Paris Metro ticket - possible proof of an affair

duchy

I do think if you've never encountered someone who is indeed that crazy- yet seems entirely normal and plausible in every other way -it is very hard to believe.......however they DO exist and more commonly than you'd think.
A quiet obsession is a very scary thing -worse in many ways than someone who is clearly demented. The look of disbelief on people's faces when you tell them what they did .....often they think YOU are the crazy one because it is so hard for most people to believe.

-taff

I know someone who used to e-mail and text her ex, pretending to be 2 different people [setting up new e-mail accounts and buying new phones/sim cards] and discussing how great she was, how many wonderful things she'd done. She also drove to his house, put his window through, told his girlfriend they'd slept together, ordered takeaways for him every week, threatened him with being beaten up by her bigger male friends.
In her case, she felt she had justification for what she did.

I suppose that doesn't really help you, but some people will appear totally normal, but are really a bit psycho....Talking to this person mentioned above, you'd swear she was everything nice and good, but knowing her, she is a compulsive liar both to herself and to others, and if she believes she has been slighted, will go to extreme lengths to redress the balance. And I mean extreme. To the extent of false accusations to the police, social services etc etc...

It does happen.

Cloudydaze

duchy wrote: »

I do think if you've never encountered someone who is indeed that crazy- yet seems entirely normal and plausible in every other way -it is very hard to believe.......however they DO exist and more commonly than you'd think.

I'm sure they do. Just as good looking, charismatic charmers who cheat on their partners do.

From what the OP has said, her OH is successful at his job which seems be jetting around the country and schmoozing people. I don't think it's beyond the realms of possibility that this charismatic charmer is lying to the OP. It's certainly more plausible than a successful PA turning into a bunny boiler.

Knightsuntold wrote: »

My partner is a good-looking guy, with a great personality and very charismatic - he's the type that can silence a room by just clearing his throat. He can be charming, and he can be flirty, but to me, it's all within reason.

carefullycautious

If you show him this ticket he is sure to say it is his mothers. So you would still not know if he is lying or not


From reading all of this I conclude that this woman took revenge for an affair that never got off the ground. He admitted that they had kissed and I think in her mind she wanted more.


What's that saying 'Hell has no fury like a woman scorned'


I really do think this applies. If you think about it PAs spend more time with their managers than their own families do.


All you are doing is making yourself ill over what ifs.


In your shoes I would go into counselling to make myself stronger emotionally.

jamiehelsinki

Op is it also possible that with your lack of trust issues, your husband might also lie to you about where he's going and who with for innocent work purposes because he knows your lack of trust.

He might even have told his former pa about your trust issues in the past!

gettingtheresometime

Cloudydaze wrote: »

From what the OP has said, her OH is successful at his job which seems be jetting around the country and schmoozing people. I don't think it's beyond the realms of possibility that this charismatic charmer is lying to the OP. It's certainly more plausible than a successful PA turning into a bunny boiler.

I don't know what the partner does for a living but from personal experience I've seen my hubby turn on the charm in the line of his job only to breath a sigh of relief when the person he's done the charm offensive on has gone.

duchy

Cloudydaze wrote: »

I'm sure they do. Just as good looking, charismatic charmers who cheat on their partners do.

From what the OP has said, her OH is successful at his job which seems be jetting around the country and schmoozing people. I don't think it's beyond the realms of possibility that this charismatic charmer is lying to the OP. It's certainly more plausible than a successful PA turning into a bunny boiler.

And that response was EXACTLY what I was talking about

burnoutbabe

your partner could prove he was in Bristol on those dates somehow if he wanted to? Get a copy of his expense claims maybe or company credit card statement which showed some spending in that location.

You could say this women has contacted you to say he was with her on x date and whilst you believe him, you want some evidence to dispute her once and for all.

(yes not fair on this other person but she is not exactly innocent here).

If you don't trust him, you don't trust him and i can't see the relationship going well if you don't believe him. May as well get this issue resolved and move on from there (with or without him). Hiding how you feel about things isn't helpful for you, (whether you are correct or not).

FBaby

your partner could prove he was in Bristol on those dates somehow if he wanted to?

This is a very good point. You said a lot about how she tried to convince you that the affair had taken place, but how much effort did he put into proving that he was elsewhere? Surely it would have been very easy for him to prove that he was wherever he said, show a work email confirming the trip and more importantly hotel receipt, even if it was arranged by work.

I know that if my OH told me that one of my colleagues had contacted him with allegations that he was with me somewhere I wasn't, it would take me no time at all to gather everything I could to prove I was where I said I was.

Spendless

I've been to Paris on several occasions and I've NEVER been on the Metro or bought a ticket in anticipation of travelling on it. You'd soon know that about me if you ever asked me about a metro ticket found in a bag I may or may not have borrowed.

Why not just get MIL into conversation about her trip to Paris and if she ever traveled on the metro or intended to, you'd soon get an answer if it's a possibility she purchased it. (I know I'm not the first person to suggest this)