OH wants a separation. I have no job. HELP!

Guest101

I'm pretty surprised by the tone of this post

Guest101

Your legal knowledge, or lack thereof, should be thoroughly explained in your posts.

Guest101

Zippy - id strongly suggest you take the opinion expressed by David as opinion and not act on it without getting additional legal advice

Guest101

Unfortunately I don't think you are one of those people. I think you're intentions are good, but you come across as having a total lack of knowledge of the law.

annandale

He's not emailing via a solicitor. One of zippys recent emails said that he emailed her directly.

Guest101

annandale wrote: »

Her perception should be respected. Even if not everyone agrees with it. It's how she's feeling.

I'm sorry but what have feelings got to do with facts?


He's stated his positions, he doesn't have to compromise (the OP isn't), he can just keep that position all the way to court.


Feelings are subjective, so should be prefixed with: I feel he is just dictating. - an opinion.


Not - he is just dictating - a fact

annandale

So now you deem it appropriate to tell someone on their own thread how they should be putting their posts together?

There was a post deleted this morning. The comment was that someone wasn't quite right in the head.

I couldn't make proper sense of the post but I really hope it wasn't directed at anyone on here..

After seeing one girl who posted looking for advice absolutely torn to shreds on here recently, it looks like this is the way this thread is going

And anyone who doesn't agree with the ops husband gets everything they say quoted back to them too.

And shredded.

Still, why not just chase someone off their own thread. Being right matters more than giving support on here clearly.

annandale

As for the Op not compromising, at least she's trying to enter into dialogue.

Her post from the 29th March said that she sent him an email which he totally ignored and then proceeded to dictate what his terms were..

How is that compromising on her husband part? His way or no way really doesn't sound like compromising.

Guest101

annandale wrote: »

So now you deem it appropriate to tell someone on their own thread how they should be putting their posts together? - Not at all. I'm saying that expressing opinion as fact is inaccurate.

There was a post deleted this morning. The comment was that someone wasn't quite right in the head. - My comment???

I couldn't make proper sense of the post but I really hope it wasn't directed at anyone on here..

After seeing one girl who posted looking for advice absolutely torn to shreds on here recently, it looks like this is the way this thread is going - Not at all. I don't know either party. I'm simply providing balanced view point of a neutral third party.

And anyone who doesn't agree with the ops husband gets everything they say quoted back to them too. - Not true, otherwise id be quoting hundreds of posts.

And shredded.

Still, why not just chase someone off their own thread. Being right matters more than giving support on here clearly.

Being right does matter more, if being right provides the OP with the correct information to make a calculated decision.


Offering support and promoting criminality isn't the way to help the OP.

Guest101

annandale wrote: »

As for the Op not compromising, at least she's trying to enter into dialogue.

Her post from the 29th March said that she sent him an email which he totally ignored and then proceeded to dictate what his terms were.. - How do you, or the OP, know it was ignored. He could've read it, disregarded it (not the same as ignoring) and made clear his position. Being upfront and honest.

How is that compromising on her husband part? His way or no way really doesn't sound like compromising.

I cant tell him to compromise can I? I would if I could, as its the best way to keep money 'in the family'. Unfortunately I'm not telepathically linked to the soon to be ex husband, so I can only tell the OP.


'His way or no way' isn't the answer.


It's in essence 'his way or the courts way', however if his way is better than what she gets via court (once costs are calculated) then his way is her best option. If not, go via the courts.