Christmas present dilemma

Knightsuntold

Pollycat wrote: »

I think you've probably found an outlet here on MSE and are airing your thoughts.

My comment wasn't really intended to 'scare you off' so if it did come across that way, I'm sorry. I wasn't insinuating that you were fabricating these issues.

Do think seriously about having a cull of your 'friends'.
A good friend of mine was sick of people dropping her when they have a man in their life and then just assuming she'll be free to go out for lunch, dinner, even on holiday with them when that relationship has ended.
She took my advice.
These people aren't really friends, they're just users.

The first family post was certainly an eye-opener, and not at all what I expected. I expected a 'yes or no' answer, and just chucked in the background, to explain why I was posting on that particular thread. I didn't expect what happened, and parts of it were really tough, especially at a time where I felt so vulnerable and alone. But then I realised something - I dealt with that in days, and not the weeks that it would usually take me to work something through. And that's got to be a good thing.

I know your comment wasn't intended to scare me off - it was completely me over-reacting. Even as a child, I hated it when someone didn't believe me - I still do. I just didn't understand why someone would think I was lying, but I guess people do, and others have been stung.

I have had a complete cull of my friends some years ago, and it was tough times with no one. I may well be doing my current set a disservice, but I know that when the first things to do the potential affair hit, I called one friend, who announced she was with her boyfriend and it wasn't convenient, and the second one who asked me what I expected, as he was a good looking man, and she'd always wondered what he'd seen in me. Funnily enough, I didn't call anyone after that.

melanzana

Knightsuntold wrote: »

Hahahaha... the old, well-tested book plot line.... do you think the questions that I ask are worthy of a book? I could add chapters bitterness, cynicism and cheap shots. Would you be willing to help with those?

Seriously, you don't believe me, or you're not interested, and that's absolutely fine. I'm guessing that you know my name on here, so why don't you just avoid the threads - it really is that simple.

Hi OP.

I do not mean to be confrontational or anything like that. I wish you well. I love reading the various threads, and will not stop either. The Forum would close down if everyone did that

I think you have to accept that when certain posts are not what you expect, or don't conform to all the other posts in your favour, you should just read and move on too. Or maybe take something from an opposite view.

Everyone is entitled to their opinion, it would be a very boring world if we were all like the Stepford Wives!!