Paris Metro ticket - possible proof of an affair

Knightsuntold

Pollycat wrote: »

Ah!

This additional information does put a slightly different shine on the situation.

But I think the key thing is the bit in bold.
It's possible that she was a bunny boiler, rejected and out for revenge.

I didn't think you were 'barking', by the way.

I hope you manage to get past this (totally understandable, at least by me) distrust.

I wasn't going to give the additional info, as I literally just wanted help with the ticket, but this has ended up being amazing. So cathartic and it's really helping to clarify my thoughts and work things through. I've even had another extreme thought - it's possible that she put the ticket in his bag, as it's in the very end, flat pocket that really isn't useful for anything, and is the only one that doesn't have some sort of closure on it.

Thank you for the "not barking" comment.

gabriel1980

has his mum been to Paris?

Pollycat

fairy_lights wrote: »

That is all pretty damning evidence, I don't blame you for feeling insecure, I don't think I would know what to believe if faced with all that.
How did the other woman react when her plan failed and she didn't break you up? If she really is a total psycho I can't imagine she would have backed off quietly.

TBH, I don't see it as that damning.

The OP has explained how this woman could have been in possession of a lot of this information, she may even have picked the OP's OH's phone up and read some of his messages to his wife so knew how to sign off texts.

She did slip up - because she didn't know the OP was with her OH when she said she was.

Pollycat

gabriel1980 wrote: »

has his mum been to Paris?

Have you read the original post?

Knightsuntold

k3lvc wrote: »

And I'm in Paris at the moment with my more recently purchased (prob 6 months ago) carnet in front of me and I certainly wouldn't be putting any credence on timings/code readings from tickets.


To the OP I'd be concentrating on the current/future rather than looking to pick holes in the past - obviously all men are !!!!!!!s/not to be trusted etc (I speak as one) but you'll get your answers from current behaviour/monitoring if that's what you choose to do

I was doing a good job of looking forward, and getting ready for a weekend away, but this has knocked me a bit. As for the answers from current behaviour, I don't seem to be very good at reading them. I really don't want to go down the monitoring route.

Knightsuntold

paddy's_mum wrote: »

Knightsuntold wrote: »

I know the majority of people on here think I'm barking

wrong!!!

Only those few who don't know how it feels to have one's everything almost destroyed by some utterly selfish swine (of either gender) who has puuped on you from a great height...but you have survived the fall-out and lived to tell the tale.

Those who have been-there-done-that understand completely and the opinion/advice of those who have not (as yet ) experienced it doesn't count for much.

Pain is not made less in the human heart just because millions of other people have also already experienced it. If you are truly "barking" then so am I so welcome to my world. :rotfl:

Thank you so much.

I did live to tell the tale, but it changed me, and I hate that so much.

And I am totally barking.., we share the same world.

Knightsuntold

rach_k wrote: »

Why don't you ask MIL which bag she used when she went to Paris? If you don't want to mention the ticket, say you found some Euros or something in it so you're wondering if they could be hers (you might have to be prepared to hand the money over if you go with that option!), as you think your partner had a new bag by then.

I honestly don't think she'd remember, as it's about 5 years ago, if not a bit more. She generally sails in and goes to the spare room, announcing "I need a bag for a trip or two", and I'm frantically galloping after her, trying to hide the dust!

Pollycat

If you can, assume that your OH wasn't having an affair and has never been unfaithful.

You confronted him at the time and he denied it.
You say you've been wary ever since.

You also say you had been looking forward to a weekend away but this has knocked you a bit.

Unless he's totally oblivious or you're an Oscar-winning actress, he's bound to realise that something is not quite right.

How would you feel if you were totally innocent and it's clear that your partner doesn't believe you?

Glad to hear that 'talking' about this is helping.
You really are not the only person to have gone through betrayal.

z1a

k3lvc wrote: »

And I'm in Paris at the moment with my more recently purchased (prob 6 months ago) carnet in front of me and I certainly wouldn't be putting any credence on timings/code readings from tickets.


To the OP I'd be concentrating on the current/future rather than looking to pick holes in the past - obviously all men are !!!!!!!s/not to be trusted etc (I speak as one) but you'll get your answers from current behaviour/monitoring if that's what you choose to do

Just a shot in the dark, but are the last 2 digits on your ticket 16?
Wondering if that may be the year of printing, in which case ops ticket would tally with MIL 5 years ago.

Knightsuntold

fairy_lights wrote: »

That is all pretty damning evidence, I don't blame you for feeling insecure, I don't think I would know what to believe if faced with all that.
How did the other woman react when her plan failed and she didn't break you up? If she really is a total psycho I can't imagine she would have backed off quietly.

It was damning, but all of it could be explained. She even described our bedroom, but again, there's a pic on social media, where I took a photo of a dress hanging up. Behind it is a mirrored door. I practically turned into Sherlock bloody Holmes, trying to piece everything together.

She didn't back off quietly. There were a number of anonymous complaints made to my partner's work, all of which were investigated, and he was cleared of, but the pressure was awful. We had 36 calls to his mobile on Christmas Day. My car was vandalised. I had flowers delivered in work on Valentine's Day, and rang to thank him, only he hadn't sent them. I got text messages telling me that blue suited me, when I'd been wearing a blue dress. Anything and everything that went wrong, she got the blame for. Another girl that works in the firm told me to watch my back, and she intimated that the other girl had form for this, but wouldn't give me anything concrete. It wasn't just the things that happened, it was the fear of what could happen. Then it all stopped, as suddenly as it started. I think I saw her with another man, but I couldn't swear to it - it was just a fleeting glimpse.