I'm quite happy in my own company. I will have my 2 dogs so not totally alone but I'm not a great Christmas fan anyway, just happy to have some time off work!

missbiggles1

Skint_yet_Again wrote: »

As I said ...I wont be on my own all day

Do you mean that your child is spending part of Christmas Day elsewhere?