OH wants a separation. I have no job. HELP!

annandale

OK, he just read it and disregarded it.

Still not compromising in my opinion. No. Not your post. A post that's been deleted that clearly said someone wasn't right in the head.

Really hope it wasn't directed at anyone on this thread.

Guest101

annandale wrote: »

OK, he just read it and disregarded it.

Still not compromising in my opinion. No. Not your post. A post that's been deleted that clearly said someone wasn't right in the head.

Really hope it wasn't directed at anyone on this thread.

But he's entitled to do that.


Let's say for example, you owe me £100.


I tell you I want £100 from you next week, you email back saying you can only afford £10 a month. I can disregard that and take you to court

annandale

Surely some communication along the lines of I don't agree with your viewpoint, would be appropriate.

It keeps the lines of communication open.

Guest101

annandale wrote: »

Surely some communication along the lines of I don't agree with your viewpoint, would be appropriate.

It keeps the lines of communication open.

That's a moral question though. There's a difference between you should be nice and your obliged to be nice.

annandale

Civil might be more appropriate I think

Guest101

annandale wrote: »

Civil might be more appropriate I think

With respect I disagree, 'civil' is neutral, it's what the court does (ie 'civil' law)


Being nice is a moral choice

justme111

He has not addressed issues that zippy raised (her perception again, unless we see all correspondence it is not a fact), zippy is not inclined to give him what he wants - negotiations just started. Usual scenario , no reason to start labeling a chap bully, class his actions as browbeating and cheer her onto a war path. As suggested before mediation may help.

annandale

You referred to someone in a post you later deleted as being not right in the head.

I think you are the last person who should be telling other people right now not to put labels on people given that comment.

If people can't post on here in a distressing time in their life without being sorely criticised there is no point to these boards existing.

Almost every thread on this board sees a pack of hyenas waiting to pounce on people as soon as they type anything.

mark5

The op's ex has a right to return to the property whenever he wants, posters might not like this but it's true, unless there is a court order saying different the husband can keep his possessions at the house.

I took the time to see a solicitor about this when I separated from my wife as I had concerns about giving up rights if I moved out.

zippy1997

Quick update. Things are still on course for a divorce.

I have 2 part time jobs, so now working 41 hrs per week, no weekends and one job is term time only which will be nice, but unfortunately this has meant that the dog has suffered time-wise - and would have suffered long term.

Therefore DD and I made the difficult decision last week to give him back to the breeder. It wasn't an easy decision and one that had me bawling like a baby every time I looked at his beautiful brown eyes knowing what was coming, but a necessary one so he could have a better life. Luckily the breeder has been staying with someone, a friend, who also has a couple of their dogs (actually related to our lovely boy) and the friend has fallen in love with him, so our boy is being fostered to see how it goes then should hopefully just stay in his new home. He has play mates and the breeder will see him regularly. So he left us mid week and by the end of it he had a new home! Landed on his paws I think!

It's the right decision for all of us and I actually feel relieved it's done (the decision made I mean). We miss him like crazy, as it's just empty without him and his stuff, but he'll have a good life with his new owner and we can stay in touch to see how he's doing.

My ex has a GF. I have no proof when it started but she is one of the women (there were 2) I asked about on FB before we split last yr...... she's a lot younger and he says they work together. He told DS and DD mid/end July and as yet hasn't actually told me. He also told DD that they're probably going to move in together at some point. No doubt he'll wait until Form E has been submitted and the 6 months (as asked on the Form) has passed.

I'm not jealous in any way, in fact, I knew he wouldn't stay single long, he needs someone. I admit I am jealous of the comfortable lifestyle they'll have though. We had some really crap times and I was hoping once the kids had flown the nest we could address things and plan for the future. Guess I was wrong.

I am looking forward to moving on with my life once this bloody divorce is done though. I will be changing my name back and whether I can afford to stay here or not, a new start will be good. DD is still hoping to go to Uni next yr so I will be on my own for the 1st time in my life. Yes it will be different but it'll also be good for me.

I am on the waiting list again for therapy. Not sure how it'll go but I have to try to work my issues out and come out of this, at least as an optimist rather than always looking on the downside of things. I also don't want to feel so low every day. No matter what's happening I never feel 'happy'. I walk the walk, smile at everyone but when I get home from work I really don't feel that way.