OH wants a separation. I have no job. HELP!

zippy1997

leespot wrote: »

Job 1 would get you what you are looking for at the moment - a nice way to break back into the working environment, should be low pressure, not having the hassle of taking your work worries home etc. Also answers your concerns about the dog etc.

Job 2 seems to be something you'd be better looking at again once things have settled down and you've adjusted to your new life?

I've just spoken to my sister and dad (separately) and they both say the same thing. I think my gut is also going in that direction. Job 1.

leespot

Best of luck and well done. I remember my mum making that same first step when my parents divorced - not as easy as people think is it. Sounds like you've got a supportive family around you too which is always nice.

zippy1997

leespot wrote: »

Best of luck and well done. I remember my mum making that same first step when my parents divorced - not as easy as people think is it. Sounds like you've got a supportive family around you too which is always nice.

Thanks.

Well, I've just (kind of) accepted the B&Q one! Just need to receive the email and then go and sign the paperwork/get work clothes.

I've cancelled the other interview for later, as after checking out the details & website it's pretty standard carer stuff and if I've decided against the one this morning it won't be any different and will just waste all our time.

ETA: yeah, my family are pretty good! My sister is coming to CAB with me and my dad is coming to the solicitor with me. Probably the right way round there as well!

annandale

Surely if you worked shifts you'd still be able to work the dog walking around those shifts? Also you and your husband haven't actually split yet. He still needs to take some responsibility for the family pet. You wouldn't get working tax credits with job 2 but you'd be earning more money to start with.

annandale

Paying National insurance contributions isn't a bad thing tbh.

annandale

I don't know how much you'll get in child tax credits but you'll get around 250 a month in working tax credits.

It's not a huge sum of money on top of part time wages, assuming it's min wage?

elsien

Another possibility to bear in mind for the future - go onto the care home books as a relief/bank member of staff.
It might be a bit thrown in at the deep end, because training for relief staff tends to be less good than for permanent staff members, but it would give you an insight into the job and whether it's something you want to do full time further down the line.
That's if their shift patterns fit in with the job you've accepted, as some care homes do 12 hour shifts, (which I always think is unfair on the people being looked after aside from anything else.)

jamiehelsinki

Op,

What sort of income does your husband earn?

What sort of pension money has he accumulated?

Reading your first post there is about 150k to split?

leespot

jamiehelsinki wrote: »

Op,

What sort of income does your husband earn?

What sort of pension money has he accumulated?

Reading your first post there is about 150k to split?

There might be money to be split when the house is sold, but that might not be for a while?

zippy1997

annandale wrote: »

I don't know how much you'll get in child tax credits but you'll get around 250 a month in working tax credits.

It's not a huge sum of money on top of part time wages, assuming it's min wage?

Thanks. At the moment, after thinking myself and talking to others, I think I need to work my way up. I know that's not for everyone, but right now I have so much to think about I need to prioritize and gaining some work experience plus earning feels right for now.
I will still be looking for full time work.